what is a good way to dicipline children i tried rewarding good behavior and taking away privileges?

Answer 1

It depends how old they are first off. If they're younger than 7, rewarding is good, but it they need to know that not every good deed will be rewarded in life. Taking away privalges like tv, desserts, books, music, etc. is a good strategy.

But if a friend comes over, don't punish the other kid by saying they have to leave, let them stay for only one hour, maybe two.

Spanking always works, and no, it isn't abuse unless you do it out of anger, limit under five swats, and add one more everytime they do it again. But the next day start back at five. Don't spank in front of the friends or relatives, take them outside. And if that doesn't work, tell them to pick your tool, it'll bury the punishment even deeper into their minds and will make them snap out of whatever they're doing.

You could also make them write something like "I will not ____" so many times if they are older than 9. at 9, 50 times. at 10, 100 times, you get the point. I cheated on a test and though my teacher never found out, i confessed to my dad and he had me write "I will not cheat" 500 times. If it is a big number of times, set a time limit to when you "except it on your desk", such as Saturday morning if the punishment if given on Thursday night.

Let them pick their punishment, give them two options. They have to be even or they might get off easy.

Sit them in a corner. It'll work for any age, even older tweens, because they'll see they're being treated like a child because they acted like one. (make sure you set a timer, I once was put in the corner and left there for an hour. Mom completely forgot about me because she was watching tv in her room. I still crack up when she tells me that story.)

Unplug their computers, phones, stereos, tv's, etc. in case they try to sneak behind your back and ignore their punishment.

Wash their mouth out with soap for five minutes. Just stick it in their mouth with a towel under their chin and walk off. No, it's won't hurt them, it'll just taste nasty. Go with plain by the way, the flavors should be avioded because of the fragrances.

Give them a chore that they usually don't do and really loathe.

Oh, and if they're acting up in a restaurant (a.k.a. kicking, screaming, hitting) don't be afraid to slap them in the mouth. It'll get it over quick, and they won't cry forever. If they cry longer than two minutes, take them outside and let them cry out there. No one likes a squalling child.

Yelling always comes in somewhere along the lines, but if you yell everytime you punish them, they will be terrified of you. Keep your cool!!

Lastly, make sure they know why you're punishing them, and only do it if it is a reasonable wrong. Like interrupting shouldn't be punished, only whisper to stop doing it in their ear, or gently slap them in the back of the head. Smae thing applies when they didn't say please, thank you, mister, or missus.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Depends on the child. I have 4. The oldest talking to works. The next one taking away things, then if that doesn't work spanking. The 3rd you have to get down on her level and look her in the eyes, then ask her to repeat it back to you. I tell her no more warnings last time, if she does the thing again she goes to her room and sits on her bed. Time to think about it. NO toys in bed either it is like a time out.
The last one too tiny, I am sure we will try all of the above though!

Answer 3

Spanking does not work, I know I tried it for years. All it does is teaches children to hit others. Time out works for my five year old but not my nine year old. For my older one taking away social things like not going to friends house, phone privledges etc. Also I tell she is ground for a specific amount of time like three days or a week and throughout that time she has to do positive things to "earn" back privledges.

Answer 4

It really depends on the age of the child. Time out for younger children works really well. Don't punish older children by making them go to their room, it's not really a punishment because there is probably a lot of fun stuff to do.Writing sentences based on the offense, my children hate this. Also giving extra chores is a is also a option. Spanking is also a option for children as a last resort of a really bad offence..

Answer 5

The key to discipline is being consistent and doing what you say you are going to do. If you tell the child that she won't watch TV for 3 days, then you have to not let her watch TV for 3 days. You can't say, "you've been a good girl so I'll let you watch TV for awhile". You have to stick to your plan no matter what. Your child will know you mean business if you never back down from a punishment. I know its difficult to do, but its for the good of the entire family to stick to your guns. Your child will be less likely to misbehave if he/she knows that when you say no dessert for a week that you MEAN NO DESSERT FOR A WEEK..PERIOD!

Answer 6

There is no right answer. Kids are all different. Some react well to rewards.Some need to be grounded, some need harsher punishments. Some need nothing more than a stern glance. I know its no help but no matter what anyone tells you, youre on your own here.

Answer 7

Spanking their butts
Spraying lemon juice in their mouths for things like spitting, biting, or bad language
making them do chores
sending them to their rooms for the rest of the day even if they miss a meal

Answer 8

we had 3 kids and each needed different discipline

spanking worked for one
holding their face and talking while we made them look in our eyes worked for one
time out in the corner worked for one

there is no 'one answer' for kids.. but parents need to be on the same page with one another, and then carry thru with what you say... don't say you will do something , and not do it... or they will continue to push your buttons.

Answer 9

Have you tried spanking?

Answer 10

time out!!
i spank for big things as well