started dating this guy about a month and a half ago.Everythings been great untilon wed, i went to my gf's house to watch a movie and when I was leaving i called him and he told me to call him when I got home to make sure i got home safe(it was snowing)but I ended up falling asleep as soon as i hit the bed.he called me about an hour laterand he was Sh** faced drunk with his buddies.he had asked me on wed if i wanted to hang out on thurs and we had plans to watch a movie.when I asked him wed just to make sure we were still hanging out, he said maybe and I got kinda angry with him.He ended up hanging up on me,so i called back,he hung up again so i called back until he picked up(i know thats bad)he picked up and said that he couldnt do this and when i said does that mean we're broken up he said i guess so and hung up.I am so hurt and confused by this!What should i do? he wont pick up my calls!I really want to talk to him about this, but how.he hasnt even told anyone that we broke up
2007-03-02 02:36:52 · 15 answers · asked by sallyh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
btw im 20, hes 24
2007-03-02 02:37:05 · update #1
I say u should just move on and don't call him! let him realize his mistake and trust me he will call u... some guys are just rude and thats unfortunate tht happened to u... anyways like i said don't call him cuz then he will get cocky that u keep calling him over and over...
2007-03-02 02:42:54 · answer #1 · answered by chi_twnchica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a guy is drunk, we tend to say a lot of things that we do not mean. Some times we just get caught up in the moment and what you did by calling and calling was very wrong because that is just childish. You should never fight or get into a discussion when he is drunk for this same reason. You should of just let it go and asked the question again when he was not drunk. You should just talk to him about it and let him know just what you were trying to ask . When I get drunk and I know I am going to get drunk. I tell my girlfriend that I am going to get drunk with my friend and i well call you tomorrow, I will call her when i get home just let her know i made it OK but that all that is said. I have been in big fights with her and the are not pretty when i am drunk and then wake up feeling like an ***.
2007-03-02 03:06:27 · answer #2 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need a few days to cool down first. Then you need to try to talk calmly. Discuss the issue....as soon as you knew he was drunk (I know it's easier said than done), the best answer would have been ok when he say maybe about Thrusday. Don't keep the conversation going, it just gets worse if they were drinking. I know from experience. He was with his friends too which means he has to show how tough he can be in front of them. Talk to him in a day or two have a heart to heart and let him know how it made you feel that he talked to you like that and apologize for getting upset with him as well. (My ex like this half the time didn't remember he got mad at me when he was drinking). If he does that alot, get out cause it's not gonna change. Just an FYI.
2007-03-02 02:47:26 · answer #3 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say, find someone new! he is no good. he went out with his friends and got drunk. my boyfriend wouldn't do that. he doesn't get drunk unless he's with me,a nd even then he's pretty careful about it. your boyfriend doesn't take your relationship seriously. you can either find a way to make him jealous, and realize what he's gonna lose if you leave him, or leave him. and i suggest leaving him. you're too young to be worried abotu some guy right now. go have a whole bunch of boyfriends, and be single! it is so fun, and then you wont have to worry about some stupid drunk guy breaking his plans and breakingup with you for no reason. plus, he shouldnt be hanging up on you. find a place where you just wont take it anymore. your last straw, one more time and he's out. in a relationship you should be happy and not confused or hurt. happy in love, and if its not like that kick him to the curb!
2007-03-02 02:46:00 · answer #4 · answered by theskyisthelimit02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady, you don't need to do anything. The relationship is as good as ended. Move on & find someone better who wants you in their lives. Don't settle for someone who's half-hearted or treats you with disrespect or go begging. I know you're hurt and confused but calling him back trying to figure it out will only get you hurt even more. You don't need to know why as long as you know it was not your fault - and it's NOT your fault. Don't go taking the blame for his asinine behaviour. His loss. You're free to find someone better and more worthy of your time and affection. Oh- and start telling everyone you've broken up. He made that decision very clear to you. Sorry, some relationships end nicely and some badly. It's unfortunate you met someone who could not care less how they hurt you. Take heart, there's someone better out there. Bless you dear.
2007-03-02 02:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's some advice....GROW UP ALREADY! Aren't you too old to be playing these stupid highschool games? You don't talk to a man when he's drunk. You do not push his buttons when he's drunk. You do not expect anything coherent out of him when he's drunk. And especially do not expect anything out of him when he's out with his buddies and they're drunk and egging him on. NEVER, EVER, call a man until he answers. That makes you clingy and psycho. You are broken up...find a new man, learn from your mistakes, and don't do this crap with the new guy.
2007-03-02 02:41:40 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT chase him. Do not call him, or go and see him. If he wants you back, he will be calling you. Many guys don't like when a woman chases them, and probably, he'll be wondering WHY you aren't! If you just started dating, it's not even worth the hassle anyway. Just move on and find someone who will not play these silly games.
2007-03-02 02:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is a jerk...maybe...you both are young and full of energy that in the future you wont have..live it now..if he is not considering your feelings then dont give in to his nonsense..get someone who wants to hang with you...have fun and look to the future coz years slip by quickly and so on...etc...let him call you and beg.....control him a little men need that coz they usually screw up with socially with talking feelings with you..etc..peace..i think i love you already......kiss kiss and a hug
2007-03-02 06:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by KING C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like HE has the problem, and you should forget this one.
Not much time invested, and be glad his attitude showed up early.
2007-03-02 02:41:50 · answer #9 · answered by outtahere2day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him some time to cool off...since he said that he guess's yall are broken up then have fun if he wants to have a relationship with you then let him call you dont DONT call him!!!
2007-03-02 02:54:43 · answer #10 · answered by christie. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋