im sad, more that i ever been!!! well the story goes on like this:
i am 20, and away from my family, studing in abroad. i live alone, i have no job becuz in this country there is no job opportunity for foreigners thus my dad is sending me the fee amount i spend.
There is someone whom i dont know, and that person went to my mom and said like "You know what the hell your son is doing there? he is like spending whole his time with prostitutes, he is like addicted to heroin, smoking, always drunk and and ....
but who i am really???? im exactly 180 degree opposite to what that person said. my mom called me and she is like i know everything about you and i am 100% sure. well i was like justify myself but i dont know how that person effected my mom that she doesnt want to hear ANYTHING ABOUT ME!! SHE IS LIKE YOU ARE NOT MY SON ANYMORE, SHE IS NOT CALLING ME, SHE DOESNT WANT TO EVEN MEET ME ANYMORE. SHE SAID YOU ARE REMOVED FROM MY MIND, YOU DONT EXIST FOR ME ANYMORE.... come on God!!
2007-03-02 02:28:50 · 19 answers · asked by hacker_d26i 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
come on! ppl please help me. this sucks. my family blame me in something that i have never ever done. my mom doesnt believe any of my words, ANY OF THEM!!! my dad is not going to believe my either. i guess so. my family is getting ruined becuz of nothing, NOTHING!!! what do i have to do???? what should i do????? my mom doesnt say anything about that person, she just resist that she is sure 100%.......... help me! please :((((((((
2007-03-02 02:32:24 · update #1
tnx those ppl who answered my question. please folks, i need ur help, 2~3 days passed but still nothings changed :((
2007-03-04 16:42:30 · update #2
are you really telling the truth? i checked out the questions you have asked and you've said that you are 18 yrs. old, once you said that you're a 46 yr. old women, you like hurting your girlfriend...i think you are just asking this question to get attention...stop lying...
2007-03-08 10:31:26 · answer #1 · answered by love*pink 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry that this has happened to you. My heart goes out because I was kinda in the same situatin as yuo are now. All you can do is try to communicate with her and show her that what that person had told her is a lie. Your mom will come around, she maybe just shocked at what she was told by this person. Give her another day or two to calm down and then call her ans tell her that you really need to talk to her, and tell het that you love her and that you would ever do anything like that. I am sure that she still loves you too. Juat give her some time. It will al work out in the end...
2007-03-09 19:37:01 · answer #2 · answered by tide chic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! That is a sad situation for sure!! Just be strong!!! You HAVE GOT TO KEEP SENDING YOUR FAMILY PROOF OF YOUR REAL LIFE!! Tape your days, write a journal, send them tapes for a whole week. Then, send them proof of your homework, tests, movie tickets- ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING. If after a week of sending them all of these things that proof you are not doing anything wrong they still dont want to believe you, you must make a desition; either you leave where you are right now and go and finish school somewhere else, or continue your education where you are and be prepared to become a stronger man- all by yourself. I hope you dont have to go through all that in vain, but I really think that after you have done everything there is to be done- you have to get up and learn to be strong. Im sure your family will see their mistake and will ask for forgivness. Ge ready....
2007-03-02 12:14:33 · answer #3 · answered by miss1983 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Mom needs to meet with you and see for herself what you have become. Moms have a way of knowing what we are doing because she was once young too. nevertheless she should not just wash her hands of you! You are her son and if in fact you have a substance abuse or sexual addiction problem and on top of that they are paying for everything you need some professional help and the love and support of your family! I wish you the best, you are so young! Don't give up! you're better than that and most importantly if your lifestyles is in need of some changing for the better, do it for yourself, not for your family, or it will never work.
2007-03-10 07:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by byotch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important part is your well being.By best guess is yo write a letter to your family explaining that you would understand if all that stuff were true,but it's not.Tell them you don't understand why they would disown you after all the years they have known you.Tell them if something were to happen to anyone you would feel sad because no one would care about you.Ask them why you have to loose you family because of what someone else said [and could not prove].Maybe try to email them or write them a letter,I'm sure they will read it.I truly hope you don't loose your family,but if they don't listen it will only make you a stronger person for the future.The best of luck to you.
2007-03-09 15:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by cynomynG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother wouldn't disown you simply based on remarks - even from a trusted friend. There has to be more there... in terms of evidence or reasons to suspect it is true.
Perhaps your mother has been thinking this might be true for awhile. She might have been picking up on little clues from conversations with you or noticing how your body language has changed. These remarks from a friend would only confirm her fears.
You say there is nothing to the stories. Well, you must have people that your parents know who could vouch for you. Ask them to speak to your parents. If there is anything at all true about the stories, just consider yourself caught (busted!) and know that you'll have to live with the consequences of that.
2007-03-09 08:12:11 · answer #6 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats harsh! The only thing you can do at this point is be successful and prove to them that you werent hanging out with the prostitutes and doing drugs...blah blah blah. Get on the honors programs and graduate as the top person. It will make your parents see that you put your mind to it.
If you want someone to talk to just email me or send me a message on Yahoo Messager! :)
2007-03-09 10:23:36 · answer #7 · answered by fireworksncastles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart feels for you as you are in need of your families love and support. I guess what this comes down to is what you feel is more important to you. Staying away from your family for your education or going home to your family. You could go home and prove yourself to your parents through your actions. Most people know how pathetic a herion addict looks and well if you're healthy looking and not showing any signs of addiction then that's proof enough. You could even volunteer to take home drug testing kits for further proof. Personally it sounds like to me that someone is jealous of you and your family in order for them to lie and hurt your parents. Considering your parents don't believe you, you must find ways to prove your innocence. You could save all reciepts for any purchases made and mail them to your parents to account for where you money is going. Maybe call or write a trusted family member (sibling,cousin,aunt,uncle) explaining the situation and your innocence. Ask for their assistance in rekindling your family. They might even be able to enlighten you as to why and who. These are just a few ideas that you could try to prove you're trustworthy. Stay strong and keep your head up. Good Luck & God Bless!
2007-03-02 10:56:33 · answer #8 · answered by zero 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are studying abroad then go to 2 or 3 of your favorite teachers, confide in them what has happened. Ask if they would write to your parents about your grades, your character... the things that support that what this cruel person is saying about you is not true.
If you are a religious man.. talk to others that you regularly see at religious functions.. as the same of them, to write to your parents and tell them what a fine son they have. One that wold never do these things. he other man is a liar that is trying to cause heartache in your family.
Good Luck & God Bless you
2007-03-07 10:20:04 · answer #9 · answered by larsgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for what you are going through! nobody should go through that ever! especially when she is your mother... your flesh and blood! Well the guy that said all those $hitty things about you is only jealous becuase you got it going for you and he does not! he is probably the one sleeping with the prostitutes, doing heroin and all that sick stuff! and now your mom is going to believe that jealous bastard...complete stranger! well I know someone just like you, my mom, her mom does not even care to ask how my mom is doing, and that is not good! well just talk to your mom and ask her why she has to put you through this mess, and why she is going to believe this man that just appeared off the face of the earth!!!!
2007-03-08 14:38:37 · answer #10 · answered by smith_kallissa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont call your mom, go to her personally and explain everything and if she is failing to understand, just say to her, okey ' do you prefer and trust outside people than hearing the truth from your own son ? because all you are hearing its not true. Believe me you, she will get back to her senses especially when she looks at you in your face and still ask her if she sees any signs of any abuse in you face.
2007-03-09 07:11:40 · answer #11 · answered by mathandashukela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋