I'm not in a rush to get married just take the next step and get engaged.Am I not who he want to be with? Someone tell me why he will not ask? We have lived together for the last 2 years. I just need to know I'm not wasting my time. Tell me how to get him to commit.
2007-03-02 02:25:31 · 21 answers · asked by Sara8ann 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you made the mistake of moving in with him prior to making engagement a prerequisite. Some guys are commitment phobic - and now that you live with him what is there to make him want to change things? Also, he may not be sure yet that you are "the one".
2007-03-02 02:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by lunasage 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately no one can answer the question of if you're the one he wants to be with. Only he has the answer to that question. You also can't force him to propose to you. You pushing the subject on him is going to scare him away if it hasn't already. Stop pushing the subject of engagement on him or one day you'll look up and your apartment for 2 will be occupied by 1....you. If you want commitment so much from him, why not buy him a ring and ask him for more of a commitment and see what he says. You seem like you want what you want and never mind what he wants or feels. When he feels the time is right and if you're the person he really wants to be with, he will ask. Until then, relax. The man comes home to you every night doesn't he, so what is the problem. Then again think of it this way, why does he have to marry you, he's already living with you. Why buy the cow when he's getting the milk for free. Dah!!!!!
2007-03-02 02:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How good is your communication? Do both of you communicate well, sincerely opening your heart to each other? If you do you won,t have problem confronting him politely whether he is serious to take you to the alter. Besides you have lived with him for two years, to have survive, endured that long also mean that you love him and he love you. You also know him better so you can tell exactly why he hasn,t taken that decision yet. Is he shy, how does he treat you? Are you suspicious he may have found someone else? Does it show in his actions toward you? The only solution is communication. If he was someone you just met i would say don,t be too forward but this is someone you have lived with for two years! Girl, brace up and ask him whether the relationship will lead to marriage soonest, don,t wait for him to ask! it is your life, don.t waste the years!
2007-03-02 02:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by lovely 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you in a rush to get engaged and why is marriage such a goal for you that you feel that you're "wasting [your] time" if your boyfriend doesn't want to get married?
Try talking to him about this, there could be a lot of factors why he hasn't asked you. He's not sure of himself, he wants to establish himself in his career, he's saving up money to buy a ring and propose a certain way, any number of reasons.
Then again, it's very possible that he never wants to get married; some guys and girls don't. You need to find out what HE wants before you ask us to "get him to commit" to something that YOU want. It sounds harsh, but it's not all about you.
Besides, what's stopping you from asking him for what you want and letting him take time to decide what he wants?
2007-03-02 02:58:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want To Make Him do anything!! You need to know what HE wants before you have a baby or waste anymore time with him. You could be in school or finding more excitement now if he doesn't want to even get engaged!! Ask him exactly what you wrote about here. Do not force him because you will just get hurt!! You can't make him love you and marry you if he doesn't want to. You need to be free to find someone who wants what you want.
2007-03-02 02:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't 'make' him commit to you. just see how he feels about it too. Perhaps, bring it up in a conversation one day.
don't lay on too thick though, you might scare him away!! maybe just mention that you're ready to take another step, because you really do love him. just be sure that you let him know that you're not looking at getting into anything too serious though. some people are still a little scared about making such a big comittment.
You could always propose to him...
2007-03-02 02:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by medusaaddams 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i dont want to sound harsh but you dont want to Get him to ask you. You want him to ask you because he Wants to ask you.So trying to think of ways to manipulate this situation so that he asks you is not going to work. truthfully. any advice someone gives you that tells you how to manipulate this situation is never going to work. Let your relationship play itself out. Because you choose to live with him, he may be at a good comfort zone and may not be really thinking about marriage. if by next year or within the next 18 months the subject never comes i might gently broach the subject then, but to try to think of ways to get him to marry you will only lead to you trying to a manipulate a "man" to do something he may not be ready to do yet. you did not saying anything about how solid your bond is, do you both worship, how do you both manage the household bill money? all of these things that he may be considering from a guys perspective. Like where do you work, is your job stable, is his job stable, is he happy with his job, how do both of you get along with each others family? Marriage is not going together. it is suppose to be permanent. and in todays world where people get married and divorced within 4 or 5 months and/or years, maybe he is taking all of these factors into consideration. Is he a traditionalist, is he conservative, does he vote, is he a liberal, are you prejudice? Now a days people may have one or more relatives in their family that may be african american or caucasian,. so he may have a lot of friends of different coultures or race and may wonder how you will fit into his life, or how will he fit into yours? have you asked yourself any of these questions? Please read this intently because i am telling you marriage is serious. You are actually standing before God telling him that you plan to spend the rest of your life with this person. So look at all the variables and dont riush into anything. I mean you did not tell you age but are you 99? cause if you are not 99 then you have plenty of time to make a right desicion and so does your man. peace and blessings
2007-03-02 02:50:44 · answer #7 · answered by PhatBeatz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
in simple terms be certain you're particularly constructive that it particularly is what you prefer. the two women I knew suited who have been given engaged collectively as in college ended up having serious doubts concerning to the relationship by the time they graduated, yet felt they had to get married in simple terms because of the fact it replace into what that they had promised earlier. The marriages did not even final 2 complete years earlier they ended up divorced. so some distance as whether or to not ask the mum and dad, that particularly relies upon on how your mom and dad, your boyfriend, and you sense approximately it. i'm noticeably constructive my mom and dad might have in simple terms discovered it awkward if my husband had asked them. on the different hand, i understand human beings see it as a demonstration of comprehend in direction of the mum and dad. i think of it in simple terms relies upon on how classic your loved ones is. i think of if he does ask, it may well be carried out in individual.
2016-12-18 04:07:42 · answer #8 · answered by vogt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are dumb. He probably hasn't even thought about it. Hes probably satisfied just living with you. He wants to be with you but guys don't catch on to things like that. You should just bring the subject up subtly so as not to scare the piss out of him. If hes smart enough he'll get the hint. Good luck !
2007-03-02 02:29:35 · answer #9 · answered by theblonchic 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he's not ready for commitment the time will come.......I thought you where not in a rush to get married....or maybe he's planning for it you just have to wait......don't hurry love
2007-03-02 02:30:29 · answer #10 · answered by sexsired 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋