I don't care if it is rude...
I'm not spending $50 a plate for a kid. That plate can count towards one of my friends.
We decided to get married last week on March 18, 2007....(16 more days) After being engaged since Aug. 2005.
People aren't RSVPing...I didnt send out invites but im calling everyone that is invited. We are only allowed 50 people to the reception and only 25 @ the ceremony.
2007-03-02 02:22:59 · 39 answers · asked by A Person I am 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
About the invitations...DO YOU WANT TO GIVE ME MONEY TO BUY THEM? BECAUSE IM BROKE!
And I DO have a SON! I know how it is to have kids...I wouldnt take my son to my friends wedding... So i dont expect family to bring KIDS either!
My mom is being a twit...calling me SELFISH because I don't want to invite kids...
Well you know what LAST WEEK we were going to elope then though ok maybe well invite immidaiate family that turned into inviting some friends and family so now we can have 50 people...Caterer minimum is 50....and they dont give discounts!
2007-03-02 02:46:39 · update #1
Some people are such @$$ holes, it is not rude. I'm saying that as a soon to be bride, and a parent. It's a personal decision, I've also decisded not to have children at my wedding, with the exception of my son. If people don't like it then they don't have to come.
2007-03-02 03:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not offended by people excluding my children from weddings or any other celebrations for that matter. Though finding a babysitter that I can actually afford can be tough, I usually enjoy the break from being a mommy for a few hours.
We opted to have children at our wedding, but it was a morning wedding, and afternoon reception, we had 200 people, and kids' plates were $12.95. Also, there weren't a lot of kids to invite.
If you are concerned about rude or proper, get invitations out. By addressing the invites to "Mr and Mrs. XX", then it implies that only the people on the invitation are invited. The correct way to include children would be to address "Mr and Mrs. XX and family". Include RSVP cards and when you get the strays that indicate they are bringing the kids, you can call and address them personally.
Calling people to invite them to a wedding is just lame. My first marriage was to a completely tactless alcoholic loser (don't ask... I moved on), and even he had enough class to send invitations.
2007-03-02 02:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by GSDJunkie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is not rude!
your invitation should state:
Adult Reception immediately following.... etc. or something to that effect.
You will get calls complaining about this, but kindly explain your space limitation and tell them to see this as a night out with out the kids!
If people are not RSVPing, get on the phone (have groom and parents- even wedding party if necessary) and have people tell you if they are coming or not.
for some reason, people think that they do not have to RSVP!
I think that that is SO SO rude!
Good Luck!
2007-03-02 02:35:56 · answer #3 · answered by chickemama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you just have to tell people when you call them, its your preference and you can do that if you want. However, you do seem to be complainin a lot about the size, but I'm here to tell you from personal experience that thats part of having a wedding, it tends to grow beyond what you thought, you are upset about havin to deal with 50 total...how about 50 extra on the 150 I was expecting? If you want smaller than 50 you pretty much have to elope, you either elope or have a wedding, not much of a middle ground their. anyways, no not rude, inconvientient for some, but not rude.
2007-03-02 09:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not rude. unfortunately most people with children will think that it will be rude because each parent sees his or her own child as the smartest in the world. this is your wedding and your celebration. you are paying for it so you have final say. i will suggest this..keep your wording simple and be very clear. don't just state 'all chidren are not invited' cause that is too broad. have an age limit. for example: all children ages 15 and under are not welcome to attend the celebration (or ceremony and reception). and i say to state it that way because anything else will cause a lot of 'gray' areas for mis-translation. such as 'adults only'. while that is very polite. some parents will just see straight through those words and bring their children anyway. be prepared to deal with rule breakers because there will be some. and also have your wedding late in the evening...like 7 or 8 pm. that is another tactic to use because most parents will not want their children out or up late.
2007-03-02 03:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by cfalways 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it is rude. My brother had no children at his wedding. It was hard for me. I have 2 children under the age of three and we live out of state. Everyone that I would have trusted to watch my kids was going to be at the wedding. I did it though.
Just be aware you are not allowing much time so people may decide to skip the wedding because they can't make arrangements for child care.
Oh and turn away anyone that does bring kids. I was pissed to see a few other kids at the reception.
2007-03-02 02:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by Question Addict 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely not rude at all ... a lot of couples are choosing not to invite children under 12 or 13 because of budgetary or spacial constraints. Make sure you let your guests know that it is an adults only event. If they have a problem with it, you can explain the fact that your budget just won't support a large crowd and you've chosen to have only adults.
2007-03-02 03:23:27 · answer #7 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to invite children, but you must realize most people assume (even if the kid's name isn't on the invite) that their children are also invited.
I'm sure it's the stress of it all, but you sound very upset about this situation. You need to enlist the help of your mom, and just tell her you simply canoot afford to pay for the children's meals, and ask her to stop talking about that subject. Calling her a twit isn't helping you get what you need.
2007-03-02 03:00:35 · answer #8 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Requesting that children stay home is not rude at all. I did this at my wedding 20 years ago and was scoffed at by some of the relatives, but my thinking was its my day, I want to be able to have the people hear me and my husband, not aunt Betty's baby crying. Call me old fashioned but I think that weddings are not a place for children anyways, they get very board and then either get cranky or into trouble. My nieces wedding had a toddler that broke about 4 gifts when he had a tantrum near the gift table.
Enjoy your day, its for the 2 of you and no one else! Congrats!!!
2007-03-02 02:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by Michele T 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. Go ahead and tell them. It doesn't make any financial or common sense to spend $50 a plate on a kid who's not even gonna remember what happened a few months later. 50 is a fairly small number and I would say you need to make the most of it.
2007-03-02 02:27:48 · answer #10 · answered by Think. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋