My GF of a year does not like to see me more than once or maybe 2 times a week. I have not seen her for two weeks for various reasons. I get to see her for one night this weekend, she said 'friday or saturday...you pick' . I treat her really good and she claims she is always like this with guys. She also claims to be inlove with me. Are there any other girls out there who agree with her on not wanting to see your guy too much? How can she claim to be crazy about me and hardly want to see me?
2007-03-02 02:20:34 · 29 answers · asked by john g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OMG, i'd trade places wth ur gf! in my case i really wanna see n be with my man every single day. but the thing is, we r at this moment kinda far due to my studies reason, but we make sure every month to see each other. in your case theres 2 circumstances.: ( my opinion) :
1. maybe she really has problems to see u like, parents that dun allow her, studies, etc... n all.. its not like she doesn't cu at all..\
2. maybe she is just keeping u n using u.. so does shespend ur money excessively or anythig like that? try hinking over. u'll eventually get to the root of this.
matter of fact just ask her urself, n reason her answer, evaluate wats gong on. good luck! (n i belive no couples in love wouldn't wanna c each other... right??)
2007-03-02 02:46:57 · answer #1 · answered by ~ sya ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a hard question...everyone is different, as you know. So it coulb be various things...anywhere from, she has been hurt alot and has her own way of being careful when it comes to guys, or she doesnt like you that much and doesnt watn to hurt your feelings, or she is a slick cheater! But you would think if she liked you alot then she would want nothing more than to spend all of her free time with you! Thats how I am personally... It seems kind of weird. Just have a talk with her, see how things go. But dont stress about it, none of this will matter 10 years from now. Live life to the fullest its too short to worry. Go out and have fun and dont worry about her. If shes the one for you, you will kow it. But do what makes you happy....every minute you waste on being angry, or worried, or upset is 60 seconds of happiness you can never get back! IF shes not keeping you happy, then move on to better things!
2007-03-02 10:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar talk w/my bf. I've lived alone for so long it's difficult to adjust to giving up my space. He and I see each other about 4 times a week and he spends the night at least one night a week (he stays Fri night through late Sun if he can get off work on Sat). Your gf sounds like she demands more time than I do - but I do like to have some time alone. However, even when we don't see each other we spend a lot of time on the phone. Not sure this helps - but I'm willing to bet she just does not want to give up her independence and space.
2007-03-02 10:26:57 · answer #3 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, dude... doesn't sound like love to me. I am in love with my guy have been for 5 years and granted we don't spend every waking moment together but if I don't see him for 2 or 3 days, I start get really sad, I miss him so much, and he misses me too. Even when we first got together we saw each other 3 or more times a week. And called almost everyday.
Really sounds like she's just holding onto you so she has you at her convenince.
2007-03-02 10:25:52 · answer #4 · answered by 2shay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can agree how she feels but it depends on how old you are sometimes we need to be alone if we don't feel like we know ourselves that much some people may find their inner strengh by themselves so they can trust a relationship but actually it should be that you grow together talk to her about it also try to find out if it happened something between you in the time when she stopped be with you that much look back and see your good and bad times what was significant for them
GOOD LUCK !!
2007-03-02 10:33:58 · answer #5 · answered by x•°meadow°•-|- 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my boyfriend have been madly in love for a year and some months now. We spend as much time as we can and, as far as I can tell, neither one of us is sick of each other. If you're girlfriend claims she loves you so much, she should want to be with you more often. She must either have some control issues, or some relationship issues, but if it's causing you stress, you should definitely tell her how you feel. As long as you don't try to smother her she should agree.
2007-03-02 10:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by Ri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is afraid that if she sees you too often, more intimate and sexual things will happen. She's probably just trying to keep your relationship fresh. Don't push her. It just sounds like she's not ready for the daily contact. Give her more time. A year may seem long to you, but it's not according to the big picture and remember true love will last.
2007-03-02 10:27:22 · answer #7 · answered by smcdevitt2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a woman in love's point of view... She's doesn't sound like a woman in love. Perhaps she loves you, but she's not IN love with you... they are two different things. I have a feeling if you asked for a break, she'll realize how much she really loves you. If she doesn't...move on! You sound like a great guy, find someone who will appreciate you and BEG to spend as much time with you as possible.
2007-03-02 10:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by chelelab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so right about that I'm married now so I see him everyday.....when I first fell in love with my husband I was crazy about him....I wanted to see him everyday all day and we talked on the phone like crazy...we been together for seven years and we still call each other all the time like "where are you" "what time your coming home I miss you" I'm still crazy for him after seven years I don't know something is up with her she is not telling you something
2007-03-02 10:26:47 · answer #9 · answered by sexsired 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move on. No one in love sets a limit of once or two times a week. Her definition of love is whacked. I won;t be surprised if you're the weekend guy & she has a Mon, Tue or Wed guy hidden somewhere.
Trust your instincts, that gal is not in love with you. You're her convenient Fri or Sat guy.
2007-03-02 10:28:08 · answer #10 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋