My dad got married to my stepmother about a year and a half ago. I’m 14 btw. She’s so rude. Last year she always used to yell at my lil bros and sis. She still does sometimes. I always tell my dad and he always yell at her but she still acts rude. I’ve also caught her talking bad about my mom several times. She even talks about me to my dad in front of me. I got fed up with her and yelled at her so loud and cussed her out she started crying. But she’s rly jealous of me and always tries to put me down. She even hit my brother once. My dad knows she does this but because she’s really young (20) he says shell change and be better. She has a daughter now and treats her much better than us and gets jealous with my dad when he talks to us or anything. im also taller and bigger looking than her. I’m not scared of her and I always yell at her and tell her to shut the f*** up. She doesn’t even dare yell at me. My dad warned her that hell divorce her if she keeps acting like this. She’s still not changing. The only reason she married my dad was for his money. I’m afraid that if she doesn’t change the way that she acts soon im going to hurt her. She’s very annoying and she just wants all my dads’ money and doesn’t like it when he gives us money. What do I do about this *****?
2007-03-02 02:07:49 · 14 answers · asked by mimi s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How about first you grow up, and try to understand where she is coming from. here she is close to step kids ages and in a position where she is now a mother who has had no hand in helping raise you but is trying to be part of your family. try to look for the good in her instead of the bad and see what your dad sees in her
maybe with the money thing she thinks that you are spoiled and get your own way and trying to prepare you for reality
and has for you cussing her, if i were her i would take you and wash your fithly mouth out with soap i dont care how big you are
learn to respect those who are your elders and give the women a chance.
how would you like to be in her shoes, and have a both of brats 6 years and more your younger and causing problems
change your attitude
2007-03-02 02:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by scarlett13854 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have a step-mother too (though I am older than you.) Even at this age, I feel some of the same things about my step-mother.
First of all, cursing is *never* a solution. Neither is yelling -- though, believe me, I know you sometimes want to scream. I would suggest talking to someone outside your family who has no vested interest in how this plays out. Somebody like your school counselor or maybe a therapist. Talk to your Dad about therapy. It really does help -- if only so you can learn ways to tolerate her presence.
Remember, she's not that much older than you. In a few years, the 6 year difference between you two will seem to be even closer.
If she gets physical with you, or your siblings, talk to you Dad and your Mom. She should know what is going on with her kids too.
Best of luck!
2007-03-02 03:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by retropink 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Father has PUT you and your StepMother in a very difficult situation. She is only 6 years older then you.
STOP with the "She just wants my Dad's money!"
There are other men out there she could have chosen without kids that would cuss her out. At 14 you need to not cuss ehr out, especially if she is not cussing you out. She is still a kid like you. 6 years is not that different. Your Dad sounds like the only one that's happy with the situation. He has a 20 year old Wife, his kids, etc.
Try befriending her and letting her know how you feel in a decent manner. Try to put yourself in her shoes. She fell in love with a man much older then her that already had children, which other's refer to as baggage. You can learnt o work this situation to your advantage. Befriend her!
Keep your friends Close! Keep your enemies Closer!~
Good Luck!
'-)
2007-03-02 02:14:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your dad should never put her in front of you. I am not saying that he should away take your side but if she is mistreating you for no reason your dad should put her in her place. I would talk to your dad about it and tell him how you feel even if it hurts his/her feeling. But don't get down on her level the more she sees that you get upset the happier is makes her. If I was you..when she said something mean I would tell her how pretty she even if I don't mean it. And just smile. It will eat her up that she can't get to you.
2007-03-02 02:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i suggest that maybe you sit down you your and and this woman and explain what you think is wrong with this picture and what ever you do do get loud (yes thst part is hard)
but maybe if every one sits down and listens to what each other thinks and feels maybe there could be some terms established
the bad part every one yells and if this woman doesn't have children of here own then she doesn't really know how to handle children or understand parts of the way children feel
maybe she could take a parenting class and they even offer classes on blended families
GOOD LUCK WISH YOU THE BEST
2007-03-02 02:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by country-girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At your age and your position, there isn't much you can do except stick it out for a time to see what your bonehead father will do. Or maybe you can move out and with a relative or something for the mean time. Consider this, your there and at least can protect your bros' from the evil witch.
2007-03-02 02:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your dad if you can live with your mom until the stepmonster grows up? Don't be sh*tty about it just tell him that you can't take it anymore. He will either boot her a** out or let you go live with your mom, either way you will not have to deal with her anymore. Good Luck.
2007-03-02 03:27:16 · answer #7 · answered by Julia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your father is taking care of you and giving you money, that's ok. Just ignore your step-mother. I have a step-father and I can't stand him because he whines like a little girl, but I'll have to deal with it until I move out (that's just in 2 years) Why be mad your step-mother, your father is the one who's gonna have to deal with her when you leave home.
2007-03-02 04:20:14 · answer #8 · answered by Chrishonda Alston 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
conversing from adventure in this section, my suggestion to you is flow out. attempting to reason with somebody who's unreasonable is impossible and extra, your fathers loyalties for sure lay together with her. have you ever seen residing with your mom? or, based upon your age, shifting out with a flatmate? Biting at her call callings approximately your mom will basically inflame the subject concerns and particular reason your father to go together with her over you - as awful and incorrect because it rather is, it occurs. i will vouch for that....... bow out now and concentrate on your man or woman psychological well being and help networks and attempt to have a courting with your dad as you are able to. you may desire to view this as your doorstep mom "triumphing" yet once you have all out fights each and all the time its no good for absolutely everyone. way too hurtful for you. you may desire to look when you stunning now. Chin up, and attempt to stay valuable so she could have won the conflict yet no longer the conflict.........*smiles*
2016-09-30 02:40:16 · answer #9 · answered by arieux 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel ur pain. But tell ur dad that she just wants him for his money. Just sit down and talk to him.
or plan B. Move in w/ ur real mom....
2007-03-02 03:48:28 · answer #10 · answered by Jay<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋