Ok met a guy few months ago, he lives a few hours away, we aren't going out, but he has visited a few times and we have met up- got on really well- he was acting like we were a couple, we txt everyday....
Problem is he planned to come down at the wkend, beginning of week said had car problems, car in the garage!!I have had to try and get an answer all week, have just got a txt, don't think he can make it...lots of apoligies! I then said if your'e not interested not to worry just let me know..but his response is he is and will come down soon...
Would you bother waiting...if he was that interested surely you would make it, I have a really cool other guy who wants to take me out, but I really like this nightmare one!!
Sorry so long, what do you think? x
2007-03-02 01:59:23 · 10 answers · asked by money bank 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry Guys, I know I seem like a complete *****..I really like him but I just need to know if he likes me back...and cancelling dates worry me.
2007-03-02 02:53:52 · update #1
He has someone else. No guy would miss a weekend with a girl they were really into.
2007-03-02 02:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by dwayman1978 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is how i see it - If you really like someone that much theres no point in going out with someone else. You will always be comparing the two and thinking about the nice bloke and it's not really fair on anyone.
Sometimes blokes just need a bit of space to find themselves and to figure out whats going on before they can get close again. I really wouldn't worry too much, if he has said he will come visit soon then i'm sure he will, just be patient and don't nag him or shout at him for not seeing you. Just trust that he still cares for you and he'll soon be back for more.
If he wanted to finish things with you i'm sure he would have said so. Take the opportunity to do loads of girly things and pamper yourself. Women think about things too much and worry that something is wrong when it probably isn't. I know how you feel though cuz my boyfriend is exactly the same but he just gets busy with work sometimes and he forgets to think about other things.
Get some good relationship books like men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray - It's well worth the read!!
2007-03-03 08:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by bird_in_a_bubble 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry if this is harsh-but has he not heard of the train? My bloke doesn't have a car at the mo,but his dad loans him his car to visit me most weekends-but sometimes he'll take the train instead.
I'd tell him that as it's obviously too much of a hassle you've made other plans-and call really cool other guy!
The fact that you refer to this guy as 'this nightmare one' answers your own question. He's not reliable enough to let you know what was going on all week-and only today let you know that he didn't think he could make it! He's hardly considered your feelings or plamns has he?
2007-03-02 03:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're giving this guy a hard time. What's your problem? He really might have encountered car problems. Instead you act like a queen on her high horse expecting things to go her way and if it doesn't, well, hell befall those who upset her. What's wrong with waiting if he really has a valid reason? If you're so up on yourself, then go out with the cooler guy. From what you said, you obviously don't think much of the 'nightmare' one.
2007-03-02 02:08:40 · answer #4 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give the guy a chance, it could just be genuinley that his car is broken.
I don't think it's a case of 'if he's that interested he would make it'1
As you've said, your not a couple, and things are still all new. Maybe he didn't want to rush into things or come on too strong.
I'd give the guy a chance!
2007-03-02 02:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by tattooedgray 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he really is having problems with his car and he really is busy.
my partner lives 100miles away and i see him once a week if i'm lucky. this all depends upon work commitments and other stuff. it hurts at the time but i know deep down that he'd rather be with me.
if you're really interested in him then why are you considering another guy taking you out???? you need to make your mind up who you want to see before doubting some guy who can't make it to see you once
2007-03-02 02:10:13 · answer #6 · answered by flojo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe just wait and see. It sounds like the nightmare guy likes you. Hes probably telling you the truth, otherwise he would have taken the chance to say he didnt like you when you offered it to him. Id say if you like him, wait for him and dont let ur impatience drive u to be with someone u dont like as much. Tell this difficult guy that he has competition and he might get his skates on once he realises he dosn't have all day!
2007-03-02 02:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by Zinc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really...WTF are you doing? the guy can't make it ONE weekend in a few months and you're ready to kick him to the curb...stop being so selfish, understand that it is hard on him to come to YOU every weekend. WHy don't you go to him? see what/where he spends the rest of the week
2007-03-02 02:05:46 · answer #8 · answered by kerfitz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, everyone deserves one chance and it sounds like you can afford to give him this chance - so go for it.
You will at least find out if your suspicions were correct whichever way it goes...
Good luck.
2007-03-06 01:16:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you really like him,you'll be patient and wait..If he's got problems,ofcourse he's got to sort them out..Try not to be pushy,guys hate that..Good luck
2007-03-02 02:05:57 · answer #10 · answered by trish b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋