why dont me an my dad get on ?

Question

what it is i used to go with my dad everywere used to get on really well i was a real daddys girl up until 10yrs ago wen my little bro was born the youngest the thing is now my dad wont hardly ever speak to me if he does hes always nasty i try talkin to my mum bout it she just says "oh he's like that with every1" but he's not he'll go for weeks not talkin to me an i never do anythin wrong i cant even talk to my fiance about it coz he's away in iraq so am at a dead end i dont kno wot to do it feels like he doesnt love me no more i try to make things ok but he wont speak to me he wont even look at me like now am in the dining room an he's in the kitchen he hasnt spoke 2 words to me all day it worries me that am gettin married next yr and am scared that the way things are goin he wont walk me down the aisle i just want the relationship i used to have with him back but like i said i av tried talkin to him an it doesnt work with him without him gettin nasty which turns into an arguement

Answer 1

In a way you kinda answered your own question with what you have said,and i must admit i'm guilty like your dad.
I have 4 girls,when they were younger they were daddies girls
Now we hardly talk.
You have'nt done anything wrong but grow up,and dad has lost his little girl forever.
Maybe society itself is a fault,were any affection between a father and daughter is looked at almost like its perverted.
And i think unconsciously fathers think this way,if i cuddle her like i used to people will get the wrong idea.
Be brave and confront your dad about how you feel,tell him you will always be his little girl.
That you love him and even though you don't expect cuddles etc you would love for him to talk to you.
As i have said i'm guilty of the same thing,when the girls try to talk i rudely order them off.
And i thankyou for posing the question,as it has made me realise i need to get MY little girls back before they hate me.
But if your dad is like me,he does love you he just does,'nt know how to show it now your not that little girl who sat on his knee.
Only you and your dad can sort this out,your mum can do nothing to help.

GOOD LUCK.

Answer 2

I don't know why he's being like that chick's. Mayb you could bring him out for a meal or somewhere where you'll be alone. Then tell him exactly what you've told us. My dad died in a car crash before i was born and i would love to have him around to be a daddys girl or even just speak to im to tell im i know he's around me all the time. Don't let the relationship go without a fight babes. Good luck x x x

Answer 3

Dads a a little weird sometimes. Try not to argue with him even if he is wrong. That's difficult because most people want to retaliate is someone says something nasty to them. You must realize that you're no longer daddy's little girl. You're now daddy's big girl so while it would be nice to still get piggy back rides and such, just roll with the punches and and try to get along with the new grumpier dad.
Remember don't argue with him. He probably sees that as you being disrespectful.
Good luck.

Answer 4

Learn to spell correctly and for goodness sake learn some punctuation!

I barely understood your question, but it sounds to me like your baby brother was just born... Your dad is going to dote on the baby for awhile...

Try talking to him, and if you are going to get married, you must be an "adult" so talk to him maturely.... maybe he feels like he losing you. Also, a father daughter relationship changes when the daughter is getting married... she is no longer "Daddy's little girl".

Answer 5

If your dad is always nasty & hardly talks to you then why on earth are you bothered if he walks you down the aisle or not.
You can't get the old relationship back, those days have gone, you have to accept that.

Answer 6

It sounds like your dad has issues he doesn't want to deal with. It's hard to give advise because there are so many details missing. I'd say embrace your new family with your husband to be and learn to let go of old ties. Sorry for what you're going through.

Answer 7

You have become another woman in the house, When you get dressed he should not be there. He used to bath you but now you are grown up your dad understands that. But then what if your dad knows what mommy is not telling you? That you are not his real child. Ask mommy maybe she has the answer.

Answer 8

I think this belongs under the family category but all I can say is that your dad has to change the way he feels or try to get your mother more involved. Very sad thing, that is.

Answer 9

I would go to a card shop and buy one of these memories card for dad they have lovley words in them and just put a few kisses in it, this should move him or write a letter explaining how you feel.

Answer 10

iam so sorry dear,but how old is your dad?maybe hes hiding something about his health and trying to deal with it,and dont want anyone to know,also if hes getting up in years,he might be getting set in his ways,and going through mid-life crises,thats enough to make him grumpy.just be patience with him,because there might be something working on him and he doesnt want anyone to know about.