incorporate the kids in the ceremony, because we actually feel like its a family being bound in marriage not just man and wife???? children are ages 4, 2 are 6, and 8
2007-03-02 01:53:48 · 14 answers · asked by Christy L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The marraige ceremony is between the man and the woman. This involves the children's lives of course, but don't include them in any kind of commitment ceremony. It sounds 'sweet' and you're on cloud 9 right now- but it isn't their choice, to be honest. Have the kids dress nicely and they can take part in the other activities. Lots of people say its a marraige between you all--but no, it's a family yes- but it's not their time to vow anything.
2007-03-02 02:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
make them your bridesmaids and groomsmen, flower girls and / or ring bearers! Have the kids as the wedding party! Let the girls help you pick out your (and their) dress, and the boys get to help with the tuxes or suits! Include them(if they want to) in choices, flowers, food, decoration themes. Make them apart of this because really, it is the two families getting married, not just you two.
Remember to make the reception family friendly too! Let them invite a special friend (if they want and that friend wouldn't been invited before) and have kid friendly activities.
Check out this article- it may give you some ideas!
www.ultimatewedding.com/articles/get.php?action=getarticle&articleid=955
Congrats and Good Luck!
p.s. other ideas from another article I found online:
Children
If children will be invited to the reception, consider the following suggestions:
Provide a special activity area for the children. Decorate the area with balloons, streamers and colorful tableware.
Plan special activities such as a "stuffed animal toss" just for kids (before the bouquet/garter toss) so they feel included in the celebration.
Enlist a teenager guest or hire a baby sitter to oversee younger children while parents are enjoying the festivities.
Serve "kid friendly" food such as hot dogs and hamburgers, pizza, veggie sticks, and cookies
2007-03-02 02:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by chickemama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been to a wedding where they had 4 flowersa girls ages 3,5,7,9 and 2 ring boys ages 4 and 7 (each boy had one ring) They were in the same situation as you and they wanted all there children from there previous marriage in the wedding. It was so beautiful.
2007-03-02 02:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My marriage was very similar, 2 yr old daughter- she was the flower girl; 10 year old son- he was the ring bearer; and 12 year old son- he walked his mom down the isle and gave her away to me. Very touching and meaningful to us all. But YES it is a very good idea to have them play a part, because as you realize, you're not just marring each other, but you're joining the entire family in a Holy bond. You'll need strength, unity, and the true God kind of love to make this the best it can be.
2007-03-02 02:04:15 · answer #4 · answered by Matt B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At one wedding like this, I saw the whole family light the marriage candle together as a symbolic gesture. However, since your kids are so young, I'm not sure you want them near fire. You might be able to incorporate something similar though. Like everyone has a glass of water and they pour it into the pitcher. That sounds cheesy, but something similar to that, that can be fun for your kids.
2007-03-02 01:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by mfupipoet 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there are lots of ways you can involve them so they feel a part of the ceremony. depending on girls or boys, you could make one of the boys the ring bearer, or a little girl a flower girl. the older ones could be brides maid or groomsmen. No one ever said there had to be a minimum age to do that. Good luck
2007-03-02 01:59:45 · answer #6 · answered by mlock123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well me and my fiance are doing this,have the the oldest daughter(5) walk him down the aisle.then have the 2 younger ones both 3,ring bearer and flower girl walk down the aisle,then the oldest son (9) walk me down the aisle.the kids are from previous relationships also.i think whatever you do though is a good idea after all its your wedding,just as long as the groom agrees
2007-03-02 04:28:38 · answer #7 · answered by marines_sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen in some wedding catalogs for invitations and such necklaces that symbolize a family each child would get one in the middle of the ceremony
2007-03-02 02:05:20 · answer #8 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been to wedding where they incrperate the kids by the officiant recognizing that a family is being bonded, and they say soemthing after the voes, also the couple could give them omething like a promise ring or someting...
2007-03-02 03:02:29 · answer #9 · answered by lostthoughts27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive seen where they give the children sort of like a promise ring. its saying that they promise to all be a family together, and that whoever is not the biological parent will raise them like their own. usually if the bride has the children, then the groom would present it to her kids or if the groom has one, then the bride present it to the kid. since you both have kids, you both can do this.
2007-03-02 01:59:17 · answer #10 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋