My dad been spying on me over year now. read my text messages everything i,he listen to my conversations on the phone and what i be talkin to my gurlfriends about everything all my secrets.i am really mad i even think i hate him for that but my problem is he is still cool no matter what and he confess so do i have the right to still be mad or should i just forget about the whole thing which is hard for me to do?
2007-03-02 01:41:13 · 13 answers · asked by Jewel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
and i'm 20 years old, i want my privacy.
2007-03-02 01:51:01 · update #1
you should be dam glad you have parents that care enough to try and keep tabs on what you are up to. alot of people dont.
if you are twenty...heres a hint..move out and get your privacy.
2007-03-02 01:45:18 · answer #1 · answered by chris m 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're 20 years old and an adult in your own right. Your father has no right to infringe on your privacy in this way.
You have every right to be mad at him...you are no longer a child who needs to be checked up on at every waking moment.
Talk to your father and let him know that he is causing you alot of anger and frustration because you feel "hemmed in" so to speak.
Listening to your phone conversations is just way over the top. I wonder what his motives are and what exactly is he looking for?
It's time to have this talk with him and he needs to back off. His behaviour is very invasive to say the least.
2007-03-02 10:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stay mad at your dad. He's just like any other parent who is concerned with their child. He's probably afraid that you'll mix with the wrong crowd or be up to something not morally upright, thats why he spies on you. You should be thankful that you have such a father who's not only concerned for you, but also protective over you. But perhaps you feel that he's being overprotective, just ask your father for a little more privacy when you're with your friends.
2007-03-02 09:48:06 · answer #3 · answered by Soaring 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spy back...Call him up at 5:00 a.m. every day and say, "hi dad, it's me.........I just wanted to find out what is on your schedule for today....what time will you be home, what will you have for lunch, what will you have for dinner...call him again at lunch.....verify that what he had for lunch is what he told you he would have, call in the evening.....repeat same questions. Show up at his house (or if you live with him), check the mileage on his car. Give him the facts..if he only drives 20 miles per day to work and has gone 22 miles....interrogate him. Be relentless.....ask him questions about why he trimmed his moustach, beard, why are you wearing cologne? If he is going to the golf course to putt a few with his buddies show up there to confirm that who he said was joining him did join him. I figure about a week of this will cure daddy oh...P.S. You can really have some fun with this! Enjoy!
2007-03-02 10:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by sunset 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like dad is concerned for your safety. Have you tried talking to him as an adult and asking why he does these things? See if you can make a compromise--be willing to share with him so he dont have to spy. In this world today there are so many bad people i think he is just trying to protect you. Be glad he cares so much.
2007-03-02 09:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by dinkylynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parent was spring on you because he loves you and worries about you...just to be on the safe side, make sure you don't see any lenses hidden in the top of the shower or in your bedroom anywhere. I would just be so worried he were watching me too, only because I have seen this on TV and after he has gone as far as he has, I wouldn't put it past him to be watching you too. Please don't take this wrong...I am just saying, look for any evidence of cameras, lenses...they can be the size of a button or smaller...I am sorry, but I would find it very hard to be able to trust my dad anymore after this happened to you...There is supposed to be some bit of privacy you should be able to have in your life...Everyone is entitled to privacy...
2007-03-02 09:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Minnie Mouse♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be mad just talk to him and let him know u r an adult and can take care of urself that way, he'll know u r safe without him interfering, he loves u n will do all it takes to protect u
think your Dad is great.
2007-03-02 09:55:57 · answer #7 · answered by Naughty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to have privacy even if he does not get mad...you have the right to be angry...just dont hold a grudge on him for to long
2007-03-02 09:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by Cutiepieblueeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt stand for it.
but if he confessed i wouldnt really be mad
just tell him ur a big girl now and to stop spying on you
its ur life, ur privacy, hes has no right really to know what u and ur friends talk about.
Just tell him that you can handle things on your own. listening in on u for 1 year should of prooved that to him already.
2007-03-02 09:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by ~*~Smile~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretend like you dont know that hes doing it for about a week and then spring it on him tell him that you know and ask him to stop but be nice rememberhes only doing it becouse he loves you : )
2007-03-02 09:50:56 · answer #10 · answered by Alexis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋