2007-03-02 01:32:37 · 21 answers · asked by buddynibblet 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Wow I can't believe sunshine is making up laws now! NO it is NOT illegal to spank....good grief.
My grandparents and parents both say the same thing...when spanking was a common punishment children were not going to school with guns, children were not getting pregnant, children were not committing crimes. I agree. When I was naughty as a little kid I got my butt whooped. NO it was not child abuse. It was a naughty child learning a lesson in a way that sticks with you and it NEVER made me fear my parents as so many people like to say.
I'd say stop spanking around 6-7 because older than that it gets to be a sexual issue.
2007-03-02 02:33:41 · answer #1 · answered by kherome 5 · 5⤊ 5⤋
It depends on the maturity of your child. Once your child has reached an age where you can clearly see that punishment is effective, you won't need spanking as reinforcement.
I think some people are confused with your question. I don't remember you asking whether or not to spank, just when it's appropriate to stop. Even the bible speaks of the "rod of correction" and if you "spare the rod you spoil the child". Children are to be given discipline no matter who doesn't agree with it. YOU are responsible for their actions, not any other adult.
If you discipline, people will call it abuse. If you don't, people will say it's your fault that you raised an uncontrolled criminal. People's opinions don't matter when it comes to your method of choice in disciplining your child.
2007-03-02 12:03:49 · answer #2 · answered by edcw0214 3 · 4⤊ 4⤋
Spanking is an easy way out for parents. It's just so easy to spank a child who misbehaves instead of taking time to really get down to the root of the problem. How does a spanking solve anything except instill fear in a child? So, you spank your child because he/she didn't pick up their toys? So, now the child will pick up their toys because they fear you? I would rather my child pick up their toys because they have been taught to take care of their possessions vs. fearing the wrath of mom. Spanking is an easy method to get your kids to do what you want because parents get too lazy trying to establish a loving, caring relationship with their child.
Yes, I was spanked as a child and I also spanked my children many moons ago. But I learned that spanking was not getting me anywhere..... Now I am consistent with what I say to my kids, I can talk to them and I have a fantastic relationship with my kids. We as parents tend to forget that kids have feelings and REAL problems too. Alot of parents I know think because kids are "just" kids, they do not have real problems. establishing a dialogue with your kids works wonders. Spanking is not a good source of discipline.
2007-03-02 09:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by blueyonder 2 · 4⤊ 4⤋
between 6 and 8
2007-03-02 10:10:16 · answer #4 · answered by just wandering 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
You shouldn't be spanking your child in the first place....We as adults are supposed to bring children up, not bring them down. If you are continuing to spank your child for something they have done wrong, then obviously spanking isn't working. You are abusing the child.
2007-03-02 19:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by smc4u73 3 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Don't begin spanking your child, and you will not have to worry about when to stop. Think of another way to discipline aside from inflicting physical pain.
2007-03-02 10:35:23 · answer #6 · answered by Char 7 · 3⤊ 4⤋
Around 10. At that age you can start giving and taking away allowance then soon it will be cars and dances and finally it will be locking the door so they don't come drop their kids off on you.
2007-03-02 10:13:37 · answer #7 · answered by Boomrat 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I'd say, until they become teens, however I am not going to put an age limit on it. All my children are under 11, and if need be, I will still use spanking. So somewhere around 12-13. I am hopping for earlier but that's up to them.
2007-03-02 09:40:49 · answer #8 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 6⤊ 6⤋
Never start. Spanking doesn't solve anything. It just teaches kids that mom or dad will get really mad at them for something and then hit them. So they start hiding things from you and lying to you to avoid being spanked. I know people say "I was spanked and I turned out okay". Did they really? I'm sure they have some issues that can be traced back to spanking if it was done frequently - even if it is just being afraid of the spanker. I know several people who have said "boy, I never wanted to make my dad mad!". Not the feeling I'd want to have my children feel about my or my husband. Try reading "How to talk so kids will listen, and how to listen so kids will talk" and "Kids are worth it".
2007-03-02 09:39:03 · answer #9 · answered by BLONDAGE 2 · 7⤊ 7⤋
Agreed with preteen, around 12. I don't know why everyone has to inject their opinions instead of answering the question.
2007-03-03 03:47:19 · answer #10 · answered by outdoor man 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋