My girlfriend of 3 years and I just broke it off and she is saying things like, "I could go out and date someone else right now, and be with them for 3 months but I would have to leave them because I know I wouldn't be happy". And things like "I saw myself marrying you" and "I don't see myself with anyone else for the rest of my life".
But then says but "I just dont feel it right now, I want to.. but i dont"
Tell me, is it over for good? Has anyone ever said these things to a guy only to found out thats not how you truely feel? I'm ok with us being apart now, but it hurts bad to think that we will never be together again... Just wondering if anyone else has any experiences like this and it worked out positively(as in you got back together) thanks
2007-03-02 01:26:38 · 9 answers · asked by dieselmave40 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I have thought I was over someone and had similar feelings and then gotten back together with an ex bf before. I am sure that is very hard to deal with at the moment, and it must be confusing and difficult. My best suggestion would be to try and date someone else, as this will help you move on and also may spark her jealousy and make her realise she does love you and want to be with you. Good luck :-)
2007-03-02 01:31:01 · answer #1 · answered by Leeza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you live with those thoughts for the rest of your lives if you two get back together? She hurt you and the things that she is continuing to tell you are only mind games, keeping you on the backburner incase things don't work out with someone else in the future.
Maybe she is saying it to try and ease your pain because she doesn't want to hurt you. If she thought you were that great of a catch, I don't think she would have let you go. There will be plenty of other girls out there that can give you what a relationship needs - unconditional love, trust, a sense of security, etc.
2007-03-02 01:34:49 · answer #2 · answered by Betty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on exactly how she feels. She might be interested in someone else that's why she has a change in heart. Might be that things aren't going how she WANTS it to. Or it might just be something your doing.
Relationships are like glass; sometimes its better to leave it broken, than risk hurting ur self trying to put it back together"
I can't decide what to do but all i can tell you is; both of you need to sit down and talk about the main issues. You need to make up your mind and tell her your opinion. She probably has a change of heart because she has the Power in the relationship which means she does everything in general: The decisions like now; She has choices instead of you.
So Stand up talk to her and tell her how you feel. Compromise, Communication and Respect 3 keys to relationships. Unlock the door
2007-03-02 01:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by Kamilah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's replaced and appearing diverse because you left her impressive once you suggested "i dont understand" two times. she doesnt opt for to be enable on. tell her you want her. tell her the way you sense and word how she responds and mutually with her ex, who's conscious of. theres likely a great number of drama occurring with the split. and it takes a great number of time. you may also merely be a rebound. which sucks, yet you would properly be.
2016-11-27 00:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've experienced it w/my last ex. he is now my b/f again & we've been together for 5 yrs. now. that doesn't include before we broke up. we r planning on getting married after he gets back from iraq. if i were don't worry about ur ex right now. c if u can find someone else that u can b happy with.
2007-03-02 01:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by army girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your (ex)girlfriend is very confused. i think she wants you but she's insecure about something to do with your relationship. it could be that she's afraid of commitment or afraid that you might hurt her or she's become bored and wants to explore her options. whatever it is tell her (nicely) that she needs to figure it out on her own and not involve you in that process.
She is been a bit selfish (and i dont think purposely) by tagging you along with her undecisiveness and its not fair to you. Don't wait forever for her to figure it out though, you will need to move on with your life eventually.
Good Luck!
2007-03-02 01:38:47 · answer #6 · answered by JudiM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People always want what they dont have (the grass is always greener). When you are together, you dont feel it. But when you are not, you want it back. Very frustrating.
2007-03-02 01:30:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya, it's possible, even probable that you will be together again, but be prepared for it to be an emotional rollercoaster
2007-03-02 01:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well like some people like to say you never know what you have until it is gone.
2007-03-02 01:30:08 · answer #9 · answered by banth04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋