what makes a guy want to marry or not want to? is marrage like possesing the other person like a guarantee? or is it simply a act of love? or is it seen as just a piece of paper? or can a couple have a happy life- relationship without the need of getting wed?
2007-03-02 01:23:28 · 29 answers · asked by RACHIE-D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I cherish the sanctity of marriage. It is not just a piece of paper to us. It is the ultimate expression of love in our eyes, promising to love each other for all of our days. There is a security in marriage that I never found with my husband before we were married. I feel "protected" by our marriage. Our relationship is in no way possessive. There is unlimited respect and unconditional love. Is our marriage without problems? No, of course not. We work at it every day, some more than others but I would not change one thing. I would marry him again. He is my life and I love him more each day. For our 5 children, it is teaching them what there is to be expected from a solid healthy marriage. I hope someday they will take that with them as adults and never settle for less.
I am all about marriage...
2007-03-02 01:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by RaLoh 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What makes a guy want ot marry or not to marry? it depends on the guy. It depends on the values the guy believes in. It depends on what the woman is providing for him when they AREN'T married.
The vast majority of marriages are NOT an act of love. If they were an act of love, there would be no marriage ceremonies involved at all, the two would simply start building a life together and ignore the criticisms of the world. Most marriages are entered into out of some form of fear or another.
Some guys get married sooner than they should out of the fear that if they don't rush into a marriage they'll wind up losing control of their libidos and begin producing offspring out of wedlock.
Some guys don't even CONSIDER the possibility of becoming a parent.
Some guys get married because they don't want to risk the chance that the woman they're with might be happier with someone else.
Some get married because it looks good on a resume.
It is my opinion that a couple can have a very happy life-long relationship, without wasting their time at all on anything so materialistic as a wedding.
It all depends on the guy, and it all depends on the woman.
2007-03-03 00:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by Robert G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a guy wants to marry you when he loves you and feels that you don't want to own him. if your really possessive and jealous there's probably no-one that would want to marry the other. marrying should be done out of love and knowing that that's the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. not just a guarantee or piece of paper, but unfortunately some do do it for this reason.
people can certainly have a long happy life-time relationship without the need to get married in fact through personal experiences i found that they sometimes get on better. eg my auntie was with her boyfriend for 13yrs really happy then got married and after 2yrs divorced its liked that bit of paper changes some people. its a real shame.
some people get freaked out by the bit of paper like they're trapped or something
2007-03-02 01:36:35 · answer #3 · answered by curiouskel 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think marriage is a mixture of love and commitment via a piece of paper that you will spend the rest of your lives together. I think that every couple is different. I have always been a good old fashioned gal and want the big white wedding. I think a guy wants to marry a woman when he knows she is the one and knows for sure that he doesn't want to play the field anymore, my view is that when you' re married you might take your relationship a little more seriously. For example if one of you cheats, there's a lot more at stake so you're less likely to do it.
2007-03-02 01:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by Pearl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is a promise to be together for life- just listen to the vows. I don't see it as just a piece of paper. I would not be happy at the thought of living with someone forever and not getting married. It's a public declaration of commitment. Some people can be happy without being married but I would ask WHY NOT? There is often an underlying problem- hate to sound cynical.
2007-03-02 04:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by Linda 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is a remarkable thing when you have someone that loves you enough to promise the rest of their life. A wedding is an event that will be remembered forever by the bride & groom and by the families that attended. Most people now and days do not take their vows too seriously which has given the "wedding" thoughts to be more of a big un needed ordeal. But when you have a friend that is your best friend, you love him or her, you want to be with him or her for life and are willing to walk through all the future fires, joys & obstacles together...then being married is one of the best joys life can bring.
2007-03-02 04:11:13 · answer #6 · answered by Ladybug 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dare say everything you have put some men and women look on as the reasons for getting married. But surely the real reason should be because two people are in love and want to spend the rest of their lives together? I think it really depends on the person in question.
2007-03-06 01:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage should be a partnership, not an ownership. The couple needs to work together to deepen the relationship and sustain it. Yes, couples can have a happy life without getting married, but I felt that marriage was the next step to our lives together. It was an "announcement" of commitment to the world and before God.
2007-03-02 01:52:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My view is I tried it once and did not like it!!
I think it is more then an act of love, should not be about possession but mutual love trust and understanding. It is in my eyes the ideal, but as a cynic I have seen very few examples in my life of it working too well. If a relationship is strong it will be strong without the piece of paper. for all the wrong reasons, legal tax etc, if you have kids it must be considered seriously.
2007-03-02 01:42:39 · answer #9 · answered by worriedmum 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I read a stat recently that said that co habiting couples who had kids were much more likely to spilt up than married, and it makes sense that is the case as there are fewer barriers to leaving.
I would like to get married to share my life with someone other than my own boring self. I would be bored on my own and who could I talk to in the evenings and watch tv with? I would not really like to live alone for too long I think. I dont want kids though under any circumstances, even if I really loved the person, I know that I would just hate it. PPl think Im odd as a female (I cant change my icon damn!) who dosent but I think they are just small minded.
For me co habiting is like all the hard work without the celebration, and think its pathetic to say its just a peice of paper unless u want to settle for less, which is one choice that can be made. But to then devalue other peoples experience by saying its value is truly a piece of paper is tantamount to fascism. Reality is as we dicatate it and if we say marrige has no value, then it wont do for us. There are no objective values that can be measured about marriage, so how can one say it has no value? as that IS fixing the value of a marrige.
2007-03-02 01:51:02 · answer #10 · answered by Zinc 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋