Is that an admission of guilt or that he's at least "thinking" about it? Obviously, I'm very naive.
2007-03-02 01:12:02 · 29 answers · asked by rowdydawg519 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave him !!!
2007-03-02 01:15:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you're not naive. I think you have a good sense of intuition. I don't know if its an admission of guilt. But yes he's thinking about it. If you're relationship is in trouble now, he's probably going to do it. If you are on good terms with each other he may be just curious. You should ask him that same question and see what reaction you get from him.
2007-03-02 09:18:07 · answer #2 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is somebody up there in heaven looking out for you . I hope you recognize just how lucky you are and kick that cheater to the curb. If you don't listen to your inner voice you end up with a life long ball and chain such as a sexually transmitted disease .
So, now you are no longer naive but well informed . I hope you listen .
2007-03-02 09:47:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without actually knowing him, no one can say if he’s done it or not. Only he can answer that question. However if that’s his way of admitting to you that he’s done so or has plans to do so, your question to him should be if he loves you, cares for you or wants to be with you why would he do something like that to hurt you. If you feel that you can move on then you need to dump him and find someone that will treat you with the respect that you deserve. However before you jump the gun, you need to see if he’s done it or has plans to do it. Maybe he’s just being a jerk and trying to be funny by using poor sense of humor. I wish you the best.
2007-03-02 09:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to tell, but in either case it sounds like a huge red flag.
It depends on what kind of man he is in general.
Has he said other things in the past to try to shock you or just get a reaction out of you? I was involved with a guy that even said he was injured on the job and was on my way out the door to have him call back and say he was "just kidding" and "wanted to see what you would do"...a person that kids and test you in this way is manipulative - if you want to stay with him, set the boundries now that this is not something that you find acceptable in a relationship.
If he is normally a straightforward guy, it could be an off-handed way of coming clean, without actually coming clean and a way out if for him, but still keep you, by lying and say it was a "what if" now and if you find out it is true later on he will say he "tried to tell you the truth, but you just freaked out" so he felt he had to soothe you with a lie.
Only way this is not a bad sign is if it turns out he is asking you because one of his friends turns out to be the dog who cheated on his woman and asked him for advice and the reason he asked you it he wants the female perspective.
2007-03-02 09:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him it would hurt you and shake up your whole belief of what kind of person he is- tell him it would make you re-evaluate everything and you wouldn't deal with that kind of betrayal. If he hasn't done it-that may deter him.One thing is for sure...by no means let him think he can get away with it and still have you- because if he feels you will stay no matter what-he may just go ahead and cheat.dont worry about being naive- arent we all when we have our heart on our sleeve..thats why it hurts so much when things go wrong- your not naive- just vulnerable to him
2007-03-02 09:18:41 · answer #6 · answered by cassiepiehoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. I think this means he has done what he is asking you about. I think that he is trying to figure out how you would react were he to tell you the truth. Sometimes people make mistakes though and I hope whatever happens you can work through it and look after yourself. Good luck :-)
2007-03-02 09:16:14 · answer #7 · answered by Leeza 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not thinking about it, he's already had the one night stands, he wouldn't risk making you suspicious if he hadn't or he was just thinking about it. he needs to be a man and just admit to what he did. Personally i'd dump him, especially since he's not man enough to face up to what he did. but as to whether you think you can trust him again (after he finally admits) is purely up to you. And if you do decide to stay it is gonna take time and effort.
Good luck!
2007-03-02 09:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by JudiM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He either has been having the one night stands or he plans on it, and I think if he is asking what your thoughts are either:
1. someone you know caught him
2. the other person is someone you know and is planning to tell
or
3. If you say you don't mind he is going to go out get what he wants and keep you at home too.
2007-03-02 09:17:01 · answer #9 · answered by HappyGoLucky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he has or if he wants to. If he answers yes to either question dump him as this is filth and you will catch something, And no you are not naive.
2007-03-02 09:18:10 · answer #10 · answered by holly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has done something or is planning to confront him ask him to tell you the truth and if there is a long pause or it seems like he is thinking a little bit to much or he tells you he has done something or is planning on it..leave him.....BEST OF LUCK!
2007-03-02 09:15:42 · answer #11 · answered by HelpMe123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋