i need help, my boyfriend cheated on me 3 times, but when i made a mistake cheated he went off what can i do?

Question

any one out there with sugguestions or ideas please send them, because i really need help!!!!!!!!!! we've also been talking about marrage!!! what should i do
THANKS LOVE ALWAYS
Babyeyore

Answer 1

Reality check time! You have a chance to end this "relationship" now. You should not be together, you are going to be miserable if you continue this "relationship". Don't even think about getting married to this guy. Move on. Dump him. Stay away from each other. You both need to find someone you can trust. Neither one of you are ready for a serious commitment.

Answer 2

Obviously neither one of you is ready for a serious commitment . Sounds like you're both quite young yet and actually there is nothing wrong with your behavior except you probably should just be out there dating and having fun. Quit the marriage talk. It will only complicate your lives . It will NOT make him true to you only and you will feel trapped ,
Enjoy each others company without reprimands . Go out and meet new people . Don't live together first of all and if you are already then make some changes right away .
Remember a man that cheats on you three times most likely will always do that. Cut your losses and start over with a new life .

Answer 3

With men cheating 60% of the time and women 40%, I don't think it's for the reasons people assume (just sex or for the thrills, etc).

In fact, I assume that, contrary to social opinion, monogamy isn't normal for all people. Unfortunately, society isn't accomodating to those who want to be both honest and are not naturally monogamous. Open relationships are seriously frowned upon.

Most guys or girls don't cheat to get sex. It happens, but not to most people, IMO. Most fall into a relationship unexpectedly and only have two options they see open to them. Leave the new relationship, which is brutally difficult, or cheat. Society has shown them only those two choices.

I am polyamorous. I am very open about my feelings and non-monogamous nature. I always make certain everyone involved is aware and OK before I enter into a relationship (their significant other, if they have one, and my wife). Though sex is a component of these romantic relationships, it's no different than anyone with a girlfriend or wife. They are long term and very loving relationships.

For those who are not monogamous, but not interested in long-term romantic relationships (i.e. sex is the more important aspect) and want to be open and honest with their partner, there is swinging. I"ve never experienced it, so cannot talk about it much.

I've always wondered why people find cheating (breaking the rules) more acceptable than open and honest non-monogamy.

Have you considered that you and your bf are not really monogamous, by nature? I'm not trying to convert anyone, just something to consider. Being polyamorous isn't easy, by any stretch. It requires scrupulous honesty and MUCH more communication than monogamy. It's hard work. Still, for someone like me, it's the only way I can be. I despise the idea of being dishonest, of sneaking around, but I know if I tried to force myself into a monogamous mold (and yes, I've tried) it just wouldn't work.

Poly can be just as painful, in many regards, as mono - Having broken up with two people you love, at the one time (bf and gf), I can tell you that it's twice as rough as a breakup with a single person.

Still, something for you to think about.

Answer 4

your best bet seriously would be to move on love, find yourself a partner that you deserves the love that you have to give him, This guy took advantage of your good nature and love, He is not worth the groung that dogs urinate on! He obviously could see that you really liked him and used that to get to you for the sake of having there for himself at the end of the day, So when he went out with the other girl/s and was doing the dirty, he had no worrys at all because he knew that when you knew what he had done, you would not get rid of him anyway so thats why he could carry on and sleep around, But when you went out and cheated on him with someone else, regardless of what you might of said to him-withregards to an apology or grovelling to him etc etc Deep down he probably thought that you had gone out and done it because you had enough of his antics and was not going to take it from him anymore, so you played him at own game and he thinks that if he stayed with you after you had done thi,when he done it again you would not be the same and maybe you would even have something to do or/and say about the fact that he was out and about sleeping around etc.
So i would say to you that you are so much better off without him and when you think about, i'm sorry but you can'nt of really really wanted to spend the rest of your life with him anyway because you went out and slept with someone other that him anyway. Unless subconsiously you felt the need to go out and sleep with someone else to make yourself feel a little about the fact that he had done it to you., do you understand what i am saying.

Answer 5

sweetie your are not in a good relationship.i feel you that you cheated on him i would do the same thing do.i believe in payback
ok so your should talk about your feeling to each other.you sholdn't have let him let cheat on you like that.2 times you can forgive but three time thats just taking controll over you.talk about what your wanna do if marriage is a good idea.i think he still love you ok or would have feel.his jealouse

Answer 6

Wow! No wonder the divorce rate is so high nowadays!

Use your brain, for heaven's sake! Neither of you are happy with each other. Both of you should go find people on whom you don't feel the need to cheat!

Answer 7

You know, cheating isn't a problem. Cheating is a symptom of another problem. If you're both cheating, than CLEARLY you aren't happy with one another. Why not just agree to go your separate ways?

Answer 8

why would you talk about marriage when you are both cheating on each other. it is very clear that neither of you have what the other one is looking for. end the relationship and go your seperate ways.

Answer 9

Find a new boyfriend. Seriuously this sounds like your relationship is not going to work out ever.

Answer 10

Never marry a man who will cheat on you...or with you...period.
If he'll do it before your married, what would stop him after?
You are asking for MAJOR heartbreak sweetie...RUN, don't walk, the other way.....