I went to a co-workers wedding a few years ago where all the bridesmaids, with the exception of one that was a sophomore in high school, were all hot college students. Well, I had sex with all of them during the wedding party in the back room. At different times ofcourse. My friend, who I also work with, met one of the bridesmaids at the same wedding (they didn't have sex at the wedding) and afterwards, they started dating. They got engaged last year & their wedding is in a few months. My friend believes in the whole "come clean" thing to be honest with any controvesial thing that may be a problem if found out after they are married. His fiancé told him that she had a secret about me & he now won't get married till I tell him. I don't feel its any of his business. One thing she also wants me to tell him is that the HS sophomore at the time was actually her sister. What do I do? They weren't together when I had sex with her and her sister at the wedding!
2007-03-02 00:45:34 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Thanks for all your support so far. This is not a joke.
To clear up the sister thing a lot of you did not understand. She was a HS Sophomore at the time of the wedding a few years ago. I didn't know her age & had sex with her too.
My friend is a big mouth at work and also with basically anyone that will listen to him. He's also an *** and very judgemental. If I tell him, he will hate his fiancé and they will probably not get married. On top of that, he will think very low of me by having sex with bridesmaid at a wedding. To top it all off, he will tell the world about my sexual encounter with her sister, which ofcourse will be highly inappropriate at work. Also, she doesn't know I had sex with her sister but her sister thought she knew so when her sister heard about this whole thing, her sister told my friend that I also have something to tell him about that. I am in a very bad situation where I want to look for a new job, and a new friend.
2007-03-02 01:21:19 · update #1
In your message you said "His fiancé told him that she had a secret about me & he now won't get married till I tell him." Here is the solution:
You talk to "her" (his fiancé) and ask her what she wants: Does she want you to tell him that you and her had sex during that wedding years ago? Why can't she tell him herself? If she wants you to tell him, you should point out that if he cancels their wedding because of it you should not be blamed. Most importantly, you should point out to her that you will only tell him that you had sex with "her" because it is not her or his business as who else you had sex with. Let her know you'd rather keep it to yourself, which implies that you prefer she not tell him about it (your having sex with other bridesmaids).
Regard to the whole "come clean" thing, it is between your friend and his fiancé. You don't have to "come clean" with him or her.
2007-03-02 05:00:56 · answer #1 · answered by abc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly its not any of his business. Thats your personal sex life and you didnt do anything wrong. The girl is wrong, because she slept with you and then got into a relationship with your friend, Shes a garden tool if you get my drift. You should have told your friend his girl was a garden tool and told him why when you first saw them together. Now your friend is going to be mad at you, because you didnt tell him in the beginning, and shes going to turn him against you, shes going to still get married to him and you are going to be left out the loop. Because she should have been woman enough to tell him from the start or right now. But you see she went behind your back and told your friend that you were being dishonest with him. So the light will shine on her, like I told you your guy isnt your friend. I say the next time you guys are all together, just bust her out.
2007-03-02 00:57:28 · answer #2 · answered by FauxDr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really like the idea of being totally honest to each other before getting married...that's the idea of loyalty.If u tell him that the HS sophomore was her sister...wouldn't that lie come out at some point of time?by anyone who had seen her?if yes..then it's better u keep out of the whole thing.If your friend asks u..just tell him that as his fiance has said that she has a secret about u...only she knows about it and u dont have a clue!And if your lie can actually help them...i mean if there arent any chances of it coming out..then..perhaps u can contribute to it a little bit..just so that someone's marriage is not ruined.follow your heart...do the right thing.good luck
2007-03-02 00:54:59 · answer #3 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A typical wedding party has 5-7 girls besides the bride. I think your full of ****, If you baged one I'd be impressed, if you baged one at the rehearsal and one at the wedding I'd be surprized but to say you had them all at different time during that wedding is BS
2007-03-02 13:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by Answerman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is insisting, then tell him. Get it all out in the open now so you don't have to worry about it.
If you don't tell him, then you are going to feel very uncomfortable every time you are around him and his wife.
One of the oldest sayings in the book is sooo true, "The truth will set you free".
2007-03-02 01:00:28 · answer #5 · answered by CJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd normally say "no"...but since this guy is insisting...I'd tell him. I 'd say I didn't tell him before b/c it didn't matter-- you did it before they were dating. As for the sister thing, I'm a little confused about the details, but I'd refuse to tell any more lies...Just come clean with the dude, and if he gets mad at you...hey, he asked for it, right?
2007-03-02 00:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really ****** them all! Well it's too complicated but if you had sex before they start their relationship just tell it! You don't need to be afraid, do you? You also should try to have sex with one person each time or if you can't have sex with strangers!
2007-03-02 00:52:48 · answer #7 · answered by Sissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that your secret is that you're gay and you didn't know how to come "clean" to him. Then when he says 'really?!?!?' you can be like "No, I actually was banging girls like a porn star one night and your fiance was one of the lucky ones."
I'd laugh. Who cares dude. Make her tell him, you're not the one in the relationship. Plus, she sold you out by saying that you have a secret, trying to make you confess...that's not fair.
2007-03-02 00:57:46 · answer #8 · answered by Reens 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yuck, how skanky can you get....
What you did before they met is none of his business, everyone has a past and that's just something he'll have to get over.
2007-03-02 00:57:01 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont say anything its in the past and they were not together
im suprised that you didnt brag about it to him earlier before they were together
good luck but dont tell
and if she want to come clean let her tell him dont let her put that on you
2007-03-02 01:16:03 · answer #10 · answered by bandan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋