It's been a while since i have been on the dating scene and i am not sure if i did the right thing or made a complete idiot of myself. I was hoping for a guy's opinion on this....
There is this guy i like. actually he is my brother's lawyer and helped us with a court case late last year. I like him, kinda sorta a crush. we get along great too and he has always been there to help in any way he can - and never charges me anything for legal advice either - very nice guy! So today i had to drop by his office cos i promised a bottle of wine for his help and told him that if he is ever in my part of town, to call and have coffee. He didn't answer because his secretary was around.
... so my question is....
1. did i make a complete fool of myself and would a guy take this as a girl asking him out?
2. If so, should i drop him an email to say hello once in a while. (we have emailed back and forth in the past)
3. How do i go about finding out if he likes me - without actually asking him out.
2007-03-02 00:35:49 · 10 answers · asked by lilmisssquare 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have acted perfectly in order. Nothing amiss yet. So don't go acting all goofy and worried now. You have set the ball rolling. Just be yourself. The ball is now in his court. Any man with even half a set of balls will realise that you like him and make a move even if partially paralysed lame or dense. Just act normal and see how he swings.
2007-03-02 00:46:48 · answer #1 · answered by X factor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this lawyer actually more friendly with your brother than a lawyer usually would be? If you find that the answer to this is yes then i would say that maybe you are reading to much into the way he is with you. But if not then maybe he does like you and perhaps the reason for not saying anything in font of his secretary is for reasons such as Not dating clients. or sorry to say maybe he is a player! But if you really want to no what he feels/thinks then why not catch him when he is on his own and then ask him again and if he again does not answer then just forget about him. but you have to keep in mind the fact that If you don't ask then you don't get!- ever heard that saying? And even if you find out that he doesn't actually like you in any other way apart from client-lawyer type relationship then you may at first feel embarrassed, but trust me you will soon get over it, it is not the end of the world when you get turned down by someone.
Then on the other hand if he actually says that yea he does like you then you will probably still end up feeling a bit like a fool for not coming out with it sooner and asking. so either way you may feel a bit like a fool whether you get him or not ay.
Basically JUST GO FOR IT because you only live once and if you don't get him then someone else will.
GOOD LUCK
2007-03-02 00:50:24 · answer #2 · answered by muncher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not make an idiot of yourself.
I think you handled your flirtation with good taste, without over-doing it.
I think your lawyer/crush is either with someone or something, because he has had the opportunity to respond to you. You have given him ample opportunity to contact you and ask you out.
I think you should lay back and play it cool and see if he contacts you. Either way don't feel bad, because you havent done anything wrong at all. If he isnt interested that's his loss.
You sound like a sweetheart, don't be discouraged, but don't pursue him any further.
2007-03-02 00:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, no you didn't make a fool out of yourself, and if you did you'll get over to make a fool out of yourself again. Everybody makes a fool out of themselves once in a while. If you dropped a bottle of wine off at my office I think I would have invited you out for lunch and shared a glass with you. Maybe this guy was busy and couldn't talk to you then.
Ask him out that's the only way you'll find out.
2007-03-02 00:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, a lawyer gets many proposals like yours. Just because you verbalized your intentions while delivering the wine, though, doesn't make you an idiot. It's all in the nature of things of the heart.
Now, all you can do is ease off a little and see if he contacts you. If he doesn't, he is not interested.
Often, people who help you out in times of need (ministers, doctors, lawyers) may exude a caring manner...but it is not intended in a romantic or personal manner because it's unethical.
2007-03-02 00:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by Lois M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did not make an idiot of yourself at all ! That was great. SO now he should have a clue, you made the first move and now it's up to him to respond. Give him a couple of days and try to call (casual conversation) and see if he mentions anything. I'm sure he will. But you did fine, don't worry about it.
2007-03-02 00:57:00 · answer #6 · answered by nikkid6910705 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong with the way you acted yes keep in contact as friends and just coz he didnt anwser you doesnt mean he wont be around 4 coffee and maybe he is dating secretary let nature take its course
2007-03-02 09:24:17 · answer #7 · answered by ariesfunram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Email him in a day or two and tell him it was nice to see him again and that the offer of coffee is an open offer, redemmable anytime. Then see what he does. If he responds, its on. If not, then he wasnt interested to begin.
2007-03-02 00:47:54 · answer #8 · answered by lucygoosy2004 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about it, he was probably wishing his secretary would get lost at that moment. Say nothing more, if he's interested he will make it a point to contact you.
2007-03-02 00:44:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
chek .is he married? any affair..?....atttitude..?character..? if match then go ahead..nothing wrong in that..
hahhhaaaa
2007-03-02 00:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋