Me and my Ex have known each other for 4 years but we broke up in the 1st year of our relationship. He broke up with me b/c he said he wasn't giving me the time I deserved. We can't seem to get away from each other... I talk to him everyday!!! I still love him and he says he still loves me but he is not ready for a relationship with anyone..but he still says he loves me and that if he were to marry anyone it would be someone like me.. Am I wasting me time? Should I move on or fight for my love...PLEASE HELP
2007-03-02 00:05:06 · 10 answers · asked by CeCee Miller 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"Not giving you the time you deserve..."? What kind of a line is that? Well if you two were married then wouldn't he be giving you the time you deserved? What happened during that year you were with him? Was he there for you or not? If he was, what is stopping him from marrying you now? And if he wasn't around that much then, then he probably won't ever be around for you no matter whenever. When he says he isn't ready for a relationship with anyone that's the most accurate thing he's said to you yet. Your darn right he isn't ready! Not then, not now, not anytime, not with anyone and certainly not with you. Besides having a nice convenient thing going on with you this guy is sorely afraid of commitment. Things are good for him the way they are with you now. He can spend his time however and whenever he wants without the serious involvement.
The other lame wishy washy excuse about finding someone like you is a real put down. He's as much said that you aren't good enough or your not up to his expectations. He isn't going to get someone any closer to you than YOU. There is only one you in the entire universe and if he should ever happen upon that "someone" you can bet your bottom dollar he wouldn't marry that either. It's too bad you've become so emotionally involved with this guy because not only is he confused but he is using you. He will continue to do so as long as you put up with it. If things haven't changed in four years then it doesn't seem likely that they ever will. He can drag this out indefinitly if you let it. So if you are content with this arrangement then keep right on going. But if you want something more you aren't going to find it with him. It broke up once and it hasn't seemed to really been able to work; not the way you seem to want. If you want to know if you're wasting your time just look at the past four years and see if you've done enough fighting for your love.
2007-03-02 01:09:30 · answer #1 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is keeping you on the sideline while he does his own thing. He is telling you that he would marry someone like you so that you will wait for him & not date other guys. He broke up with you with an excuse that he thought would sound like he was doing it for you.
You fell for it all. Its time to let him know that this is not the kind of relationship you want. You are alone & you don't have to be. If he wants to be a free spirit then let him be & move on. You can't live in limbo like this. Life is too short. You deserve to meet some nice guy who treats you right.
2007-03-02 08:23:11 · answer #2 · answered by Another Planet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years is a long time..and if you two are not an item then yes, I think he is wasting your time and so are you...(wasting his) However, HE is the one who broke up with you and HE is the one who said he couldn't give you the time you deserved...I dont think theres a battle to fight, you need to sit down and both declare your intentions as he may consider you only as a friend...
2007-03-02 08:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by kriss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. You gal are just an extended booty call, if a guy loves you he won't let you go. He will make sure that you are hi amd his alone. Don't be fulled by Mr I am all emotional, there is nothing like that. Move on to some that can't live without you!
2007-03-02 08:12:10 · answer #4 · answered by Wanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on girl friend,find someone who deserves you.Your wasting your time with him,hes using excuses.trust me get out and find mr right.Think of it this way every minute you wasts on him is a minute yoy could have been happy.Good Luck.
2007-03-02 08:14:50 · answer #5 · answered by acr_lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was an excuse to break up(a sorry one). He already found someone else or he wants to play the field.
At least he didnt want to cheat on you.
2007-03-02 08:10:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really likes u that much he would ask u 2 be his gf by now!i say u move on but the question is do u like him?
2007-03-02 08:09:57 · answer #7 · answered by d game guru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is waiting for someone with more physical excellence or looks(i have to be honest here sorry if it hurts u) ...but he likes ur character a lot...! so try improve ur looks!! and impress him again. if he says that again, move on!!
2007-03-02 08:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by ee2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should fight for your love
2007-03-02 08:10:06 · answer #9 · answered by T-Money 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he is using you.
2007-03-02 08:08:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋