My ex broke up with me 1 mth ago after 8 mths. I do love her and she told me she loved me.
She broke up with me because she said her feelings "had changed over a short period of time". This period coincided with her suffering from depression. About 1 week before we broke up (when she mentioned she might want to end things with me) she
admitted she was depressed. I persuaded her to go to her dr. She did and he gave her meds and sent her for counselling.
1 wk later she said she wasn't depressed and didn't need counselling and it was our relationshoip that was getting her down. Despite my best efforts to persuade her she should focus on the depression she wouldn't and ended things.
I know that I want to try and be with her (as long as she eventually acknowledges the depression and tries to sort it) but am not sure how to go about it. I have avoided contacting her for nearly 4 wks to give her space. I plan to contact her in the next few days to suggest a meet up.
What to do?
2007-03-01 23:50:47 · 19 answers · asked by bepositive1976 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
leave her be!
2007-03-01 23:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you didn't 'force' her into admitting depression and going to the doctor? Your comment 'as long as she eventually acknowledges the depression' says to me that you just won't accept that maybe it's you getting her down. 4 weeks is a long time with no contact. Has she not contacted you during this time? I think you should leave it until she contacts you. She may think that if she talks to you now, you may just say 'you're depressed' again. She needs to make her own mind up as to what is best for her. It isn't up to you. Good luck, it's hard when you love someone who may not love you back.
2007-03-01 23:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its gd 4 both of u to have a break n spaces. bottom line u shld have talk to her. mayb she has other problems thats bothering her n she lets out on the relationship instead.do she has any close frens that u no?coz mayb they can tell u y she is depressed. i no of some pple who wans to end their relationship but give excuses. ask yourself do u really wan to be with her? is it worth to give another try? but if she really suffering from depression,u muz have the patience as it wont be easy 4 u.she will need more than a help beside the meds n counselling. take your time n dun rush her..
2007-03-02 00:16:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. She needs some breathing space of her own. Let her settle down and if she still have the feeling for you, she will come back to yoiu naturally.
On the other hand, constantly pestering her may mess up things further and deprive the chance of a possible comeback.
2007-03-01 23:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by JP E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a very sexy, attractive and sensible lady to fill that empty void. Eventually you will feel altot better as the friendship/relationship grows, trust me. You will forget all about your ex. This is when for no reason the ex appears out of no where and attacks you. She will want back the relationship with you but you're going to tell her no.
2007-03-02 00:04:27 · answer #5 · answered by Darksuga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realize you are likely hurting, but leave her alone. You need to respect her and her "space". If it is depression that is tough to get past and only she would know. For your sake try just giving it some more time. Possibly try giving her a call to feel things out but try not to push it. Good luck!
2007-03-02 00:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by Theresa P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby boi dnt, never persuade a lady into getting bk with you. you may ask y?
she had feelings not love , feelingz come and go but luv comez and stay.
maybe the reason she got with you was because you wer funny and attractive but nw u neither to her, she decide that you are not meeting up to her standards and needs sme1 else.
what you need to do for me is?
sit dwn and ask ur inner man do you really like her
think!!! 4 weeks she hasnt called u wat do you think of her and dat
2007-03-02 00:48:00 · answer #7 · answered by Jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't contact her... let her make that decision. She has to concentrate on herself right now. If she still has feelings for you and want to try again I'm sure you hear something.
In the meantime get on with your life, and take care of yourself.
2007-03-02 00:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by cream city chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol schedule dates! i'm completely severe. like set up dates with each and every guy that asks you out and choose later in case you enjoyed any of them. it's going to shop issues below administration, and not finished chaos
2016-10-17 02:20:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet up with her see hows she's doin' then start a conversation they go from one topic to another soon u will find the one u want to talk about
2007-03-01 23:57:23 · answer #10 · answered by Adrienne W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once saw a guy, have a Screenie, named "Be Positive", and it,........ wait a minute,...... that's You! You're the one that says to be positive? Okay! Pardner. Your answer is right there. Two Points!
2007-03-01 23:58:10 · answer #11 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋