My feaanci and I are getting married soon. I'm a virgin but he really wants to have sex. I kind of want to too,but i want to feel like i waited to lose it until i was fully married.
But i really love him, and he really really wants to make love before we get married, And i want to make him happy.
I dont know what to do, What do you all think?
2007-03-01 23:50:17 · 45 answers · asked by soft_kitten899 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My fiancé and I are getting married soon. I'm a virgin but he really wants to have sex. I kind of want to too, but I want to feel like I waited to lose it until I was fully married.
But I really love him, and he really really wants to make love before we get married, and I want to make him happy.
I don’t know what to do, what do you all think?
2007-03-01 23:54:45 · update #1
*pikwynn*
o_O Like..omg thats the same date we are getting married on..o_O
2007-03-02 00:19:43 · update #2
If he loves you, he will respect you. If not, get out fast.
2007-03-09 06:25:07 · answer #1 · answered by Icewomanblockstheshot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny, I like how some are saying that is OK, others not. The thing is though, what do you believe? I understand that your husband to be would like to now. To be honest, most men would prefer it as often as we could get it. But this union is about the two of you. You have waited this long and if you choose to wait until after the ceremony, think about what that means to you and the reason the you wanted to wait in the first place. I am not an advocate for either, but an advocate for following your own beliefs so that years down the road you can sleep at night knowing that you did just what you should have according to you own heart. I hope I helped and congratulations!
2007-03-02 00:06:47 · answer #2 · answered by badgerman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I vote wait. How much more special is your wedding night going to be if you're a virgin. By the way until those papers are signed who's to say that he isnt going to get what he wants and ditch you after the fact?. that is one of the oldest tricks in the books right beside I'll marry you heres a ring lets do it oh you're pregnant cant be mine cya
2007-03-06 13:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by galixcysmagic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your virginity is the most precious gift you can offer your husband. He may be getting antsy, but I'm sure it's not to "test drive you" as some other people have suggested. I'm sure that he just loves you so much and views it a little differently than you do. With that in mind, I say wait till your wedding night--you've already waited so long. You're a virgin in this world of sex, sex sex! What a wonderful thing to have waited for. I honestly believe your wedding night will be so much more special if you save yourself til marriage. Either way, congratulations on your upcoming marriage! I hope the two of you are wonderfully happy.
2007-03-02 00:09:16 · answer #4 · answered by Finally Mrs. 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I know how you feel. My husband and I were the same way. I finally just gave in because it was too much and it worked out okay for me. I did not feel bad or anything on my wedding day. He is the only partner I have ever had (as is I for him), so that made me feel better. However, if this is really important to you and you feel you shoud hold on to your morals, I would wait. If he loves you, he will understand.
2007-03-08 09:51:51 · answer #5 · answered by BamaBelle810 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how important it is for u to wait till marriage and if it is as important to u as u say it is, then u have a problem, cause it obviously means nothing to your fiance. Do you want your kids to wait and do it the right way or do u agree with your fiance that having sex before marriage is perfectly ok. Sounds to me like u have alot of soul searching to do.
2007-03-05 15:17:34 · answer #6 · answered by virgin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u have waited so long, it is better to wait for some more time. All the control u have exerted to wait, would be wasted if u did it before the marriage. Your bf will also appreciate in the long term that he got a real virgin, without any disease or problems.
2007-03-02 00:02:26 · answer #7 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you really feel like you want to wait till your married, your
Fiance, will understand and respect your decision to wait.
If you give in now, would you not be compromising how you feel?
It's not about making him happy, it's about living with your decision first!
I've been there and my husband now(fiance then) did not mind waiting for me....it was well worth the wait for both us! If anything it made the wedding night even more special having waited.
2007-03-02 00:02:36 · answer #8 · answered by danielromero60 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have been married for 33 years. Both my husband and I were virgins when we married. We are both very glad that we waited. You will be too. It's only a few more weeks. Just keep reassuring your fiance that you are both strong enough to wait and that it will be worth it.
2007-03-02 02:01:33 · answer #9 · answered by babydoll 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, I know I didnt wait until I was married and I am 100% happy about that decision. remember your going to spend the rest of your life with this guy...what if hes really bad. I was in love with this guy before and I'm so glad we did else because he was the type of guy that though sex was only for him and it was my job to make it good for him. I would have never known that about him by personality as he would do anything for me, buy me anything, but felt that by doing this I owed him something. I'm not saying your fiance is like that, but you never know what the sex will be like and once your married, its a little too late. I also have a few friends who waited and said their wedding nite was terrible as they couldnt even have sex because it hurt too much and ended up getting upset over it and what not. its up to you, but i recommend you try it before you buy it.
2007-03-02 02:37:45 · answer #10 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you want to wait until amrriage, you should have a heartfelt talk with your fiance and tell him this. I personally don't see the point in it, but I am not the subjdect of this question-you are, and it certainly seems important to you. Therefore, I think waiting until marriage would be best for you.
2007-03-02 01:13:39 · answer #11 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋