me and my boyfriend have been together for ages, i mean nearly a year, and i went to his house once, and later found out it was the mother of his kids' house.
ever since he comes round my house
hes never took me to where he SAYS he lives (with his parents or sometimes his sisters)
and because my house isnt free anymore (her family) we dont have any sex..it must be living with his baby mother?
he makes excuses as to why i cant go to his, he says my age or sometimes says because i'm not a christian his parents will be dissapointed...but yet hes had 3 kids out of wedlock?!
we go out near enough everyday..but it seems he isnt willing to tell me the truth, or take me to his "home"..we havent had sex in a month and it because i cant go to his "house"
he must still be living with his babymother...
Help me...i sound so niave, i know i should just leave...why is he lying..he must be having sex with her so he doesnt need it with me and we just hang out. were like friends :(
2007-03-01 23:00:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i meant he cant come to mine anymore because my mums doesnt work away anymore.and i dont knwo if i want her to meet him if he isnt taking me seriously
2007-03-01 23:02:05 · update #1
i dont think he gives an F*&! about her. Because it must have been her bed we slept in when i went to his house that longg time ago. i feel so bad 4 her. i asked him once if he ever cheated on her and the idiot said yes. he said he poured a drink over her because she was making a scene. Then the girl and the babymother were talking to one another afterwards...
ugh i've just ignored a big sign..i'm gonna leave
2007-03-01 23:18:12 · update #2
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If you love him, tell him to come out with EVERY skeleton that he has.
This way it gives YOU the opportunity to make the decision if you choose to continue with the relationship.
Continuously being blind-sided with life changing events will only create a divide that's already there. He's been dishonest and I can't honestly blame you, if you chose to move forward.
Just by concealing where he lived (with the child's mother) - that's too much for some people.
But, we're grown and you have the responsibility that you only owe to yourself and your happiness.
Secretive is also another word for deceptive.
Misdirection has been his game.
One thing is for certain - with everything coming full circle and finding out his TRUE realities - you'll have to be EVEN stronger to deal with the responsibilities OF THE 3 KIDS! What if he tells you to babysit them while he goes out? Unfair to you, no doubt.
You're too young to deal with that and you shouldn't have to.
It's time to step and let him clean up his life. He's not ready to deal with a REAL relationship.
One love....and good luck!
2007-03-01 23:07:40 · answer #1 · answered by HottNikkels 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More Than Likely He Lives With His Baby Moms They Have How Many Kids Togather You Should Have Left A Long Time Ago, When He Had You At Her House Because Thats The First Sign Of He Dont Give A F**K About You Nor Her Sounds Like A Bunch Of Drama. Why Not Get In Touch With His Baby Mother And Talk To Her You Do Know Where She Lives!!!
2007-03-02 00:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by Dee Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to put this into context without knowing roughly how old you are and knowing the exact details. There is definitely something wrong although I am not convinced that the problem is necessarily that he is cheating on you.
Firstly, you say you've been to his house once? Was the kids' mother actually there? How did you know it was her house? Secondly, have you actually met his family? Is he possibly hiding something about his family?
Have you two actually ever sat down and talked about his relationship with his baby's mother. Not "are you cheating on me with her" accusation but a genuine talk about what his plans are to support his baby and the mother. The thing is that if he's going to be involved in his kid's life which I should hope he would to some extent, it is inevitabel that he will have some contact with her and you need discuss what role he wants to play in the baby's life.
I'm not sure that he is cheating on you but I do think that a relationship cannot exist without trust and communication and there doesn't seem to be much of either at the moment.
2007-03-01 23:20:14 · answer #3 · answered by LMS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since he started cheating in the beginning I don't know why he wouldn't continue doing it with some other person.
Cheating on someone means there has been unloyalty to a commitment. And do you have any commitment with this guy ?
You say he's your boyfriend. But he's another woman's man and kid's father. What commitment are you hoping?
Sorry if I seem a bit rude but, I suggest you find yourself a younger guy just your generation.
Good luck
2007-03-01 23:18:43 · answer #4 · answered by Juice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is obvious is that you are not making good decisions. Why are you spending time with a person so irresponsible he has not 1 but 3 kids out of wedlock?
You need to decide that you like yourself at least as much a you like him. When you do, you wont waste time on such a zero.
2007-03-01 23:08:46 · answer #5 · answered by CHELLE BELLE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if he is cheating..i feel sorry for the babys mother..what has she done to deserve this??
2007-03-01 23:06:34 · answer #6 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he goes to sleep, smell his penis to see if it smells of another woman. If it does, keep him alseep and tie him up and leave him naked in a ghetto with a sign that shows he is racist. if it doesnt, then wake him up and make his penis smell of woman.
2007-03-01 23:07:07 · answer #7 · answered by toon_army_brat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋