Peace and Love
2007-03-01 22:38:41 · 14 answers · asked by digilook 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The paramount thing we can do to set right the wrongs we have caused is to cease to cause harm, namely to not do the erroneous action again. Where making amends is possible, then it would be very good to do so. Sometimes, however, we must be wary that our desire to atone does not become so selfish that we ignore the real harm that our attempt to make amends might cause.
For example, a man has a brief affair with his secretary. He ends the affair when his guilt is so great that he can no longer endure commiting the action. Because his selfish need for punishment is so great, he could completely destroy his family, his marriage, and his wife's happiness by dumping his guilt and its source upon her. It might be better in this case for him to carry his guilt alone and resolve to use it as a reminder why he must never ever cheat again and why he should work to be a better, more loving husband.
2007-03-02 05:12:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The past cannot be changed, but we can change our approach to people. If we harm someone, we can ask for forgiveness and apologize. If someone harms us, we can forgive them. If we walk in a constant state of forgiveness, then it is unlikely that we will harm people intentionally. People are going to get offended at us no matter what---some people live in a spirit of offense, which means that they have not grown up; every little thing upsets them, or they walk in arrogance. The vast majority of people want to avoid confrontation. Matthew 5:25 & 26 offers some good advice on dealing with an adversary. Seldom will there come a situation that is worth starting a fight over. Peace and love is the proper realtionship to cultivate with people.
2007-03-02 06:46:39 · answer #2 · answered by Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on your perception of things.
Some people may say, go to the person you have done harms and appologize to him. Some say, you have to add repentance to it. Some people may say, there is nothing you can do about it, because if you have pierced the wall with a nail, even if you cover it with new cement, the result will not be the same as before.
You had better find the best solutions. Perhaps appologizing, and making determination not to repeat the same harms to that person or others, will do good.
2007-03-02 06:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by The Mask 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's possible apologize for the act and ask to be forgiven, not only by the one you felt you have done harm to but also by God, or your personal Higher Power and yourself. some people might have the need for you to prove that you are sincere or you may have to earn their trust once again. and that's ok too. doing what is right is what matters.
many blessings.
2007-03-02 06:45:26 · answer #4 · answered by polgara922 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If we can't help the people we have harmed, we can pray to God for forgiveness. If possible, talk to those we have harmed and let them know it was either un-intentional or the fact that we have changed and are now sorry. Ask for their forgiveness.
2007-03-02 06:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We ask for pardon. We apologize. We recognize we have done wrong. Then we repent. We ask pardon from God. If we are truly sorry we will try not to sin again. Then we can try to repair the damage done if we can. If we stole something, we have to give it back to the person we stole it from. If we can't, we can give the money to the poor or some charitable institution like the Church or other people who need it more.
2007-03-02 06:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by hope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus taught that if you have a problem with someone, or they have a problem with you, ask God for help (and for forgiveness if you have wronged the other person), go to them, and say you are sorry (If you are not at fault, say sorry that things aren't good between you, and apologise with the idea that you did not intend to offend them).
Once you have done that (they will usually accept this and thank you and also say sorry), then pray to God, thanking Him for His great mercy, and for strength to be kind to all.
2007-03-02 06:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an atheist, I don't harm people in the first place. So there's nothing that needs to be set right.
2007-03-02 06:41:35 · answer #8 · answered by gelfling 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
By first being honest with yourself, by making necessary changes in your personal way of life, and to a better spiritual understanding with God and through God toward your Fellow Man
2007-03-02 07:14:20 · answer #9 · answered by phil1969@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving yourself firstly then asking forgiveness of who you have harmed
2007-03-02 06:47:33 · answer #10 · answered by Screamin' Banshee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋