how can parents raise their children without neither depriving them nor spoiling them???

Question

I think it's a hard equation because I have seen this in my little cousins.
some of them got all they wanted when they were children and so they grow irresponsible and spoiled
while other were raised in a very strict environment where everything is with limits and now they feel that they were deprived from a lot of things that still affect them till now.
so how can parents well raise their childrens without spoiling them????

Answer 1

By giving them everything they need and half of what they want.

Answer 2

It is called "finding that happy medium" it is not difficult to do. Children who live in a happy home invironment are not deprived nor do they have to be "spoilt" ..... what makes it hard is what they see other children are given but you have to have the answer for that, meaning for example, "maybe their parents have jobs that pay more money" etc. etc. and explain to them how some children get nothing at all, no privledges, no outings, no money, and so it goes on......you do not have to give give give, if children are taught at an early age then they are very used to not being spoilt, nor do they consider themselves deprived........hope this helps

Answer 3

I think you need to respect children as human-beings but also let them know why you are in charge. Not because they are 'stupid' or 'lower in society' It's because you have lived longer then they have, you have more experience and they need help to prepare themselves for the adult world.
Answer their questions, let them state their personal opinion and if they want an explanation why they have to go to bed or as to why they are not allowed that toy explain it to them clearly and kindly and be positive. There is nothing worse than bringing a child up in a negative envirournment and where they don't feel respected as an individual.
That's just my opinion and how I liked to be treated when I was smaller.

Answer 4

Set the rules and if kids want something that the parents cannot afford or think that they should not have, parents need to tell their kids do they see a money tree growing in the back yard? They weren't even born with a plastic spoon in their mouth let alone a gold one.

Answer 5

I think material items should be given in moderation maybe as a reward not because they "want " them.I remember being young and with the exception of birthdays or Christmas very rarely got toys ect, i didnt feel deprived it,s just the way it was.Yes there were things i wanted but didnt get and i used to think it,s "not fair" but my father made up for it with love and i really mean that.I had friends who were given everything they asked for, but were never praised or cuddled the gifts were more to get them out the parents hair.I got attention, help, cuddles and it felt good to me.Mind you, i constantly remind him he never let me get my ears pierced when "absolutely" everyone else had them done.!

Answer 6

By not always giving them what they want. Even if they cry alot avoid giving them what they want. Parents are soft hearted and give what there children want. But this can spoil them. Some parents feel anoyed of them crying and begging so they give what they want that's all the advice I can give.

Answer 7

We had 4 to bring up We provided good meals we provided good health and what education they needed. WE did not put one before the other we gave nothing to excess even punishment was explained and why We are proud of the way they grew up and behave today.

Answer 8

Not sure what the answer to this is but if you find out let me know because i'll publish it & become a millionaire. Kids just need consistant boundries, love & respect & they will learn to give it back to others.

Answer 9

By supporting them

Answer 10

let me know when you find out PLEASE!!!!