I just broke up with my boyfriend of 2yrs. He wants us to become best friends instead. Is this the right thing to do, or should I just walk away and leave it at that?
2007-03-01 21:29:31 · 25 answers · asked by Kayle xxx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, we parted on good terms, I love him with all my heart and he says he still loves me, but he have been having alot of problems. He said he didn't want it to end badly and for us to become great friends.
2007-03-01 21:40:31 · update #1
You can remain friends if you want to, but there needs to be a period of time between breaking up and becoming friends otherwise you'll be suffocated.
Have a month away from him with no contact. See how you feel afterwards, if you want him as a friend, then speak to him about it. If not, you've lost nothing.
This approach has worked for me on a number of occasions.
2007-03-01 21:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by Jugular 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be friends with an ex lover, but if either of you were in love with the other then it can be very tricky. Why does he want to remain friends. If this is because he did the splitting with you I would say that it is probably to assuage his guilt over it. If it was you, then he may think that by saying that he can win you back. As I dont know the full situation I couldnt say positively. If you have mutual friends and you all hang around together however, it may be a genuine attempt to keep everything on an even keel.
Things like this are always easier to say than to put into practice anyway. Why not just wait and see what happens - you will probably just drift away from each other.
2007-03-02 05:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by The Real Mrs Incredible 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just broke up with my boyfriend of 18 months. We decided it was the right thing to do. It's good that you are still friends but be cautious. You could end up being on and off for some time and then become jealous if the other finds someone else. You can stay friends just don't hang out as much or text as much and maybe things will work themselves out
2007-03-02 05:49:58 · answer #3 · answered by fox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key here is how will you feel. Will he want to be F***k buddies for convenient sex. Are you going to feel comfortable watching him in the company of other women. Will your ability to move on and into other friendships and relationships be hindered if you are still seeing him socially. If you need the time out to repair the hurt you take it. If his offer of friendship is genuine he will be there as a mate 6months 12 months however long down the track.Sometimes the one doing the breaking up doesn't want to be seen to be the bad guy or feel guilty about the heartache they have caused offering to be a best buddy is an easy out.
2007-03-02 05:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex and i have not long broken up after 8 years together, i tried to stay friends with him but it was hard seeing him move on and then when we were together it was hard to work out the boundries. Personally for myself i have now decided to not contact him concentrate on sorting out my own life and maybe in time we can become friends but right now its too hard and upsetting to be friends.
It depends on how you feel about the break up if your cut up and didnt want it to end, then you need to face the fact that the only reason you want to stay friends is incase he wants you back!!
Take some time out for you then make the best descion for your future :)
2007-03-02 05:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by janetlouise24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away, its nearly impossible to change the habits of 2 years back to just best friends, sounds to me like he wants his cake and eat it too. Walk away take some time and when it's right u probably will be good friends but if you dont heal first you are screwing your friendship more.
2007-03-02 05:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by Diz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That depends how strong your feelings still are for him. If you dont feel anything other than like a friend to him then theres nothing wrong with being friends but if you have stronger feelings for him then your likely to get hurt and it will be best to move on completely and just be sival if you ever see him out. Give yourself a bit of time and you might be able to be friends eventually.
2007-03-02 05:33:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sorry - But Men & Women cant be "Friends" - Especially if you have feelings involved. Imagine how you'll feel if he gets a new girlfriend? Make a clean break of it - You'll only prolong the hurt for both of you. If you both have new partners, and the feelings have subsided, then possibly - But its really not worth it if you have feelings.
2007-03-02 06:49:05 · answer #8 · answered by want_to_explore_life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away, when you become close to another boy, he'll be there, getting jealous, and because of him being your 'best friend' you'll have to do damage control or even dump your new b/f.
And he might be looking to wedge his way back into your pants. Ditch him.
2007-03-02 05:33:14 · answer #9 · answered by kenniemcooper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on your feelings and how wanted the breakup. If one of you still has feelings for the other it might be best to walk away, it will be difficult to move on and get on with your life if you are still friends and close to someone to have feelings for.
2007-03-02 05:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by OriginalBubble 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋