I have talked to this guy for awhile in passing and he asked me out in jan - dating ever since. Things are great. He says he will do anything for me and I don't doubt it (he drove 60 miles to take me to breakfast after work one morning).
The problem is me.
On the outside I am friendly and inviting, but I let no one get close to me.
This is because I am a "cold" person. I dont feel much. I am detached - emotionalally and physicially. Last night he said that he loved me, and I could not say anything. Even when we are "together" I am just going through the motions for him. Is there something I can do, he is starting to worry?
2007-03-01 20:52:27 · 8 answers · asked by shae b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe just to get in touch with your feelings. Pray about it :)
2007-03-01 20:56:08 · answer #1 · answered by The Stig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i can really relate to your situation, i am aswel a very cold person, im friendly , nice genuine but emotionally and physically i am cold, with me and my fiance , its not that i dont love him, but its just sometimes i am cold, but im a emotional person,I dont like nobody getting close to me or to what is inside my heart, i think im too scared of sharing certain things but it doesnt mean that i dont love him, i do love him, even though me and him are in different countries but we love eachother, butsometimes i just get that feeling that i wanna be alone and then i start questioning myself about my life and what i really want in life, sometimes im so cold to my fiance we speak on the fone and i cant even say i love you, because i'm either too depressed emotionally and physically,
with you i think maybe this is your first serious commitment (jus like me) and maybe your just scared of it, and because your not used to it, your detaching yourself from him and maybe even questioning yourself what are you doing with this guy? do i really like him??, do i love him? and stuff like this, i do this all the time but deep down i know i love him but its just i am gernerally a cold person, with hardly any emotions , unless its to do with myself. so i think that you and me both need to allow ourselves to be more open with our lovers and open our hearts and thoughts, and try to change for the better, because we could loose something so good ? dont you think, i hope this answer makes sense to you , i can really relate to you honestly i can, but we need to change ourselves, and personally i have taken this as a lesson to learn about myself, and im still trying to change my emotional status,
i hope that you two will be good together
2007-03-02 05:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yeah he is worrying but dont worry love is such a strong word maybe you are not ready to say it. give it time it will come and take a chance open up and tell him how you feel and tell him that you do love him it is just hard for you to say it.
2007-03-02 04:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by c_kaper@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that you simply dont love him.
no one is a "cold" person.
I might be wrong but you feel detached to him couse you are detached to him and you need some one different.
do what feels good to you.
2007-03-02 05:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by daglas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ou can't tell him that you love him, show him. Do someting special; like, find out what he realy likes and buy it for him. Choclates or biltong or toffies. You know men love their food. k!
Good luck!!!
2007-03-02 04:59:54 · answer #5 · answered by amanda b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need some counseling and some "Viagra"
2007-03-02 04:59:59 · answer #6 · answered by dua 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for a therapy, u need one
2007-03-02 04:56:25 · answer #7 · answered by Fr3e@K3D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you like girls.
2007-03-02 04:57:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋