Is it possible to mistake fear of commitment with not loving someone? I'm asking this because when my girl broke up with me she lied to me about the reason why she was breaking up with me. She had told me a few weeks before we broke up that she was scared because she didn't know what was going to happen with us. Then I just talked to her a couple days ago and she told me that she felt like she didn't love me anymore but it wasn't my fault. I've thought about this and the only thing I can think is that she's misinterpeting her fear of commitment with not loving me. What do you think?
2007-03-01 20:47:42 · 8 answers · asked by Jake 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
really in lots of ways, its the same thing. She's looked to the future and tried to imagine being with you permanently, and it doesn't feel right. Maybe it wouldn't feel right with anyone just yet, you don't say how old you both are, but if its plus or minus 20 by a few years, then your both still young. I'd back off for a bit if I were you, hard I know, but give the girl some space, and she'll come to a clearer way of thinking much quicker. It's a bit harsh to say she lied, you kno, cos shes probably just as confused as you are. Hope it all works out for you.
2007-03-01 20:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by myfavouritelucy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, but I wouldn't bank on it. That's pretty harsh, her telling you that she doesn't love you. Even if she does have a fear of commitment, how are you gonna change that? I think she would just end up hurting you more than she already has if you continued to pursue it. Also, you got two different answers, she can't even be straight with you. I bet she doesn't even know what she wants.
Move on. I know it sucks but I'm sure there are other girls who would love to be committed with you and not be scared of it.
2007-03-02 04:54:00 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal Rene 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Fear can keep a person at arms length. It's sad when you love someone and they do this to you....it's even sadder for them that they have been abused in the past and are afraid to love again. Being alone is less painful for them.
2007-03-02 05:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey jake,u sound a great guy romantic and u fell in the perfect trap for her,when a woman gets into a guy and knows he is serious or too good they just want fun so what to do to get the commitment seriousity and kill it off and sorry to say dump him bad is by saying i dont love u ,its the killer line to the heart ,she doesnt deserve yur care or love move on and dont even look back
2007-03-02 04:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by reifguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it really matter if it's fear of commitment and not love. In many ways, I think they are one and the same. You cannot love without commitment - that's simply infactuation.
move on, there's more and better out there.
2007-03-02 04:50:29 · answer #5 · answered by wigginsray 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Jake.....I think she was trying to be kind to you friend. It's a story as old as time....it's not you, it's me.
Move on pal. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start all over again.
Take care . Chin up. xx
2007-03-02 04:52:02 · answer #6 · answered by lou b 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
girls change their minds all the time. the world is big. find a girl who knows what she wants and wont put you through this mind blender...
2007-03-02 04:50:29 · answer #7 · answered by nonphysical 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe its ur fault maybe ur doiin something she doesnt like u know i should know im a girl
2007-03-02 04:52:54 · answer #8 · answered by W m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋