i did not tell him,so he went as far as checking in the bank and even insulted me that am a thief.and yet i have been with him for 12yrs he does not take my word,he spies on me big time,yet he holds many secrets from me.nowdays he even refuses to eat my food i serve,he enjoys romours soo much.and very mean to me .so pliz tell me what should i do in this situation.
2007-03-01 20:30:43 · 6 answers · asked by benita_lubega 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
gud work i must appreciate. let him check and do watever he wants to now as the accounts r already opened.
dont think much abt such a selfish man. just concentrate on ur kids and bring them in the best way for which they shud understand the human values and dont turn out to b like their father at all.
and as far as he doesnt have ur served meal leave that for him if he wants to have u r there else leave him aside all by himself for sometime and this might make him realise wat he has done and wat all u r facing.
if u love him do care for him but dont run after him degrading urself.
may god bless ur family.
2007-03-01 22:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by nice_lady559 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me share with what my motto about men and this something in which I share constantly with my fiancee 'any man who don't take good care of his family, is not a man' People have their own way of communicating. Apparently your husband is giving you some signs, and he want you to interpret what is going on in his head. It may be his way of asking you for a divorce. You don't have time to play games, therefore, please try to understand what I am about to suggest.
If there anyone in your family member who he is respectful or shy with, have the person to come to your home. Why? because I want you to sit your husband down quietly, and he will do this with the person who he respect or shy with. Once your husband is seated request for your family member to go to another part of the house, so you can be alone with him. Don't sit next to him, seat yourself across from him.
Look directly into his eyes! Explain to him first why you invited your relative to come...now deliver the important questions. You must know what's in his heart about the marriage, the kids, the family! Explain to him, no more arguments, no more shouting, no more mistreatment etc... You want to know what is he trying to say?
Be direct, and don't allow him to BS you until you know for sure if this man still loves you and the kids? Let him know you're not going to allow him to play games with your emotions!
If he gets mad or began behave unconditionally, just dismiss yourself and take the kids to a safe place where you are able to put this matter into perspectives. Leave him for days to think as well. Hopefully he would make an effort to reason this situation, but ask him to put in his 50% to save this marriage! Most of all keep your husband in your prayers. Buy him a Bible and place on his bed when he returns from work. I will pray for you tonight, honest!
God Bless
2007-03-02 05:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave my heart to you.. but thank god you knew what was good for the children. If the brainless man don't believe in savings, let him be... but don't let him touch the money.
You do your part as a wife and a mother (I know it is easier to say then to be done). Don't give him the opportunity to tackle you by turning the table around and say that you are not taking care of him and the family. Let him say whatever he likes becos the MOUTH belongs to him. If those who hears him and believes what he said, let them be cos they do not have a brain to think and analyse the problem.
Take care.
2007-03-02 05:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by aUDREy TTT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run! I lived in a home with a father just like your husband and yet my mother is still with him and I grew up resenting my mother for putting up with it - coz ultimately, his behaviour will start to affect your kids (if it hasnt already) and it just goes full circle.
You have to think of your children, not just yourself and really, if your not happy, how can your children learn from you to be happy, confident individuals?
Good Luck
2007-03-02 04:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by karma_au_1984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him come home to an empty house. Since he doesn't trust you and accuses you of being a thief, his first thought can be that he's just been robbed.
2007-03-02 08:34:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a manipulative JERK. I think he needs some help(all that paranoia). Make a backup plan for you and your kids. Emotional or physical abuse is completely unacceptable at ANY time.
2007-03-02 04:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋