Well my dad is um married to my mom and they are both 50+ and they are happy from my perspective.. but so our family plays spades online on pogo (online gaming and chatting) and so my dad i think has gotton really involved with this one girl on pogo. My mom doesnt have a clue i found out by snooping into his character ( he even created a new one witch he doesnt talk about but i found out) Hes always in a private room with her and talking to her and whenever i am on i look for that specific character hes on, i go into that game room and as soon as i click in there hes out.... And so today there are little inboxy thingys in pogo the girl sent him a email that said * I love you Greg* Love linda or sumthing like that.... and now im worried about it because i dont know why my dad is hiding this. On his char on pogo that we all talk to him on he has intruduced me to her and everything and she seems nice but still. I'm confused should i tell me mom?
2007-03-01 20:21:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all, you shouldn't be snopping at your fathers computer things. I would talk to your father about what has been going on before talking to your mom. There may not be anything going on between him and this lady. Heck they may have known each other for awhile. You are jumping to conclusions before finding out the real answer. If you can't get a real answer out of your father then yes I would then go to your mom and tell her what's been going on. Good Luck.
2007-03-02 02:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your dad openly introduce you to her. I would assume that he expects you to at least make a comment to your mom. I am glad you are being caution about this first. Therefore, the best way to really handle this is to really get involve with this girl. When your dad is absent contact her and built a friendship and drills questions regarding the relationship with your dad.
During the conversation be sure to give hints of your mother and the happy marriage to see what her reaction may be! At this point it is hard to determine what may happen next, but you can settle this to your satisfaction without anyone getting emotionally hurt, especially your mom, then you have save your family. Try it and see what happens.
God Bless
2007-03-01 21:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are, but this isn't a situation that a child needs to handle for her parents.
You absolutely shouldn't say anything to your mother.
I suggest that talk to an adult you trust and who knows both of your parents for an adult perspective on the situation. You are in a no win situation and need help.
If there is no one you can confide in, you may want to talk to your dad and show him what you have discovered. Don't make any accusations or judgments or threats. Find out what he has to say about it. He has to make the decision to do what is right and you cannot force him into anything. Ask him to talk to your mom. He doesn't need to explain himself to you, only to her.
Perhaps his knowing that you are aware of what is going on will be enough to convince him he is out of line.
A word of caution - if you don't want to know what he is up to, don't act like a private investigator. If you find out upsetting information, you will then have to deal with it. And he always has the option of creating another new identity and continuing this behavior.
I wish you the best.
2007-03-01 20:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know how old you are, but I think you might ask your father for explanations before going to your mom. He might have a good reason or chatting with this lady might be more innocent than you think. If your are not satisfied by your father's answer than go to your mom (but only later). Good luck
2007-03-01 20:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by remy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your dad about it. Get his story before you go telling your mom. If you over react you could end up messing things up more than they may or maynot already be. <3 Hope things work out.
2007-03-01 20:28:13 · answer #5 · answered by Kayte 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your dad could be having an emotional affair. You should speck to him about it, and give him the option of cutting all ties with his '' on line- buddy'' or telling mom.
2007-03-05 19:45:51 · answer #6 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first try to convince that lady to not interfer with ur familly...it does not work..then...try to convincee,,ur father telling..it will effect my futre......and tell ur 20 year realation is good..like u appreciate ur father..
2007-03-01 20:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋