I've asked so many questions on here but I love to hear others views. Me and my ex of 7 years broke up and he moved 2000 miles away..Well, he moved before we broke up..I know there isn't another woman. I am pregnant with his child and we are very young...22 & 23. We had our wedding planned before the baby. Dr. said I would never be able to have kids..my ex wanted one and I ended up getting pregnant. We wasn't trying because of what the Dr. told me. He was very excited while I was kind of depressed because I wanted to be married and have my degree. Now, I wish he comes back and I know alot of people thinks that is stupid. We had a pretty good relationship, His father walked out on him as a baby. He tells me he misses me and loves me but picks stupid fights..Does distance really make the heart grow fonder?? I told him last night we shouldn't talk until we clear our heads..Has this every happened to anyone? He says we "can't" work it out..but yet sends me mixed signals..
2007-03-01 19:22:53 · 4 answers · asked by angelsdeath420 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He called me yet again tonight and told me he loves and misses me..I love him alot and want to make it work..he doesn't seem to want to...He says he isn't dating anyone but I seem to think he already is...aren't women usually right about their gut?
2007-03-01 19:23:41 · update #1
I just wanted advice..jeezum...
2007-03-01 19:34:57 · update #2
Did he move before or after he found out you were pregnant? If he moved after he knew, then you need to dump him. Any man who says he loves and misses you but says it won't work is playing with you until he finds someone else (unless he already has). If he didn't know about the baby before he moved, then maybe he does miss you. However, if you want to have any chance at this working out, then he needs to move closer to you and the baby. What kind of father is he going to be if he's 2,000 miles away? He needs to get his shi* together before you even consider getting back together with him. Make him prove that he will be a good father and is worthy of you taking him back. I know you love him and are alone, scared and pregnant. However, don't make any quick decisions. You do need to clear your head and decide if he is really worth it. You need to decide what is best for you and your baby and make plans on how you will support this child as a single parent. I would not even talk to him until he gets his signals straight. As long as you let him pick fights and then lead you on, he will continue to play these games. If you move on and do what's best for you, he'll probably want you back. Good luck!
2007-03-01 19:39:23 · answer #1 · answered by Swim Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Gut feeling" is a beautiful thing. It allows us to know better whether it matches what we feel or not.
Ideally, I child needs to have a mother and father figure. The fact that you two keep in contact makes me think that there has to be some emotional attachment still there.
Try suggesting that, ultimately for the baby, that you two need to be living closer together, whether it is you or him doing the moving. The closeness will allow you two a better view of whether a relationship between you two could work. It wouldn't even be that far fetch to suggest some type of counseling, a child doesn't need conflict around it when it is growing up.
I hope I helped a little darling.
2007-03-02 03:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by bowieblonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...that is a hard one girl. You two are sooo young. Unfortunately you have to be a part of each others lives forever now. But this him saying you guys can't work it out and then calling you and saying blah blah blah isn't going to work. Tell him you guys need to clear your heads. Give it a while and then talk...Be honest. You both obviouslly care for each other or else you wouldn't have been together for so long. Why did he move?? Long distance can make the heart grow fonder but in your situation I don't think it is healthy. But I don't know why he moved....
2007-03-02 03:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by molovekayak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont ask help first do whatever u like .
and what u like to do
2007-03-02 03:32:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋