Is my child behind?

Question

My 3 1/2 moved from the nusery school to the crech, so did most of the kids in his class last year, however he was put into a different class from the other kids he knew. Last Nov i finally got him out of napies. He started in Jan, yesturday i got a call from the school saying he is behind the other kids, he slightly non reactive. He knows all his animals, primary colours, counts to 18, knows directions from my house to grans, puts clothes in wash and is very helpful. Except he has gone back to the napies all day and screams if i dont put one on. The school has said they might have to keep him back at the end of the year as he does not hold a pencil correctly or cut and paste. He is extremly shy and does not like strangers, they are telling me he is insecure? I am a single parent and spend all my time with him. Should i worry? Do 3 year old normally get kept back? there is still 9 months before the end of the year. I pay alot of money for this school

Answer 1

that is pretty normal . my daughter is in kindergarten now and most of her classmates just turned 6 and she is still 5 . she is pretty advanced is currently taking mid-first grade level . most of her classmates don't even know the alphabet but the teacher said that is pretty normal and parents shouldn't worry . of course it still depends so better for you to check with a pediatrician although i doubt there is anything wrong with your child . be patient ....

Answer 2

Sweetheart, this child is only 3 1/2 and they are already analyzing him and discussing holding him back? What kind of school is this baby in? Harvard for infants? He sounds normal and bright to me. He is no slouch in what he seems to know, if not brighter than many.

The worse you make the Nappie problem the worse it can get. He will catch on when he is ready. Does he need a Nappie when you two spend the day together or is it just on school days? I nannied a lad who was otherwise fun who was in nappies until he was almost 4 1/2. Then, overnight, it stopped. Just don't sweat what these "professionals" tell you. When it comes to your baby, YOU are the professional!

A comforting thought for you: How many adults do you know who never grew out of nappies? Our bladders are not all the same size and neither is control. It is not uncommon for children to have a few things in their neural system that take time to develop so the child can even feel his bladder is full! Perhaps his bladder is smaller than some.

Talk to your pediatrician. I am sure he will have some good ideas for you. Please remember your little one is just a baby. He is not a square peg to be put into the square hole. He is still developing. All children develop at different speeds and in different ways.

Why is he in school so young? I have never heard of such a thing. Or is what you call "school" a day care? Perhaps it is too much pressure for a wee thing and this is how he is expressing it.

Personally I think these people are being a tad hard on a wee child. At his age, he should still be a toddler doing childish things. Unless you sense there is something wrong with him, he is most likely a normal wee child. How can a 3 year old be "kept back" and from what? Keep him back from climbing too high in the jungle gym or getting too close to a big horsie is about as far it should go at his age. In my humble opinion.

You are his mom. love. No one in here can truly answer your question. Talk to your pediatrician. Ultimately, you must trust your own heart, observation and inner knowing of your beloved little boy.

Answer 3

I think he sounds perfectly fine to me. These schools kinda drive me crazy -he is three no he probably doesnt hold his scissors correctly. He is three so he is a little shy. And as for the nappies well kids sometimes take a while and some are faster than others.

In the US -I have never heard of a child being held back in Nursery School. Its not part of the regular school and doesnt count toward anything. But is very good for the child to go and learn esp. the social aspects.

Answer 4

That is totally normal and do not let anyone tell you otherwise.. Its a 3 yr old not a college student... being shy is not uncommon either.. when my oldest was younger she would talk to anyone and did not like the big girl potty until almost 4... we now cannot get her to stop talking and of course is pottytrained...

i used to get frustrated but my mom always told me, they wont wet the bed in collage so dont worry about it... kids do things when they are ready!

Also he sounds pretty smart to me counts to 18, colors etc. My 5 yr old can only count to 15 so I say hes pretty darn smart! :) Let him go at his own pace and he will come around! Sounds like you are doing a great job and its not easy being a single mom! Keep up the good work!

Answer 5

because there are a recommendations extra C and D scholars than A scholars, i imagine it really is doing what it became designed to do. The A scholars will nevertheless be A scholars yet perhaps the C and D will be B and C scholars. As public preparation it would no longer in effortless words be for "the acceptable and Brightest" . What I see occurring the most is that instructors are unwilling to assimilate to the hot equipment. at the same time as they ought to prepare scholars for the exams they don't inspect all prevented from preparation previous the exams also. What I see occurring is that instructors are preparation in effortless words to the exams and not at all even doing that nicely in protest to being held to blame for the job they have. For too many years instructors have became out scholars who do no longer comprehend the thanks to study, they comprehend no longer some thing of prognosis or perhaps the thanks to outline suggestion. the students are in simple terms left out in the journey that they do no longer tutor interest. the priority of preparation has been sacrificed to non-public freedom.

Answer 6

Your child is only 3 1/2 and sounds perfectly normal to me.
I never hear of holding a child back at that age.

Answer 7

Always ask your pediatrician about these things if he says you child isn't behind, the his isn't. I was told that my daughter was behind because whe didn't walk until a week after her birthday and because she used her bottle until she was 13 months. Now at 19 months, she is with the 2 yr olds because she was more advanced than the other one-yr olds. Her doctor said she was fine, every child his different, he sounds prefectly normal to me.

Answer 8

It sounds as though he is reacting badly to the pressure. Talk with the school and his doctor about how to help him with the pressure. He is normal and not behind, the school wants to keep their numbers up but they have no right to torment a little kid to the point that he has this much stress at 3. My oldest is shy and I was super careful to help him learn tricks like what to say (we practiced hellos and stuff). My mom says he is insecure but she is not getting to see the real him. He is very intelligent and can do all sorts of academics at home with me but he hates to perform. He reacts very badly to other people trying to test him. When we went for his Early Childhood Screening, he told the teacher that he couldn't hop because "my foot has issues" and when she asked him about body parts, he told her, "I don't have one." He was just being a smart alec. When he was talking with the other teacher about other stuff, he told her all kinds of things, the names of the planets, about his body parts, etc. Your son may be too smart to play "performing monkey" for them. Work with him about sharing his knowledge but make sure that you hold the school accountable for how they treat him.

Answer 9

thats normal