Can guys really tell if a girl isn't ready to date?

Question

I'm not ready to date, but I feel really unattractive because no guys actually talk to me. Lots of people say I'm pretty (most say I'm asian looking or exotic looking) but no guys come up to me and flirt with me. I have a history with really abusive guys and I'm suspicous of them. I want to find a guy I really like one day, I'm just really nervous around them. All in all, I just want to know if guys can sense that?

(I haven't really been around a lot of men)

People who really know me (which is very few) say that I put up a wall around me (metaphorically speaking). This must be a subcounsious (I don't know how to spell it) thing that I do.

Answer 1

I don't think they can. It's not like you're wearing a sign around your neck or anything. If a guy asks you out, don't be a jerk about it (i'm not saying you're a jerk or anything) and just refuse politely and tell them you're not ready. Also, if you want to find a good guy, you've got to go to places where they would be, not clubs or anything like that. Good Luck!

Answer 2

It relies upon on the fellow...is he the variety that likes the celebration existence-variety, with a diverse lady on his arm each evening? if so, then he would advise precisely what he says...he's merely no longer waiting to provide up the only existence-variety merely yet. If he's at present been via a foul breakup or has had some undesirable success with relationship, then he would no longer be able to get decrease back contained in the saddle merely yet. of route, if a guy tells you this and then 2 days later you overhear him whining that he doesn't have all and sundry to love, OR, he's with out caution in a relationship presently afterwards, then you definately'll understand he merely did not opt for to be in a relationship with YOU, that it become merely an excuse. So this is demanding to inform...it extremely relies upon on the fellow. And certain, distinct the most suitable relationships can commence as friendship, so do not lose wish, except he tells you that is all this is going to ever be. solid success!

Answer 3

I am 30 now.. (gosh I'm getting old). Anyway, when I was a teenager I thought that guys payed attention to stuff the way girls do. Now, that I have a husband and a son, I realize that men/guys/boys don't think of much unless it looks, feels, smells or tastes good. They respond to pain, heat , cold and hunger. They're very basic creatures for the most part. If you do happen to meet a man who is actually in-tune with his senses... and with your feelings, you better keep him!

Answer 4

memories. are memories meant to fade so that we will learn to move on? tis aftrnoon, as i stood looking at the scenery from the highest storey-birds swooping by and the endless blue sky (whats beyond it actually?)- random thoughts chugged thro my mind. i realised that i've changed alot from a kid to now, a half-child half-adult. Is this God's plan? the meiling i knew from my psch days has long died. i am still evolving and i wonder, years down the road, will i know who i am inside?

i really admire little kids because in all their innocence and naivety, they open up to others easily. some can play happily wif strangers at the playgrd. they are sincere in their frenships and this enables them to form close bonds of trust amongst one another. as for adults, when we meet new people, in some cases, there is a tinge of apprehension and doubt. trust? it has to be built. wad if you stab a knife in my back tomorrow? and even if dere is trust, there is no 100%? when you lose something very very precious (something that has kept you moving in life thru life's storms and rainbows), will you quietly wait for it to come back to you, believe that something better will come along or learn to live life without it despite the aching pain in ur heart?

Answer 5

Are you subconsciously sending negative messages?