I've been into a friend of mine for a few years now. She knows that I'm interested but says she only wants to be friends. No matter what I try I can't seem to like anyone else as I always compare people to her and they never make the standard.I worship the ground she walks on. I'm not asking for advice in how to get her as I know she's out of my league but how can I move on. We have the same circle of friends so avoiding her is not an option and she is a brilliant friend.
The worst part of it is that she has terrible taste in guys. Her current b/f is carrying more baggage then a busy airport.
P.s. I'm late 20's early 30's so it's not a teenage crush here.
2007-03-01 18:16:39 · 5 answers · asked by thelivinglegend 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is not a 'crush'. It's called unrequited love. And I don't think you ever get over it. You are in love with this girl who does not feel the same way about you. You are tortured by these feelings you have for her. Believe me, I know. But you are just going to have to move on. I'm not saying you have to give up your circle of friends but you probably need to broaden it to include other people not associated with this girl. And to be honest with you, she is not as perfect as you think she is. There are other girls out there who have just as much and more to offer you than this one. Quit cheating yourself by obsessing about something you can't have. You are at a wonderful age in your life and you're wasting it away on someone who doesn't care. Go make some new friends and who knows, maybe your indifference will make you more attractive to this girl.
2007-03-01 18:30:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Begin by learning to love and honor yourself. Does your gf honor herself by the companions she chooses? If not, what is it about her that makes her choose losers? Do you want to be the kind of guy she has chosen in the past? Maybe that would attract her. But if you want to "get over her", which it sounds like you should (she isn't in your league, not the other way around), then learn to accept yourself as you are. After all, if you can't love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to love you? So accept yourself, warts and all, and when you can truly love yourself you will find others will be attracted to you. You will choose friends, and girlfriends who will honor you by who and how they are. Good luck.
2007-03-02 02:27:59 · answer #2 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well atleast u realiaze that u cannot have her but just think about it u seem to be comparing the other ladies to her instead of what u like coz if u want another her well u will back to where u r so just try finding someone who meets 75%of what r u looking for and then work on that and be happy
2007-03-02 02:42:51 · answer #3 · answered by vakere2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok do what I usually do when I'm around my crush Rick and you might can get her. Every night b/f you go to bed and when you wake up in the morning say her name and then say you love her then say lucky stars I wish I might. I wish I may pls make Rick mine b/c I love him w/ my whole heart and want him for keeps for life. Then when you see her look deep into her eyes.
2007-03-02 02:24:11 · answer #4 · answered by Fancy L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How about trying to get a hobby or something? I do that to get over my crush, but it didn't work on me. But you're probably gonna get over her easily, because you're not me. Or, just try and think of her as a friend.
2007-03-02 02:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by clandestine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋