HIS family wont move out?

Question

ok me and my boyfriend have lived together for about 3 years his brother and dad both live with us for the moment. I never get alone time and they dont pay bills how do i either get him to understand they are only using him again or kick them out without upsetting my boyfriend...... I ought this house before me and my boyfriend were even together, he pays bills, but money so tight i really can only spend 4-5 dollars a day in food

yes i am fully capible of making it without him. The marriage thing i have asked about in the past, he wont marry he says he sees no point in it... his parents were never married and are "commonlaw" for 25 years now, i want to marry more than anything

Answer 1

Kick them out babes they are leeches sucking you dry if he truly loves you he will get over it if he threatens to leave you know he doesn't care enough for you so better off finding someone worthy of your love, good luck but seriously just do it people like that really annoy me why should you be took advantage of and made to feel so miserable :)

Answer 2

I kinda had a simmilar problem with my boyfriend and his sister and her husband....we were all living together and they didnt pay a thing...I was getting pretty sick of it cuz im a little high maintenance and all of my money was going torward are bills but when it was just the 2 of us living there nothing was a problem....I finnaly told him jhow bad this was bothering me and we sat down with them and just went over some rules. We basicly stated that theywould have to either pay half the bills or find a new place within 2 weeks becuz we didnt have all the money in the world to support 4 people and 3 dogs. So they got a little offended but eventully we worked things out and they stayed for a few more month but found a new place soon after. So i just think you should be upfrom and honest. After all it is both of your home. You should have to feel uncofortable ya know :)
XOXO

Answer 3

You really need "alone time" with your boyfriend but more than that you need respect. It seems as if you are getting none of that in your OWN house. The four of you should sit down and ALL of them should listen to you. Let them know you mean business. Then you and your boyfriend should sit down and you should let him know that since you really want to get married and he doesn't, then maybe you should split up since this is a major disagreement in your relationship. I feel that since you really want to get married and he doesn't, you will NOT be happy until the "I do" which it seems you won't be getting from him. If he still says he don't want to get married, maybe he should follow his dad and brother out the door. BE STRONG and FIRM. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 4

If only your name is on the house you may have to kick all of them out. The easiest way to do that is to simply call the police and tell them you no longer want them on YOUR property. The fact that money is tight is not THEIR problem. Either you want them out or you don't. You can't have it both ways. As for you wanting to get married...don't plan on it with this guy, he has already told you he's not going to get married so give up. If you really want to get married you're going to have to tell this guy to hit the road and seek that marriage with someone else.

Answer 5

Family situations are often tough, but you do need your own
space and time with your boyfriend alone. I would do one of
two things. Either confine them in a nice way to the basement
and only the basement and make them pay rent and what ever
else they should, or tell your boyfriend that you have had enough.

I learned one thing long ago and that you can't change people,
you can only change the way you deal with things, so myself
I would tell them to leave, set a date, and if your boyfriend has
a problem with it than tell him he can leave to. It may sound
harsh, but when you only have a few dollars to your name
because of this, you need to do something soon. Good luck.

Answer 6

Three years together and you aren't planning on getting married? It sounds to me that your boyfriend and his family are using you and disrespecting your hospitality. Why are you worried about upsetting your boyfriend??? It is your house. If your boyfriend doesn't have the courage to throw his family members out of your house then get some legal counsel. I would imagine that an attorney would tell you to call the police and force them to move out. For heaven's sake get some courage and and give them a deadline to move out, like 10 days!!!

Answer 7

This relationship is going nowhere. And while you're wasting your time on a guy who will never give you what you truly want - marriage - you get to feed his relatives. Grow a spine, girl, and put a stop to this nonsense already. If the house is in your name, give all of them (including the loser boyfriend!) a month to move out. If the house is not yours, you move out. Enough already.

Answer 8

You have to go to your boyfriend and tell him that you do not mean any harm and that you respect his family, but they are being dead beets and that every one should pitch in and pay bill because everyone lives their, and that you are tied of taking care of his family, that they have to pay up or get their own place.

Answer 9

The boy friend is using you,wake up and smell the coffee!
He needs to marry you and his family out .Can you make it with out him or is it a matter of you using him also ?

Answer 10

his family...his problem. he can find them a place or they can rough it. your house...your rules...the worst that can happen your boyfriend will go with them...the best that can happen he will choose you over them and be happy they're gone also. it's a win/win situation as either way you'll have peace of mind. you can find another boyfriend...just make sure his family doesn't come with him if he moves in.