Is it bad that I never talk about my problems?

Question

My friend always bothers me about this. She gets mad at me when i have a problem and never talk about it. Growing up, I had grown up in a very hostile environment with my father. I think you get the point. Because of this, I am afraid of becoming like my father. So I never show any emotions to anything, I never talk about anything when I am depressed or angry. I am afraid it wil lead to me being a very angry person which really scares. I am afraid of showing any form of anger because I just dont want to be like my father. For some I reason, I can show any emotion, and my friend tells me that I should go see a doctor. Is she right?

Answer 1

you can help to your self change eventhough you will not go see a doctor...first thing you do try to share to your close friend if you got a problems,,,,and try to join an organization in your place..which have open furom...it can help to you to become confedence,,,,always be friendly by someone else arounds you...don't be shy be more confidence and most of all always SMILE=0 BE TRUE TO YOUR SELF !!!!!ok? mwuahhhhhhhhhhh
and be strong...................!!!

Answer 2

Not talking about your problems can be a good thing or a bad thing. The good thing about keeping problems to yourself is that you don't bore or inundate others with your problems. You don't rub people off that you are a negative person and you are just full of problems. If you over burden others by spilling your problems in their ears then they will not want to be around you in fear that, "Oh no! Here he goes again bitching again!".

On the other hand keeping it bottled up can be a bad thing. If you don't have a release then one day you may find yourself exploding. Your friends are probably concerned that you will one day snap if you don't get angry. The best thing you can do for yourself is to find something in your life that is enjoyable and will relieve stress. Work-out at the gym, practice some martial art, or some other means of exercise.

If you feel you might need to seek counseling, then it never hurts. You may find yourself more open with your problems of a total stranger than a family or friend.

Answer 3

By being scared about becoming your angry father, you are becoming your father. The fact that youre questioning your own emotions and even putting this question on here, should tell you that you know your own answer. Yes! Talk to someone about how youre feeling. Take it from me, you do not want to keep all the bad things inside, because one way or another its going to build up and up and youre going to snap at someone who probably really didnt deserve your hostility. If youre really not into talking to someone, hey write down why youre angry or who youre angry at.... if you dont want to keep a journal, thats ok. Just write it all down anyway and then read over and then just burn it safely. itll be like youre getting rid of your anger. Lifes too short to be angry and depressed all the time. And remember, your friends are there to help and if they arent, hit me back up and you can talk to me about whats going. as long as youre getting all your frustrations out, thats what matters. Good luck

Answer 4

YOU ARE NOT YOUR FATHER!!!!!! You are You and holding in all of this anger and sad emotions WILL come out eventually(after you get married ? have children?) if you don't get a grip and an understanding of your emotions(negative) you will become your worst nightmare YOUR FATHER. Its o.k. to be mad and or angry its what you do and who you do it to that you need to control. suppressing that emotion is nothing but trouble, it will come out in other ways believe it. Talk about it ,get it out of your system and when you get enough understanding and control(way down the line) you need to talk to your father about his issues and its origin. Knowledge is power!!! en-power yourself open up don't suppress, you'll feel better and be a better person for it. Make sure you confide in some one you trust, if you have no one get a therapist. Good luck

Answer 5

The very act of asking this question is showing an emotion. The emotion is concern for yourself, how you relate to others and future relationships.
To me, you seem to be in pretty good touch with your feelings. We use laughs and tears as pressure release valves. They definitely make the in-between times better.
Do talk this out with a good counselor. You are the person who has the most control over your life. Get a coach to help you make it a great one.
Good luck.

Answer 6

I can identify with you man, but it wasn't my Father who was nuts. I get my rage from my Mother. I was like you once upon a time. I bottled everything up from the most mundane to the most extreme. Unfortunately, holding things in does not contain it; there's a bursting point and unless you speak with someone, anyone about it, that day will come. You can speak about it without putting your fist through a wall, you may get a bit upset, but you have to get it out of your system. Get some closure dude, you'll be better for it.

Answer 7

People have different ways of handling problems. May be you're the type who finds it difficult to open up emotions. Bottling up your emotions may be dangerous cause it could lead to stress or probably an outburst. If you're uncomfortable expressing yourself verbally, try to write down your pent emotions. Free yourself of the heaviness within. Liberate yourself of the anger, pain, frustration, etc. that you're experiencing. You deserve a wonderful life.

Answer 8

no its not bad. you handle a problem quietly. you could share a problem quietly...when you feel comfortable to do so. however, dont let something that bothers you go undealt with. you could try group counseling or something like that if you want to keep from discussing personal problems with a loved one at first.
then once youve worked it all out you can discuss it without rage or fire inside. storing up energy from anger or frustration will eventually explode out...non productively. find good ways to express yourself. excercise or some physical sport will help release also. peace

Answer 9

First of all..let me tell u that u r a very nice person.the person who tries to rectify himself by deducting his parents' negative habits from his personality is to be appreciated.U need not to be angry to express your emotions...not at all.But u must be able to express youself.U can let your heart flow without being angry.U must laugh and u must cry!U can control your emotions and that's really great.But don't get so remote from the people who care for u.Tell them what u have in your mind..what's bothering u.it'll do u good.Try...take it slow..good luck:)

Answer 10

no do not bother with the doctors or shrinks. Emotions, who needs em. Do not worry about what your father did he was just another person who happens to have been your dad. Do they smoke weed where you live? It sounds as if this is maybe what you need.