She said that she would watch my son for 2 hours while I went to class. Then she calls me two hours before and says that she can't come and gives me an excuse. She said the roads were bad , which they were not , I drove them. I feel she just did not want to watch my son. So I had to have my aunt do it. The father is out of the country and so are his parents. I rarely ask her to watch him ( maybe 2 times per month) its not like I go out and party and drink and dump him off but she tries to make it out I do.She always makes more out of things than what they are. I am 22 and not a partier at all by any means. I used to go out before I had my son but that is a rite of passage. I don't go out at all now.How can I deal with her?
2007-03-01 17:43:15 · 4 answers · asked by primamaria04 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would have other people watch him but I don't know anyone.
2007-03-01 17:43:56 · update #1
I do things for her that she can not do herself , like drive up a half an hour and mow her grass. She asks favors of me and my brothers but she can't return them hmmm.
2007-03-01 20:38:02 · update #2
You deal with it by not expecting anything from her.
2007-03-01 17:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are going and doing something to better your life for your child and your self, I find it selfish that your Mom won't help. With that said, it is her decision. She has raised her kids. What bothers Me, is her saying that she will do this, and then backs out on you. I think I would have a very serious talk with her, and if that doesn't help, well, she may soon realize that when she doesn't keep her promises, thats a character flaw that you choose not to be around as it brings you down, and you are a Mom who has a job to do, and you can't be brought down by the people around you. Does your college offer day care? I know it can still be expensive tho. What about another student with a child, maybe you could switch with her when she has classes. I would try to find another way to do this without my Mom. I commend you for realizing that now you have a child, and those partying days are over, and your number one priority is your Child. Your Mom obviously did something right, you appear to be making good decisions for your life and your child, keep it up. Hopefully, someday, your Mom will see this, and be proud of you. For now, take pride in yourself, cause it sounds like you have alot to be proud of.
2007-03-02 01:54:28 · answer #2 · answered by MommaSchmitt 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was a little disappointed to see that you're an adult asking this. Since I am a mom who has gone back on MANY promises to my kids... through no fault of my own. I was curious to see what other people would have answered. Younger kids just don't understand certain things. (btw, I don't make "promises" anymore unless I'm ABSOLUTELY sure it can be done)
BUT... as for your issue... I'm 37 years old and I can count on one hand the number of times either of my parents have watched my kids for me. My parents have told me straight out that they "don't want the responsibility" or (like someone else said) "they've already raised their kids." It doesn't matter that I don't have anyone else to watch them.
Don't expect her to be there everytime you need a favor, she has bad days too. I'd consider myself lucky that she watches him twice a month!
My sister watches my kids every once in a great while... but I have to pay her everytime. Have you ever offered to pay your mom anything?
2007-03-02 02:21:26 · answer #3 · answered by Yur Mama 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your aunt and ask her if she would be willing to watch your son if you need her to. Stop asking your mother to do things.
2007-03-02 01:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋