he wants to break up, and i no we're going to break up tmrw, i just want to know what i could do to make him second think it while we talk,
i want him to think about it after i leave and just think in his head, "oh u no, b/c she did this...(this is what im looking for), maybe she is worth it after all..."
example: be understanding, etc.
2007-03-01 17:27:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry I can't be more help, but I don't know the whole story.
However, most breakups are caused by two things.
1. He wants sex and she doesn't.
2. He thinks another woman will give him better sex.
I'm sorry to be so blunt, but that is EXACTLY why most guys will breakup with a girl.
If you are unwilling to go all the way, but want to keep him, try to work out a compromise. If not, dump him and find a nice guy that is willing to wait for the right time.
2007-03-01 17:34:47 · answer #1 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl,
I want you to think of the person who would make you barf if you knew they wanted to be with you and you just would barf like non-stop because you detest it.
Your boyfriend has the same rights as you do. Let him go if he wants to go. This is America and you as well as he have the right to chose to be with who you want.
You need to say to yourself that you are all right and not give that job to someone else to tell you you are ok.
With your present mind set, I would side with him and let you go because you do not seem to care enough about yourself to deserve better than him.
I hope this helps. Read the poem darling!
"Nothing You Can Do"
Know now that there is nothing you can do when the person does not love you
You have known this for a while and this is nothing new
Whether you bend over backwards trying to please the best you can
There is no move of more love in your direction from your woman or your man
If their heart is not turned towards you to love you as God commissioned
You are headed for a life time of pain because the two hearts are partitioned
You stay because you long for a love you can call safe and feel at home
But what you really have is a false relationship and feelings of being even more alone
You stay year after year ducking and dodging the signs of relationship danger
Only nearer to the end you realize that you have given your time to a complete stranger
Afraid to get out because of current commitments and what you think you would lose
Pick a life time of continued misery or perpetual love- it’s up to you to choose
What has gotten old and has not been cherished can not be made new
Know now that there is nothing you can do when the person does not love you
When you know they do not love you
Sunday, June 18, 2006 by Arene
Copyrighted
2007-03-01 17:50:14 · answer #2 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some times you cant keep people there that dont want to. Im in your relationship so i dont see whats really going on or what happens between you two . But if this is an ongoing thing where you both knew it was coming but couldnt do i tthen maybe you have a shot but if its not then mayeb you should talk about a break. Not really a break up just kindia be your own person for a while. Then try it back together.
2007-03-01 17:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by JENNIFER C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You didn't mention your age but what you obviously don't seem to understand is that guys your age haven't got the maturity to understand what the word committment means or entails ,,,, It's always I do with them until they don't want to anymore ,,,, If he's lost interest in you then there's nothing you or anyone else can do about it and you are wasting your time trying to get him to change his mind ,,,, Even if he did agree it would never be the same as it was ,,,, So basically the whole thing is lost ,,,, Time to go on ,,,, Don't put your life on hold for anyone ,,,, Actually it should be you that breaks up with him ,,,,, Don't give him the opportunity to say he did ,,,, You no longer have a relationship with him ,,,, A relationship should be fun and exciting and not what you have with this jerk ,,,, There are allot of other fish in the pond so to speak so it's time to go fishing and find some one that will treat you the way you should be treated ,,,, If he felt about you the way he should he'd be bending over backwards to prove to what he should be feeling ,,,, Actually you just might wind up feeling lucky ,,,,, Young people that tie themselves down to one person too early just might miss the chance to meet that Mr right ,,,, A young person is smart if he plays the field so to speak ,,,, Find out who and what's out there ,,,,, Get as wide a range of acquaintances as you can ,,,,, This will enable you to make a wiser decision on who to chose when you are ready to settle down to a more involved relationship later on ,,,,, If this guy wants to break up then the relstionship is over sugar ,,,, Don't try to hold on to it or linger over it ,,,,, Move on ,,, the quicker you do the better off you're going to be ,,,,,
2007-03-01 17:47:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want him to leave believe me I am the same way but sometimes you can't do anything about it. If he does not want to be with you anymore then you should not waste your time with him anyway. You sound like a smart girl who has a lot of compasion to give to a guy but he just might not be worth it. But if you still want him to stay I would talk to him and ask him with the problem is. Tell him how you feel but what ever you do do not cry or get to emotional because that scaries guys. And not let him think he has the power because then he will just abuse it and you. Believe me It has happend. Good luck and I wish you all the best.
2007-03-01 17:35:54 · answer #5 · answered by xrocksuperstar 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sweetheart i agree wioth the person below me....I think that you should find someone who is crazy about you....every girl deserves to have somoene who will fight 4 there love....but if you think that hes worth it....then Fight 4 your love but not in a crazy irrational way.... Just look at him and ask what is the main reason were breaking up?and talk about it....and see if its somthing you can work past....if you cant then just be graceful about it....dont let him see you cry becuz no man is worth your tears :) I hope everything works out well 4 you :)
xoxo
2007-03-01 17:36:05 · answer #6 · answered by sugurnspice01 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you think both of you have to break-up? is it because you're leaving? or maybe because you relationship is to dull to be understand? or maybe one of you commited a mistakes.....I had also a problem like that before. Guys usually had a higher ego than us, females. Try to take to him in a date, takl to him like your usual funny date. Show to him that you still love him and want him to stay with you without even saying a words that are obvious. As what they say: Action speaks louder than words. In that way he would realize that he deserve to be happy with you and not to someone else.
2007-03-01 17:36:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hrm, well if he wants to break up and its for sure then let him go cuz if you love someone you wont anchor them down for a loss cause. On the other than if you want to be evil, just say fine and ignore him act like everything is fine, rebound if you have to. That will get him to think. I gave you good and bad advice, let your angel and devil forms duke it out!
2007-03-01 17:32:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it rather is basically delight love, all of us experience that as quickly as we a rejected - you be responsive to he wasnt stunning so flow forward into the gentle and shine for somebody new - you deserve the appropriate !
2016-09-30 02:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by lachermeier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about it and if things don't get resolved then just leave it alone... Why waste your precious time on someone who doesn't think you're worth the time.
2007-03-01 17:31:55 · answer #10 · answered by Dude 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋