First let me explain myself. I'm a sweet girl. I like to go out and have fun and 'party', but I do not sleep around. I dress classy, and I have morals. I take care of myself and I'd say I'm fairly attractive:
http://i49.photobucket.com/albums/f300/x0xoandi/andrea2.jpg
Recently, I really liked a guy, and I messed up (as did he) and slept with him wayyy too soon. After that, he didn't pursue me at all, and brought over a different girl the very next weekend to a place he knew I'd be.
I'm not in denial here. I see what has happened. Basically he hit and quit. I never thought it would happen to me, but now that it has...I kind of feel like something is wrong with me. Like I must now be that special if it's that easy to blow me off.
Is that what he thinks of me? From a guy who had expierence in this, do you really think low of girls you do that to? He did try to talk to me this past weekend and he realized I wasn't going to take that so he backed off. What is he thinking?
2007-03-01 16:47:14 · 7 answers · asked by Ali 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And how should I handle myself around him? Because we hang around the same people.
2007-03-01 16:48:01 · update #1
Sorry if it sounded like I meant all guys...I realize not all guys are like that.
2007-03-01 16:53:07 · update #2
(Sigh) I'm afraid it is true in every part of the world. Relationships are becoming harder work by the day. People don't leave time anymore in their lives for love and meaningful communication, they simply pursue pleasure, with no regard for tomorrow; and when they do happen to come closer they get so scared they run amok. A lot of people today cannot even handle the prospect of a steady, loving relationship and the truth is that the more special you are, the more they fear, consciously or subconsciously, that they will not be able to rise to the occasion, that they cannot handle things (and that's if they're smart. If they're not they don't even know what to do with you). In our mind sex has become a consumable good, something we can buy from many stores, never needing to shop in the same place twice, unattached to the provider. If we keep it simple, we never risk hurting our egos or leaving our hearts exposed. It is my most humble opinion that you are a gorgeous woman and because I've taken the liberty of reading some of your answers I know you are also a very emotionally and intellectually intelligent person. Because you leave your heart open to love, you risk getting hurt, but you are also one of the lucky few who will get to experience true love, as well as the lost meaning of "making love". Of course you already know all this, so why am I jawing away? Point is, if he couldn't see you are relationship material regardless of how soon you slept together, then he is unworthy of you, not the other way around. Take care...
2007-03-02 03:11:23 · answer #1 · answered by Dennis K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! is that your picture? well I'll tell you what sweetie you should definately ignore that dumbass,because if he had any sence what so ever he should have never let you go.personally I really have to feel something for a person before I would have sex with them but that doesnt seem to matter in this case.I dont know the extent of your relationship with this dude but anyway.Dont think any less of your self hun this guy has got to be a moron and you for sure dont need that in your life,just be cool be your self and dont worry hes out there and once he finds you he would be a fool to let you walk away........take care beautiful! God bless.
2007-03-01 17:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by chris w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you're OKAY. :)
Guys NEVER rationalize what goes on in their thought processes like this even into sentences.
He was more like "Man... there is no challenge here and my competitive drive is not going to be satisfied here because I didn't have to do much to go all the way with this girl. Though this girl may be special, I have no desire to understand her more because she has shown me in a big way that she falls into a bad stereotype."
But of course, he never THOUGHT that exactly, but it was what he felt in one complex emotion.
There is a good side to what happened. There's three kind of guys: those with WAYY too many issues with feeling that they're OBLIGATED to be serious with a girl because they had sex (BAD), those who really couldn't care and treat it like nothing (SLIGHTLY LESS BAD), and those who are in the middle and will consider that she MAY be uh... dirty, but won't hold it against her because he KNOWS that most girls have a hard time controlling themselves around him (great because he's confident). He was #2.
There is seriously nothing wrong with you. In fact, you were probably just reckless because you were able to handle past boyfriends relatively easy (I'm jealous).
Hope I helped,
Franklin
2007-03-01 16:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a loser and you should move on. You look good to me and if I was a hammer I'd be looking to nail you more then once ;).
Move on but realise that a guy will always think that if she was that easy for me then she'll:
a) probably cheat on me the first chance she gets and
b) she's probably slept around before.
Guys like to think they're the first with that girl even if they KNOW they're not.
No matter how much you like someone make sure it's on your terms in future.
Best of luck.
2007-03-01 16:55:29 · answer #4 · answered by thelivinglegend 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm a woman n i'm shy til u get to understand me. i will sit down in school quiet n no longer consult with anybody n wen ppl consult with me i'm getting apprehensive...... yet while ik u n have been acquaintances i'm plenty extra outgoing .... I in simple terms get apprehensive around extra recent human beings n i'm getting scared..... adult men consistently calls me attractive n attractive cuz i'm shy, short, have been given a superb physique, im sweetheart til u piss me off, stuff like that......
2016-10-02 06:04:52 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him and don't let him try that again.
Don't judge all guys with only one. Like myself, I'd never do something like that. If it gets serious then it "has" to be serious if you know what I mean.
2007-03-01 16:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by FeverLust 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ignore him and go out with me!
2007-03-01 16:52:59 · answer #7 · answered by oldjr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋