A very good friend of mine, "Joe", may like me. We always have messed around (nothing inappropriate, of course), and we spend a lot of time together, but I've been wondering lately if it's friendly or flirty. The laughing and disco dancing and fooling around has turned into asking me if I want a piggyback and tickling, and because of certain past events, I'm a little sensitive to this. (Not exactly "DON'T TOUCH ME!", but I notice more, and I'm more conservative now.) And today, we said goodbye, and as I was leaving he ran back and playfully said, "Oh wait, let me do this!" and he kissed me on both cheeks, said goodbye, and left.
Of course I was in shock, but now I'm really thinking. I don't think that I like him in that way, and I don't want to end up dating someone just because they like me. On the other hand, we would make a cute couple, we're already great friends, and he's REALLY nice. What if he asks me out? Should I say "no" or should I give him a chance, or what?
2007-03-01 16:46:49 · 10 answers · asked by Drinking from a broken glass.... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
..do you like him? trust what's inside..
2007-03-01 16:52:55 · answer #1 · answered by lei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you know "Joe" better than I do, but you are already good friends. When he does things you don't understand talk to him about it so he knows how you feel. Once you both understand each other, it will make a big difference in how you feel toward him. I see nothing wrong with dating him. Just keep track of how you feel and as I said before, talk to him about how you feel. I would think this gives him the impression it's okay for him to talk to you too. Then take it from there. If you enjoy dating, wonderful. If not, go back to being friends.
2007-03-02 00:58:17 · answer #2 · answered by rubyred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there. I said "yes". It didn't work and no we are no longer friends. We were so close and so great at being friends. Once it turned into a relationship, things changed. You too probaly connect really well and don't want to jepordize your bond.
Chances are the time you two spend together could make it feel as if you were already dating. If he ask you, and you don't want to say no, say "let's take things slow, still introduce me as your friend, keep acting and talking to me like you do now, I like the way we are now." If he is really into you. he'll go for it. If things don't work out for you. Your still in the same place you started, friends"
2007-03-02 00:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by Moe ya know 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A cute couple? If you dont think you have feelings for someone that has been a good friend to you and you dont want to end up dating someone just because they like you then its time to talk to him about it. Tell him you think he is a great friend and you dont want to lose that but thats all you feel for him. Who knows as time goes on and your doing more things together you may start to get feelings that you dont have just now. If he asks you out, tell him you would like to go as friends. If he wants to keep this friendship he will accept your decision
2007-03-02 01:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by itybittykitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, think about it, if he asks, and you say "no", how are you going to justify that? You probably won't be able to, if you've already be spending so much time together.
If you aren't positive that you and him are 'impossible', then don't burn your bridges. You don't need to take the date completely seriously, just view it as a an extension to your relationship. Then take it from there...
2007-03-02 00:55:41 · answer #5 · answered by ebonii_cuteee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best boyfriends are your friend first. You should definitely give him a chance. Just talk about it before it happens. Let him know you are concerned about losing the friendship if things don't work out.
Good Luck!
2007-03-02 01:04:23 · answer #6 · answered by Maddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you like him and want to date him? I can think of worse reasons to date someone than just because they like you. Go on a couple of dates with him. You can always stop it if you don't like it.
2007-03-02 01:02:48 · answer #7 · answered by janejane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you go out with him cause you don't want to hurt it will just make it worse. it's better if you just trust your heart. cause if you say yes just so you won't hurt him but it will hurt in the long run. what are you going to do if you guys do go out? are you going to stay with him forever just so he won't be hurt? and just stay liking him as a friend? i mean yes, everyone says if you guys face eachother for a long time you'll eventually fall for him but are you sure you really want to try it? what if it doesn't happen? wouldn't it be worse? just think about what you're doing and don't go out with someone just to protect them cause you can't do that forever. good luck! :D
2007-03-02 01:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think its of no worth of making or breaking a relationships for such small things
it totally depends on u how to tackle it
say him yes if u think this relationship is worth and u think its going to last .if its not than no use of saying yes.
2007-03-02 00:54:35 · answer #9 · answered by danny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we can give u many options, but at the end, it is going have to be you that ultimately makes the choice.
2007-03-02 01:18:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋