i'm reaaaly having problems at home help please.......!!!!!?

Question

my parents are having ego problems and think whatever they tell is right...i've tried counselling and has'nt worked.........can you help me out...........i dont wanna sit and resolve things because i know it wont works for a lonf time i need a permanent problem solver

Answer 1

You may or may not believe me, but right now you are going through some changes which cause you to see things differently than you normally would.

When you go through puberty, your body starts pumping out testosterone which is what changes you into a "man"... This same hormone changes how you view things and how you react to things. Testosterone makes you want to be in charge, and since your parents are the ones in charge right now it can be very frustrating.

It's important right now to stop and think about what your parents are saying and why they are saying it. Part of maturity is being able to understand other peoples point of view and respect what they think and feel.

Seriously, do you want to let hormones run your life, or do you want to run your life? The only permanent problem solver is to realize that your parents have lived a lot longer than you, and have been Through the changes you are going through and survived it (when you reach adulthood and your hormones level out you get to look back and say "Man was I an idiot")...

Answer 2

The best way to resolve a problem permanently is to first outline the subject, pros and cons. You said you want to resolve it permanently, therefore below are the instruction you'll going to have to do, ok?

When you are alone take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle using a ruler. What ever the subject is write it on top of the paper! You have the power to write good and the bad about the subject. On the left side of the paper write down the good, and the right you write down the bad. Keep doing this until you see if there are more good or more bad.

Write a contact! Yep, this is how you make the problem go away, permanently. In your contract state the promise of the good of the subject you agreed, show it to your parents and have them to sign it!

For example;

Let say you argue with your parent regarding what time to come home at night! You want to come home at 10:00 p.m., but your parents want you home at 9:15 p.m.

You ask "Why at 9:15 p.m It don't give me time to be with my friends. I will call you if anything happens?

Your mom say "because it gets dark fast at night and it is late for you to be out!"

GOOD
I will call you if anything happens
My parents loves me and I under they
care about me.

BAD
It get dark fast at night.



Make contract deal.

I promise to be home at 9:45 p.m., because it gets dark fast and I will keep my cell phone on and I will call if I am late.

You sign it and your parents sign it. You must keep your promise in the contract!!!!!!! Make a copy of the contract and the problem is solved!

God Bless

Answer 3

This is something that doesn't happen over night. You have to work to hard to make things happen in life. Sometimes it is easy to place blame either on a child or a parent, but talking and negotiations often work well. It isn't always easy but sometimes we have to learn the hard way. Your parents may make you angry but if you stop and think then maybe they truly have a good reason. If you are old enough to get out on your own then maybe that's the solution. Good Luck with everything.

Answer 4

what's the problem? One thing that i have learned is that parents DO have alot of wisdom. They have lived and gone though alot of BULLSHIT and do know what they are talking about. You might be surprized to know the life that have lived. So what is the issue that you too can't work out? we need more info to help. Dogg'n on the prentals ain't goona help anything.

Answer 5

it isnt an easy task for u to make them understand until unless they themselves realise wat they r doing with their own lives and above all with their kid's life.
wat u can do is just simply say/guide to watever they say to u but mind u dont correct any one of them in front of their spouse. it wud b better that during that time when both r around u b quiet and later when one is gone u make the later one understand that he/she did a mistake over there.
but remember it is a gradual process it may take too much of time to make them understand or vice versa. but still do try for ur sake for their sake.
all the best.

Answer 6

THats not ego problem,thats being a parent,humor them,then go do what you feel or know is right,BUT believe it or not,once in a while they are right,OH NO,thats true!!!

Answer 7

You don't say how old you are and that makes a huge difference. I am a recently retired teacher and love kids of all ages, even up to 21 :) If you want to email me, you can.

Answer 8

if you live with them you have to go by the ruels thy say. or leve if you can