Any advice on how to hold on to the man of your dreams ?

Question

I have been with him for a year and half but we have been thru soo much, how do you hold on to him during the trials ?

Answer 1

just always leave him happy and wanting more! ;o)) it works, we've been through alot - in 9 years!

Answer 2

just keep reminding yourself why you love your boyfriend and remember that ALL couples or just relationships go through hard times - keep your faith and stay strong - i also found this article: (don't know if will help but enjoy!)

Couples can lose the spark for every reason under the sun. They get too busy with work or kids. They forget the little things, like kisses and small thank you's. Most relationship splits don't come down to a dramatic, life-shattering problem. Rather, it's the gradual slip of each partner's behavior that does it.
I've got an easy formula that will put some life back into any lukewarm relationship. I call it The Three A's of Relationship Rescue:

The first ‘A' is for Appreciation. Both sexes benefit from getting back to the sweet adoration of early love. In those days it was effortless. You rocked each other's world without even trying to. Every gesture was met with the simplest of relationship life-preservers: gratitude. Ultimately, showing appreciation makes the other person feel seen and heard. You feel like you matter. In the workaday of chores, errands, bills and whose turn it is to take the dog out, appreciation can go right out the window. You're both so busy that you start to take what the other person is doing for granted. Take a step back and say ‘thank-you' more than you might. Think of something everyday that your partner did and thank him or her for it-even on the bad days! It will help you weather the storms of love.


The second ‘A' is for Attention. This one is more for the guys. Remember how much you used to court your partner in the beginning? Every date was an event. Every absence a tragedy. It helps to bring back some of that urgency and romance to what's going on now. If you haven't brought home flowers for no particular reason since the last Leap Year, please head directly to the florist. If you never call just to say I love you, pick up the phone. Women want to feel cared for and loved and cherished-and not just when you're trying to get sex or make something up to her. Little gestures of seduction, with no expectations, will go a long way towards reigniting her attraction to you. Why not plan to do something nice every week? The more a woman feels that her partner is tuning into her emotionally, by helping with the kids or the house or doing something sweet, the more apt she is to be sexual. Need any more reasons?


The last ‘A' is for Appearance. Ladies, do you remember how much effort you put into your looks at the beginning of your relationship? I'll bet that a day at the ballgame got more effort than your anniversary does these days! Men are visual creatures. Your hair, your body, your appearance is what caught his interest in the first place. As I like to say, if you've let yourself go, your partner may still love you, but he's not going to lust you. And sorry, but kids and cooking dinner and all of that other stuff is not an excuse for looking disheveled on a regular basis. Your appearance needs to once again become a priority! In fact, when you keep yourself looking good on a daily basis, it becomes a habit. Don't reserve looking nice for a special occasion. It sends the message that you only care in a way that's strategic, designed to appease him rather than prioritize a fundamental part of his attraction to you. It will also make you feel better about yourself to stop making excuses. Eat right, put on a little mascara and lip gloss, and shave your legs more than once a week!

And men don't get off the hook here. While the visual is not quite as important to women, generally speaking, no one wants a slovenly partner. Beer guts, untended nose hair, and clothing from the mid-90s are serious offenses! If you expect her to look good, please do the same.
Ultimately, a healthy relationship is what's going to drive your passion for each other, which is what's going to rev the engine of a healthy relationship

Answer 3

Love him, support him, etc... is what everyone will say; and they are right.
However, check out these two books. They are written by a great woman who has been helping couples for quite some time. They are filled with a lot of very important things that can destroy or save a marriage. I don't know if you will like them, but at least take a look at them.

Go to http://www.amazon.com/ to check out these books...

The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage by Laura Schlessinger

The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Laura Schlessinger

Answer 4

I been with my bloke 3 yrs n hes my soulmate....we've split up got bk together had our arguements hes even sed o i dont think i love u anymore but we always end up stayin together coz it's meant to be ....if u feel hes the man of ur dreams u dont have to worry about losing him coz he will feel the same way about u no doubt he's properly scared of losing u and thinking of ways to hold on to u....i wouldnt worry im sure ur soulmates. Me n my bloke have been throu alot of stuff together with his ex threatenin me, even drug problems etc we work things out. Hope u both have a happy future together :)

Answer 5

Trials are times to grow closer not apart. It is a time to work together against a common problem. Make sure not to blame each other or pick at each other.

Answer 6

If true love it is, then you should not have to hold him, but both of you should be holding each other... Perhaps he is thinking the same.

If you set true love free, and it returns it was meant to be, if it doesnt return then it was never worth holding onto in the first place

Answer 7

By keeping things spontaneous.

It doesn't have to be a special occasion to do something special for him.

This works both ways. If you're doing all the giving and he's doing all the taking then you should cut your losses.

Answer 8

With your arms. It's called a Hug and it will get you through any trial.

Answer 9

Thats what relationships are for, to see if you can stand the storms. Both have to want it, though.

Answer 10

u just gotta have faith itll all wrk out in tme if its ment 2 be