She loves me too, but due to her religion she says that she can't be with me because it is wrong and against God. What shall I do? It tortures us both. We can't leave each other because we love each other, but we can't be together either because she doesn't want to be gay and wants to follow her religious rules. HELP
2007-03-01 16:06:42 · 12 answers · asked by Viola V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah I guess you are right..but I tired to move on and leave her...she didnt let me do that...she kept saying that she loved me..and she was sooo sweet to me..but she always says that God comes first for her...several days ago she offered to be friends..and today she said it was impossible..because she wanted more from me..she is afraid to admit she is gay. But I love her and I don't know how to say goodbye
2007-03-01 16:19:43 · update #1
When I ask her if she wants to leave me or not, she dosnt say a thing. She says that she doesnt want but she cant be with me either. I dont know if I can date anyone because I dont know if I'm single or not. What if she decides to be with me and I'll find someone else. I dont want to hurt her. I love her and dont really want to date anyone else
2007-03-01 16:37:29 · update #2
If she's attracted to you romantically she's at least bi, if not gay, and no amount of "religion" can change that. You need to a) give her an ultimatum, or b) give yourself an ultimatum...you can't change her mind on your own, but perhaps for your sake and hers you need to leave her alone for a while, let her travel her own path, if she's going to act on her feelings you can't force her.
2007-03-01 16:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless she changes her mind then you will just have to move on. If you start dating other ladies and she sees that then she might want to try it with you to see if it works if not you might have a great close friend. It happen to me once, my fiancees brother has a girlfriend and before him she dated a girl for 5 yrs and she let me know that she would love to be with me but I have been down that road before and it wasn't for me so I went with guys and she is a wonderful friend that I came to love and adore and we tell everything to each other.....take what you can get don't be pushy! Good luck to you
2007-03-02 00:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by Chandra H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help her to question her beliefs. Ask her some questions like:
How do you know you have the right religion? There are so many people equally sure they are right!
Don't you have ANY doubts about whether God exists?
Ask her where exactly it specifies that lesbianism is against God's word, and then show how that is just one interpretation, and to look at the context of her religion on the whole.
Get her to talk to non-believers and liberal (insert her religion here)
2007-03-02 00:18:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why did choose a male avatar (i almost that u meant u a guy &u lesbian, meaning u still love women-my guy friends use to crack that joke)
Anyway, if u are female, u have to respect her and her moral standing, let her go because if he make her change &yall break up, she is going to hate u, or blame u for the rest of her life
2007-03-02 00:16:56 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can not be Friends with her leave her alone. My wife is in the same situation. She feels she is bi, and has a cybergirlfreind. they do not cyber, but admit they love each other. She love me too. So recently she decided that to be true to herself she had to give up her gf. So If you truely love her, respect her for who she is and for her choices. If it is meant to be she will come back to you.
2007-03-02 00:22:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently, she is not straight, if she is tortured because she can't/won't be with you. If you can deal with just being her friend then stick around. If not, you must move on or you will be miserable. I think you should find mutual love somewhere else.
2007-03-02 00:12:41 · answer #6 · answered by sherockstn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religions are such a touchy subject...because people believe in things with a full heart....
If you love her, you'll let her be happy. And maybe her being happy means her being religious.
If she loves you, she'll find it in her heart to realize what she's doing isn't wrong.
2007-03-02 00:17:32 · answer #7 · answered by danie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though it may be hard for you, you may just need to find someone who loves you the same and wants to be with you completely regardless of religion and other things. if this person is really into her religion like i think she is it isn't going to be easy for her to just leave that behind over time
2007-03-02 00:12:36 · answer #8 · answered by Juliaysha247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, is she gay or straight? b/c you say she straight, and then you turn around and say she's not.... tell her God will love her no matter who she is, b/c God works that way... and it's just love.... God can't have too much against love, can he?
2007-03-02 00:17:33 · answer #9 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does say this prohibition is in the Bible? I know the passage re 'man layeth with a man...... But woman with a woman, where is that?
2007-03-02 00:14:07 · answer #10 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋