What are the 10 biggest signs that a date is no good?

Question

On a FIRST date, what are the 10 biggest signs that mean that the person is someone you should stay away from? I'll give mine - I'm a woman, so if you're a man, give from that perspective.

1. He doesn't want to pay for me. Sorry guys... but a woman likes to be taken care of on the first date - even if things are more equal later.
2. He's rude to the waiter/waitress or whoever. If he's rude to them, he'll be rude to me eventually.
3. He shows up late. This has to have a really good excuse, and with cell phones... there's no reason he can call if he's stuck in traffic or something.
4. He answers his friends calls and talks to them while on your date.
5. He puts down his last girlfriend.
6. He chats up other women during the date.
7. He orders for me without finding out what I like.
8. He eats off my plate - later maybe, but on a first date?
9. He tries every trick in the book to be sexual.
10. He walks in front of me instead of slightly behind or directly beside

Answer 1

10. About half-way through the date, she says something like, "Just off the top of your head, can you see us getting married?"

9. At the end of the date, when you take her home, she says, "I believe in being honest, so I think you should know I have both herpes and AIDS, but they're under control. That doesn't bother you, does it?"

8. She expects you to heel, ie, walk behind her like a dog.

7. You've taken her to a good restaurant, but not much in the meal pleases her, and she's vocal about it - the lobster is overdone, the wine is too cold, and the chocolate dessert is sooo ordinary.

6. Absolutely everything is about her. If you tell her a joke, instead of laughing, she says "That's me!" and immediately launches into some tale about herself.

5. She spends much of the evening running off to giggle with the girls instead of staying with you.

4. Your name is Joe, but she keeps calling you Rudolph and pretending that is funny.

3. She not only answers her phone but also interrupts you more than once, saying "Just a minute, there's something I forgot", and then makes trivial-sounding calls to someone else.

2. Most of her conversation consists of telling you how wonderful she is and what s**ts men are, no matter what conversational gambit you attempt.

and the number 1 sign the date really sucks is ...

1. Every 15 minutes or so she says something like, "Why are you looking at my breasts/legs/derriere? We're not going to have sex tonight!" and then laughing hilariously.

Answer 2

Good list. I don't have ten, but here are some deal breakers.

Talks on the phone for more than a minute. I've considered just walking away and driving home.

Is rude to people.

Brags about her education, and is obviously not that sharp.

Talk too much about he ex.

Caked on make-up.

Boring conversation. Women love to talk in laundry lists, and think a guy is going to be interested in a step by step account of an uneventful event.

If there is no good-bye kiss, or no spark in the kiss or no strong attraction growing during the date. (Surprisingly most women go all the way on the first date) (and then not tell their friends I bet)

When you go to a movie and one of the actors is in a mental ward, strapped to the bed and the date says "I just hate it when they do that". And then later she tells you the story of when she thought she was Jackie O and the year she spent locked up.

Ok enough negative....here are some great signs.

If she is touches during the evening.

I'm a giant sucker for a good storyteller. When the teller's sanity isn't precarious.

If she is positive and I feel higher energy being around her.

Answer 3

1. He forgets your name
2. He is late & doesn't care
3. He suggests that you go dutch (meaning you each pay for your own meal)
4. He is rude to the waiter.
5. He only talks about himself
6. He talks nonstop about his x girl friends
7. Says that he can't understand why his relationships don't last longer than three weeks.
8. He talks on his cell phone & acts like you arn't there
9. He gets sexual.....just because you are a gal & no other reason
10. You tell him that you don't think you are a match & he says he will call you in the morning.

Answer 4

1. He chews with his mouth open or smacks while eating.
2. He feels obligated to my personal business.
3. He asks me for money and or doesn't know how to manage his own.
4. He has a girlfriend or is "talking to" someone.
5. Bad hygiene.
6. He is a little too touchy feely.
7. He asks for a relationship not another date.
8. He constantly talks about his mother or himself.
9. He constantly talks about past relationships.
10. He makes any reference to, hints at, or suggest that we have any type of sexual contact.

Answer 5

I would have to add - talking about how tough they are. Trust me hearing how he can beat everyone up and talking about fighting all the time gets old after a while, as well as asking for money in order to pay the bill. Sounds like you do have most of it covered though!

Answer 6

I have to say that those are all good. I'd like to add that he drinks too much alcohol, starts taking off his pants, talks about his mother more than 3 times, shows up to a dinner date wearing shorts and sandals,. talks about how much money he does or doesn't have, talks about his ex excessively...I can go on forever...

Answer 7

I loved your list. But #1 of the biggest signs that means you should stay away from this guy is: "He's wearing a wedding band".

Answer 8

I think you answered your own question. All good points. I would also add if he talks mostly about himself and makes little or no effort to get to know you.

Answer 9

the 10 on your list are very similar to mine. if a guy every treats you like this, kick his sorry a$$ to the curb