I have known someone one week and have had sex with him....?

Question

What are the chances that he will stick around?

After I had sex with him he wanted to know what to call me. He suggested his girlfriend....

Answer 1

Zero. He may stick around until he finds someone else to sleep with and, if he's lazy and not looking to hard, you might be able to keep him weeks or even months but it's only because you're a convenience, you put out without requiring anything in return. If you were to start making demands on him, he'd be gone.

Answer 2

This one is a bit difficult to answer since I don't know how old you are. I, personally think a week is too soon to sleep with anyone unless you have known him or her for a number of years and are ready to take it to another level. Sometimes depending on a persons maturity and experience they are able to have sex earlier in a relationship based on instinct , personality and sense of character.
The question you need to ask yourself is why you needed to sleep with him so early in the relationship. Are you a confident person that just had a normal but very high attraction for this person that could not be stopped or are you a person with a low self esteem that hoped sleeping with this person would keep them tied to you longer than if you had decided not to ?
Was the attraction mutual or was it just sexual need on his side, was he gentle ,loving and wanting to talk after, or did he just say something that he thought you needed to hear and grabbed his clothes and left.
You having the need to ask this question should probably tell you how unsure you are on the choice you made. Which probably means that you already know the right answer.
I have a 21 year old daughter, and she went with her boyfriend for a year and a half , and before her 18 th birthday she asked me some questions about having sex. After her 18th I knew she had had sex with her boyfriend. They are still together and now they are making plans to move in together after he has finished his last year at college. I have told all my daughters the same thing, if they truly love you they will wait until you or both of you are ready to make that choice. If they make you feel pressured then it probably won't last or they really only want immediate satisfaction and nothing more.

Take care and be careful , this is not a safe decision to make with out knowing someone's medical history. The wrong choice can cause you your life and not just a steady boyfriend.

Sincerely ,
Mom of 3

Answer 3

Honestly, not much hun. (Unless he is one of the very few guys in the world who actually connect sex with real emotions like most women do - in which case you might actually end up wanting to get rid of him). However, most men certainly do not stick around for too long after they've had a taste of their catch! The sad thing about this usually is that if they leave too quickly, they don't really know what they are missing, because the best is usually still to come.

Just by the way though - would you really want him to stick around in the first place? I mean if you were really serious about this guy, you would not have jumped into bed so quickly, your common sense would have told you to play it safe incase there is the possibility of a future with him. The fact that you acted so quickly on lust, says to me that there isn't a whole hell of alot of emotion or even love involved here. So you know what - you be the one who leaves for a change. Enjoy the experience for what it was (good casual sex) and make a run for it, before you get too emotionally attached and end up getting hurt when he does leave.

Answer 4

Based on experience, there is a slim chance he might stick around for round 2 if you were really good in what you did in that weeks time. Maybe you'll have luck. Next time wait some more time and you def. won't be in doubt whether he'll stick around.

Answer 5

There must be a Gozillion factors that come into play in a situation like this. It all boils down to the guy. Is the guy looking for a relationship? Or is he just looking for a good time? Did he change his mind? Has he found another person ? etc. See what I mean ? All I can say is time will tell.

Answer 6

Statistically speaking, not too great. But times are changing. People are having sex sooner and there is no guarantee that one will stay even after not having sex. If he still calls you and shows interest, then maybe there's something there. If not, then I guess
it's probably not meant to be..

Answer 7

He got what he wonted and now everyone in school will know ONE WEEK ARE YOU NUTS now if you live throw the stigma of being a ho, the next thing is not to do it again until you out of HIGH SCHOOL and half way throw collage! I knew girls like you they think that it would get and keep a boy well it wont believe me a guy gets tired of all his friends saying what are you doing with her she is just a ho. And one day you will wake up and you are alone!!!

Answer 8

Depends on the guy and how genuine he is. I've done this too, and we're still together almost a year later. A lot depends on how old you are......it seems to me that sex is acceptable (and expected) a lot earlier the older you are, don't know why.
All you can do is wait and see, and if he doesn't, then he wasn't worth worrying about, chalk it up to experience and move on.

Answer 9

My last girlfriend and I had sex after only a week of going out and we stayed together almost a year. The only difference is that we were going out, so you could try asking him out, otherwise he is probably just looking for a quicke.

Answer 10

Depends on how old you are. If you are 16, probably not long. If older, maybe the chances are better. Personally, I would look at whether I wanted to be with you, not whether or not we had had sex....