She has seriously gone off the deep end. She listens to her 10 year old daughter when she is on the phone. She follows he ex and his wife places and takes pictures of them together. She has been divorced for 4 years but ever since she had her daughter her mental state got a lot worse. The things that she does on a daily basis aren't normal. This isn't just a once in awhile thing. She even wrote a message to her daughters step brother that said "F*** off", the boy is 8 years old. She thought that it was funny. She is 42 years old and doesn't have a lot of family she has a boyfriend that only comes around when the sun goes down, and I am her only friend. We work together and with about 700 other people and all I ever hear is how can you be around that psycho. Nobody ever says a good thing about her and to be honest the way she has been acting there isn't anything good to say. They call her Crack head K****. My question is can I do something to get her into a mental hospital??
2007-03-01 15:41:00 · 8 answers · asked by Charlie B 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
She is supposed to be on meds but wont take them for 2 reasons; becoming fat and she thinks she doesn't have a problem. Even her daughter's therapist tried to tell her she really needed help. About being violent she hasn't pysically hurt anyone (I think) but she does stuff to peoples cars and shows up on their porches unannounced punching their windows and kicking the door. She goes to the extreme when she gets angry. I just want my old friend back it's like something else has taken over her. I can't just leave her and move on because if something happened to someone or to herself (I believe it's very possible) I would blame myself. Thanks for all the answers.
2007-03-01 16:14:52 · update #1
She is supposed to be on meds but wont take them for 2 reasons; becoming fat and she thinks she doesn't have a problem. Even her daughter's therapist tried to tell her she really needed help.
About being violent she hasn't physically hurt anyone (I think) but she does stuff to peoples cars and shows up on their porches unannounced punching their windows and kicking the door. She goes to the extreme when she gets angry. I just want my old friend back it's like something else has taken over her. I can't just leave her and move on because if something happened to someone or to herself (I believe it's very possible) I would blame myself. Thanks for all the answers.
2007-03-01 16:16:28 · update #2
Since you both work at the same place and it employs a lot of people, you should go to Human Resources. This will not be betraying your friend but helping her. I cannot say for sure if they will intervene in anyway, she would have to be "incompetent" at her job for them to call in the white coats so to speak.
Your other option is to call children services---this is a tough one because they will take her daughter from her-- which from what you state, would truly be in her best interests- her mother is being a terrible role model.
Last resort, and may be your first option, get in touch with her ex on the QT. If he petitions to get custody of his daughter or he calls children services, the finger won't be pointing at you-- and you will be doing the right thing- she is his daughter too-
Her behavior is manic and her actions toward his child is so inappropriate- she really needs meds and mental counseling before she takes it to the next level--and that is violence which can be toward her, her ex, and her daughter.
Call children services and see if you can "anonymously" report her--if you are in a big city- you are practically out of luck-- by the time they respond it will be too late. If you live in a smaller city- you may have some luck going this route--I personally suggest calling the ex- her stalking and her manners toward his son around his daughter is horrible and he, as the rightful father, has a right to take action to protect his daughter.
good luck--you ARE a good friend---and please be there after the crap hits the fan on her.........she will need you.
2007-03-01 15:51:06 · answer #1 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe the best thing is to carefully broach the subject of couseling to her, in a non-judgmental way, like "it seems like you're really frustrated and unhappy-have you thought about seeing a counselor?" If she's not a danger to herself or others, there is nothing you can do to force her to go to the hospital.
From the point of view of someone who called 911 and had the police come, you don't want to do that unless there is no other way. The police can be abusive-they are not trained in mental health. Calling the police will almost certainly end your friendship. If she is threatening others, then you ethically must contact the police, if she is suicidal, persuasion is better.
I agree with the person who said that if she is draining you too much, you will have to give up this friendship. It's sad, but that's the way it is. She has to see that there is something wrong and make an effort to do something about it.
2007-03-01 15:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe she is a danger to herself or to others then yes you could possibly get her arrested/committed. To forcefully commit anyone the police must be involved. If you have any contact with the ex and his wife I would inform them of what is going on if they are not already aware and suggest they press charges. From what you described it doesn't seem like there is anything dangerous about this woman. If she does ever pose a physical threat to her daughter you should contact child services to report her, which I believe you can do anonymously. Other than that it is your call whether or not to continue befriending her. If her mental state is starting to wear down on your daily life it might be best to try not to be so involved.
Best of luck!
2007-03-01 15:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by artisdestiny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right now she is not a danger to herself or to others. unless she voluntarily seeks help no one will force her.
if i were you i would let the x and his family know what she is doing. they need to protect themselves with a restraining order. if she violates the order a judge may order her for an evaluation.
what I'm afraid of is that she may go off the deep end and go after him or his family with a weapon and really hurt someone!!! and if that happens and you haven't told them what she is up to you will feel responsible for the rest of your life!!!
also, i would call dcfs immediately and inform them of what she is doing. and last but not least you should distance yourself from this woman before she gets too much worse. she is a disaster waiting to happen and trust me it will happen!!! don't be amongst the people suffering in the fall out!!!
2007-03-01 16:09:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have to convince her that she needs help. You have to break down to each incident and let her know that those are not healthy behavior, but it's not her fault, she just needs help.
2007-03-01 15:54:53 · answer #5 · answered by sky4evergit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 01:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're over your head on this one, she sound like she can think for herself, just because nobody likes her (and i am sure you really don't either, you just feels sorry for her), it doesn;t mean that you have the right to judge her.
You should be ashame of yourself
2007-03-01 15:51:19 · answer #7 · answered by Scpwnz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe she just needs zoloft.
2007-03-01 15:51:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋