I can't come out and ask him if he's cheating. He will tell me no. So howcan I catch him. He has already called me his ex's name when he was asleep...
2007-03-01 15:37:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Steps:
Realize that if it's gotten to the point that you seriously suspect he's cheating, your relationship is already on thin ice.
Remember that honesty is the best policy. Talk about it. Don't try and catch him secretly. Just ask him up front. If he won't tell you the truth, then even catching him - ed won't save your relationship. Ask him to explain his whereabouts or whatever else is troubling you.
Don't take a simple yes or no answer.
Remind him that you've entrusted him with your heart, and how much he means to you. Tell him how proud you are of him and your relationship - how strong and honest it is. If he gets uneasy or quiet, he might be hiding something, and the guilt will eventually push him to the edge.
Tell him that you would never keep secrets from him, and mean it. Share with him a secret that you've kept from him; it might encourage him to admit any secrets he may be keeping, and will deepen your relationship.
Hiring a private investigator can be the easiest way to gain proper evidence, but can be very costly.
You can use spy software or monitoring programs to catch him in the act to get real evidence.
A friend of mine called her boyfriend knowing he was home. When he didn't pick up his phone, she borrowed his crush's cell to call him, and he picked up the phone. She dumped him.
Lesson learned, if you're really dumb enough to be cheating on someone, at least be smart enough to always pick up the phone.
Warnings:
Don't make accusations until you gather the proper evidence.
Private Eyes are expensive and probably not worth the money for non-marital relationship.
There is a risk if you follow him or invade his privacy. This may ruin the relationship even if he is not cheating.
2007-03-01 15:41:39 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I thought my bf was cheating I set him up. I had one of my best friends call him up and pretend to be some hot girl. You make it seem like this girl wants to date him and then either he will bring you up and say he has a gf or he will say yes where do you want to meet? if he says that tell him to meet the girl in a place and then he will bee "stood up" and you can confront him or do what you want.
good luck =)
2007-03-01 23:43:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in my case my best friend came out and told me she was cheating with my boyfriend well he was my ex but she knew i was still in love with him
2007-03-01 23:56:13 · answer #3 · answered by dani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so is his calling you another name in his sleep is all you have to go on? If you have other reasons to suspect, that would be helpful. you really don't have control over what you say in your sleep.
2007-03-01 23:44:14 · answer #4 · answered by land-pliskin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry i dont believe that is a good indicator that he is cheating --- trust him or it will become a self fulfilling prophecy --- best wishes
2007-03-01 23:43:27 · answer #5 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send a spy with him
2007-03-01 23:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stalk him and do some detective work... pretty easy
2007-03-01 23:41:00 · answer #7 · answered by Eva L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋