telling my parents i'm moving into a 1br apartment w/ my bf?

Question

I am a college student. I cant transfer to another school bc I have a good scholarship.Next year (Fall '07) I will be getting an apartment, but my mom can't really afford to help me out and my Dad just won't... at all. I have taken out loans and my grandparents have been helping me out tremendously but I really hate relying on them so much. I can't afford to pay for an apartment and utilities by myself and I can't take another loan out so it pretty much comes down to the fact that I HAVE to get a roommate!! My roommate for the last two years is moving away and so my boyfriend said he could move in and pay half (or more) of everything. It seems to be the only solution... My question is just how do I bring it up and tell my parents? I know they will freak out and my dad just wants me to take a roommate that I don't know... But I would rather do this because we have been together for about a year now and I have stayed with him for weeks at a time anyway. we are both 18 now, and will be 19

Okay, yes for those of you that are actually answering my question thanks. For those of you who are judging or saying it doesn't make sense... That's not what I'm asking you to do and I have thought it out and yes to me it makes sense. He has a good job and has even offered to pay for all of the rent, but I of course want to help him.

And in case you missed that part- I'M ALREADY PAYING FOR EVERYTHING BY MYSELF!! Thanks! People need to learn to read before responding.

Answer 1

That is a BAD IDEA to move in with your boyfriend.

Why would you do that?!

Why play house? Wait till you get married (AFTER COLLEGE) to move in together.

My parents told me if I want to get married and / or move in with my boyfriend, I'm going to have to pay for EVERYTHING (yes, college) all by myself... or have my boyfriend take that duty. LOL.

We've been friends for a long time before we started dating and we've been together for over a year. We both know damn well that moving in together so soon and getting married so soon is ridiculous. We're waiting till we're done with college and have good jobs to be financially stable before making such a big decision like moving in together and getting married.

You are so young. Don't do something like this. Do you seriously want to get tired of him ALREADY?!

Plus, your boyfriend will ALWAYS have something in his head that your whole situation is only temporary...... It doesn't matter WHAT he says or WHAT he does.... It's the truth... "This is only temporary...."

Don't make a move that's supposed to be permanent temporary. Wait till you get that damn ring and your "I do's" done and THEN move in together.

Answer 2

It's none of your dad's business unless he's willing to help out. While I think you're both a little young to be moving in together, it is probably better than having a roommate that you don't know at all. You should check out grants and low interest loans for low income students/families. There are more out there than you think. There are also loans with extremely low interest rates (Stafford, I think?) and the loans are deferred until after you graduate. Check into the additional loan situation and see if you can afford an apartment that way. And I know the dorms suck, but they are cheap.
If you do want to go ahead and move in with your boyfriend, then suck it up and tell your mother. If you're old enough to move in together, then you're old enough to tell your mother up front.
Lastly, make sure that you and your boyfriend have some sort of written agreement about bills, etc., and that you are both on the lease. You'd be amazed at how quickly a relationship can sour over proximity and money. You should both have an action plan for what you're going to do (who moves where, who gets what, who pays what, etc) just in case it doesn't work out. Better safe than sorry. Good luck.

Answer 3

There is no easy way to tell your parents. All parents like to protect their children for as long as they can. You are their baby in their eyes. Just tell them that the only solution to your problem is that your boyfriend is moving in and sharing the expenses. The will give you a hard time of course its only natural because they care. Who knows maybe your dad will come up with some money to help you out. If not eventually they will accept the fact that you are now living with your boyfriend. It will get easier. YOUR THEIR CHILD

Answer 4

1st: have your parents sit on the couch as you say, "mom. dad. i have something to tell you" take a couple of deep breathes and just quickly breeze through it. (You're on your own in this world, have a loving partner to help share the woos of college life and the bills that followed, etc.)
2nd: be honest and up front because u love them- their family
3rd: it's your life (u r an adult now) -if u feel that this is the best situation don't let anyone persuade you any other way. that's my advice and i hope i helped :)

Answer 5

well the main problem here is that you want to tell your parents. Well just simply tell them (when the time is right so you dont need to barge in your parent's home and say im really moving). Anyway see if your parents agree or disagree and what can you do about it.

Answer 6

That may be the worst reason to move in with a bf. You shouldn't do it for financial reasons because, if you're not ready for that much togetherness and sharing everything, it will end up ruining your relationship.

Answer 7

You are both of age so your parent will learn to live with it. I personally would not want to get a room mate I do not know because you never know she could be a murderer or something and one day you just may wake up dead.

Answer 8

It might seem convenient now but, you'll soon regret this decision because it will only confuse your relation with your boyfriend. And your parents of course would be be concerned because they love you and wants what's best for you. Just reconsider it.

Answer 9

If your parents can't afford to help you out. I don't see what they can do but get mad. Just don't come home with a baby without a husband.

Answer 10

Doesn't make financial sense to me.