ok so, my boyfriend is a very jealous person... and he doesnt like me talking to guys period....but especially not his friends. well...a few weeks ago me and my boyfriend were having a lot of problems and i was really upset... so i messaged his best friend on myspace just for advice.. i knew that my boyfriend would get very very angry with me if he knew.. so i just kept it from him.. and his friend said that he wouldnt say anything either.....i just wanted to help our relationship..i wasnt trying to do anything behind his back.. but today his friend said something to him and he's very very angry & hurt, just like i knew he would be.... and i know that i shouldnt have done it especially when i know he'd be mad.. but i do love him so much..and i was trying to fix us..i apologized so many times... i know i lost his trust..i would do anything to get it back....i dont wanna lose him over this after we've been through so much..what do i do?
2007-03-01 15:18:59 · 9 answers · asked by lolomgwtf 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont mind that he's that jealous.......i'm very jealous also......so it levels out
2007-03-01 15:29:40 · update #1
If he can't understand that you were trying to fix your relationship, and just reaching out for advice, then he is way too jealous and controlling. I mean, maybe you should have told him, "I'm going to talk to your friend for some advice," before...if he's THAT controlling of you talking to his friends...but I dunno. He sounds just way too jealous. But of course that means he really really likes you...but still, if he is that overbearing, you need to talk everything through with him. If he doesn't change, and isn't willing to listen to you at all, that's a sure sign that more problems will come...and that he has too many issues to be worthy of being with you. You sound like a nice girl...don't let some guy like this control your life. If he really cares for you, he'd listen to you, and let you talk to and make friends with whoever you want.
Good luck and best wishes =)
2007-03-01 15:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by live4ever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him a few days to cool off. Don't contact him at all, because the more u try right now, the more mad he will get. It will be hard, but give him space to clear his head.
Maybe u should also think about why he is that jealous. It is not healthy to be that jealous of any one. Eventually you will feel suffocated and want out. I've been there, I know.
Be patient, and if he really loves u, he will come to u.
2007-03-01 15:27:34 · answer #2 · answered by TNP Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
insecure guys who are feeling inferior inside will get especially mad when he knows that u talk behind his back with his friend. it's like an great humiliation to him and he wish he could kill his friend in which he can't , his ego is hurt and the only way he can vent on his anger is on YOU. Please be a dear and listen to me, get away from him asap. It is not about his trust, it's his own ego's and there is no love from him. you don't want to lose him after being thru' so much? there are more to go thru' if u stay on... Life is short, WHy bother fixing on only one guy who obviously don't appreciate you? Good luck....
2007-03-01 15:33:17 · answer #3 · answered by Nui Nui 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is this guy your boyfriend? He is controlling. He gets mad or angry at small things. Nobody needs that kind of drama. Get rid of it.
2007-03-01 15:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by sherockstn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the best thing for you to do is tell him the complete truth tell him that what you and him have is wonderful and all you wanted to do is keep it. Also dont forget to remind him that you are his and no one can take that away from you.
It would good to gethi friend to tell the truth soon he should forgive GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-01 15:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes being way too controlling. you need to get it through to him somehow.
2007-03-01 15:23:59 · answer #6 · answered by Monkey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of the guy. he obviously doesn't trust you
2007-03-01 15:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lose him...if he takes s*hit out on you...just find a new guy...he is a jerk...you can do better..he doesn't deserve you
2007-03-01 15:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by hey_thanks_you_guys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please dump its not worth it !
2007-03-01 15:30:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋