there's this guy ive been like a "thing" with for about 4 mo. and inbetween that there was this one girl he started liking while we were together but he he totally got over it. then like a couple months later (lke a month ago) he started liking her again and he like ended things with us and he was with her but nothing happened & then we got together again. (stupid on my part)
well now recently i found out this guy about a year and a half older than me likes me and weve gotten a lot closer, and the first guy i was with is totally upset and now i have two guys and dont know which to be with.
a part of me wants to give this new guy, who was always my friend, a chance. hes nice and funny and we really understand each other. but a part of me cant get over the other guy i was/am with, even tho he really hurt me.. twice. i cant let him go but im afraid of getting hurt again even tho he assures me it wont happen again.
my heart wants to be with him, but mind tells me i shouldnt.
2007-03-01 15:13:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen to your mind. Its right beside your ears. To listen to your heart, you will need a stethoscope.
2007-03-01 15:20:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be stupid. Of course it will happen again, the moment another girl starts showing interest he'll be off like a greyhound after a rabbit. Lose the loser and give this other guy a chance, after all, he's never hurt you before.
Take things slowly with this new guy and eventually you'll realise you didn't love your boyfriend, you were holding onto hope and dreams of a perfect relationship with him.
2007-03-01 23:20:25 · answer #2 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok girl, it will be hard but you have to let go of the old guy. He was not looking out for you all those times that he hurt you. It sounds to me he treated you like a backup plan. Now it is time to look out for you. You are your main concern right now. Give that new guy a chance. You may be missing out on your dream guy because you do not realize your potential. I believe in God and I do not believe that He would let you settle. I believe that if you go back to that guy you may be missing out on your blessing (dream guy). Love and life is all about taking risks, and trusting yourself to make the best and not the safest decisions. And if you do make the wrong decision you have to love yourself enough to forgive yourself and move on. You said that guy has always been there and that is what you want most, so don't settle. Claim your blessing and don't look back. You sound like you have a good man waiting for you, and if you keep going back to the old guy, the new one might not want to keep waiting for you. Claim what you deserve, look out for #1, love yourself and trust yourself.
2007-03-01 23:26:05 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley The Princess! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like all you have to do is wait a bit and guy #1 will find another girl, again, and then you will have your "out" and not feel bad about starting a relationship with guy #2. I would wait and if that doesn't happen, dump him. I wouldn't try doing both at once though. Too much hassle and drama.
2007-03-01 23:20:38 · answer #4 · answered by NORTH WEST 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your mind. If he hurt you, leave him. This new guy seems great. Your heart can really get you into trouble if you let it choose for you. Use your logical mind. The nice one you just met right? Go for him! I don't think you'll be dissappointed!
2007-03-01 23:21:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the new guy! The old guy has no reason to be upset! Now he should know how it feels to be left like that! Besides, if that guy left you twice, he definatly will do it again!
2007-03-01 23:18:05 · answer #6 · answered by ★☆キザ☆★ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you learned your lesson? GET RID OF GUY #1!!!. He will make sure you don't go with the new guy and then he will dump you again. You need to use your head on this one.
2007-03-01 23:18:03 · answer #7 · answered by sherockstn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You owe it to yourself to give the new guy a try. He will help you forget you old love. Anyone who is supposed to love you and still does you wrong is someone you don't need.
2007-03-01 23:20:10 · answer #8 · answered by GoodGuy53 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just not that into you if he keeps dating other women. Doesn't sound all that nice to me. Listen to your body part with the brain.
2007-03-01 23:17:33 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mind
2007-03-01 23:15:59 · answer #10 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋