2007-03-01 15:11:41 · 23 answers · asked by regaroo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Now im sure to get thumbs down for this but it truly depends on how you both interact with each other, how do you feel about him ,does he feel the same, im asking because when me and my husband met i honestly felt like i knew him always and he felt the same. we knew each other for 3mnths before we got engaged but we did wait a yr before we were married and are still as happy and loving as can be!! but we talk alot in my opinion if you can talk about anything and talk even when your angry then it can work. i wouldnt get married yet but nothings wrong with being engaged. hope everything stays great and your both happy!!! ps. just remeber a marriage is work you have to constantly work at it.
2007-03-01 15:24:17 · answer #1 · answered by sunkissedpei 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two things: I wouldn't recommend that anyone get married after knowing each other for only three months. No matter how well you think you "know" each other, you really don't. You're still in the "honeymoon phase" (pardon the phrase) where you haven't had to face any obstacles yet. For instance, where would you live? Do either of you want to go to/finish college? Would you both work? How would your children be raised? What is your financial status? How do you each handle stress? Are you of the same religion? With who's family do you spend the holidays? This is just the tip of the iceberg on things you must know.
Second, if everyone you know is against it, they are most likely on to something, if nothing else than they don't think you've known each other long enough. Those closest to us can see things we cannot when we are blinded by love (or lust, as the case may be). Take things slow and if it's meant to be, then a year from now you'll still be crazy about each other and have a much better chance of having a successful marriage. Good luck.
2007-03-01 23:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know people are fixing to call me nuts.. but I DON"T CARE! I met my husband Sept. 26, 2005. We went out on first date Oct. 1, 2005. We were engaged Oct. 24, 2005. We were then married Jan. 14, 2006. I felt like I knew him my whole life. We could talk about anything. We both just knew that we were perfect for one another. He is my soul mate and I am his. I love him more than absolutely anything. I've never been this happy in my life. We have been married over a year now and things are only getting better and better every single day. I say if you love her/him and you both want to get married, forget everyone else and do it! So what if it has only been 3 months. If you and your partner are ready for the next step, take it. My parents dated for 5 years before they married. My mother was miserable for 27 years before she finally divorced my dad. No one knows what the future will hold... whether you date 3 months or 3 years!
By the way... everyone except our parents were against us at first, but now they realize we made the right decision.
2007-03-02 00:43:32 · answer #3 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say.... You definitly wanna make sure that it's not just the excitement of a new relationship. But my boyfriend and I decided that we should move in together after 3 months. we didn't actually move in until 10 months. But it's been almost 2 years and things are perfect.
My uncle dated a lady for 2 weeks before they got married and I think it's been atleast 3 years for them and they're a perfect match.
It really depends on the people.
I think this is something that you need to decide.
Is there a need to rush?
I think "everyone" who is against it is just nervous because of the short time frame. But make sure that they're not seeing some side of her that you're not seeing. Sometimes love is blind at first..
Good luck in love!!
2007-03-01 23:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by Dana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 months isn't a very long time to know someone. It's very hard to find out all about a person in that amount of time. What's the hurry, there is nothing wrong with taking your time to find out all about the person you are considering marrying. What if after 1 year you find out that you guys really weren't all that compatible after all, would getting a divorce be no big deal to you? It really doesn't matter what everyone else says, you just have to know in your heart, but take your time with this person and slow it down a little.
2007-03-01 23:41:03 · answer #5 · answered by Kristal E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have know people that have gotten married after 1 month. They are still married and they are going on 12 years. I know another couple that have been together 5 years. They have to talk about several topics before that can happen like what they are both looking for in the future...the obvious marriage, kids, jobs, families, religion, and locations. They should really talk about this and make sure they aren't doing it because others don't want them to, because they are scared of being alone, a baby, and living together. Just make sure you think before you jump.
2007-03-01 23:25:09 · answer #6 · answered by brezzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three months is not enough to know someone well enough to marry them. It works for some people no doubt about it, but you should always take time to get to know someone. Another thing is that if there is only one or two people against it, then there might be nothing to it, but if a huge majority of everyone you talk to about this subject has doubts and expresses concern, then you might want to heed their advice.
I would not recommend marrying someone whom you have known for less than two years, plus at least a one year engagement period.
2007-03-01 23:21:25 · answer #7 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! From personal experience I can tell you not to get married that soon. Not necissarily because of how others feel, but because it is too soon. (allthough sometimes other people can see tendincies or things develop that you may not notice)If you two fell in love at first sight, good be in love but not married. You dont know the real person after that long. Give it time. You can always get married. No need to rush it. And personal advise would be not to live with the person for a while longer either. hope this helps a little
2007-03-01 23:19:52 · answer #8 · answered by hlind28 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The average couple marry after 1-2 years of dating you don't know someone well after 3 months because there's things you havent gotten to know about someone before 6 months has passed. I would be against it if you married after 3 months since the chances of the marriage lasting is very slim.
2007-03-01 23:15:08 · answer #9 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on alot of things. Age would be a huge factor. Why do you think "everyone" is against the idea? Do they see something in her that you don't? Can you see yourself getting old with her? Could you take care of her after you've been married for 50 years and she has a stroke? Lots to think about, my dear. Pray about it, and ask your pastor to pray also. I know many people who get married after just a short while, and most are still happily married many years later.
2007-03-02 06:17:33 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs.Fine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i wouldn't u really cant get to know everything about a person in 3 months. i would suggest to get the know the person and if u 2 are still in love then marry. what would happen if u married this person and in a couple of months u realize this is not the person for u marrage is alot easier than getting a divorce
2007-03-01 23:51:10 · answer #11 · answered by me&me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋